I have a social phobia. I go out everyday and I talk to a lot of people and my anxiety just doesn't go away

Question

what is wrong with me. Everysingle time that I talk to a person I feel like they will criticize and tell me my flaws. The reason why I think that is because it has happened to me before. When I am nice to people they usually will speak their mind and say some stupid comment or something offensive.

Answer 1

Symptoms of social anxiety and/or generalized anxiety disorder can be lessened with anti-anxiety medication. For all of you who said you feel like this, go see your doctor! You shouldn't have to feel this way.

Hope this helps!

Answer 2

There are a whole lot of people with social anxiety. Expecting to become a different person (someone who doesn't care what people say or think about them) is just putting unrealistic pressure on yourself. Give yourself some credit for contining to make attempts despite your fears. It's natural to feel uncomfortable doing something that everyone else takes for granted - just communcating with others, taking part in the give and take that is social interaction. You may never get over it, it may never go away totally, but you can learn to accept it and roll with it, over time. And nobody will care what you've achieved, or give you credit for the effort is takes - your only "prize" will be that you get to keep being a participant in life. There will always be others that don't accept you, that criticise you. Even if you were a (fictional!) person with no flaws at all, some people would put you down anyway, for sport, for petty reasons of their own.

Answer 3

You don't have a social phobia because you still interact with other people in social situations. It sounds more like you have just had too many bad experiences that have, in turn, led you to believe you're going to get negative reactions from people. The fear of rejection and criticism is a charcteristic of Avoidant Personality Disorder--it doesn't sounds like you have a personality disorder though. I suggest you try some Cognitive restructuring; stop yourself from thinking you're going to be criticized by "catching" the negative thought ("they're going to say I'm stupid") and replace it with something more positive, like "I'm not stupid and they're not going to say I am." Good luck!

Answer 4

The problem is ur thinking ur being nice to people, So U must had expected that people will do same to U.
But U are WRONG. u are not honest either with urself or others.

Now U must act more spontaneously, don't think U r being nice to other (speak what ever U want), U just be urself even if u feel urself is Evil. When people talk ill to U, talk ill to them back. Unlock 'the mask of nice will ya' coz peoples got irritated(feel like someone underestimate them) when they see the mask or any mask, that is why they counter U with "supid comment'.

I'm sorry if my comment is too hard. But I had met peoples with this kind of problem and it did irritated me much.

Answer 5

I've actually had this problem from the age of 7-12, what happen was that some kids, sometimes called the school gang, had always made offensive comments on how I look, dressed, acted, spoke, danced, etc. What i had learn is that (well it worked for me) I had bathed with hot water at first, then before you get out of the shower, turn the water onto cold, and pour it onto the back of your neck

Answer 6

i have the same thing. i always feel inferior to people. even tho i am a professional in education, i feel this way when i meet new people or even when i talk to the ones i already know. it's hard to deal with, but i know i am not ignorant, so i guess that helps. i feel much more at ease with my kindergarten kids and my 7 dogs.

maybe this also comes from being divorced, and not having any close friends. i miss the closeness of an intellectual talk that others get.

i don't know . just do the best you can. good luck

Answer 7

I have the same sort of thing only Im not afraid people criticize me, Im more afraid of making a mistake and therefore being less superior to the person Im talking to, and that thought really ticks me off, so its better to say nothing at all than risk being put in a inferior position. Its tough though....to deal with.

Answer 8

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Answer 9

You have a problem with negative thinking. You need to stop yourself everytime you start thinking that way and replace the bad thoughts with good ones. Eventually the negative thoughts will mostly go away.

Answer 10

Everyone thinks that. You are not alone. I think that all the time. Don't worry if you tell a good friend who goes through the thick and thin with you they will say that they have the same problem. Atleast all my best best best friends say that.