My husband was a great guy. We got married 1and1/2 yrs ago. Since then, he's not been so nice. He's angry about something, but I don't know what and neither does he. Now he wants to move saying that will solve everything. I don't believe that. Do I stick w/ this or do I go? Moving will mean I give up my job and I am distanced from family and friends. I have a daughter to consider also.
2006-11-16 09:45:00 · 17 answers · asked by nynasethi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Maybe your family is intimidating him since you got married and thats why he wants to move you away.Who knows ask him that and tell him it won't hurt you but you need to know what his prob is.He knows what his prob is but is scared to tell n the only reason i say that is because he said moving would solve his problem which means he knows what it is.
2006-11-16 09:53:38 · answer #1 · answered by too4barbie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would start with the doctor trip, ask him to go see what the problem is. It sound's like depression if he doesn't know. It sound's like he has a problem.
If this isn't it, then I would suggest a counselor, maybe for both of you, it wouldn't hurt.
Normal people just don't get up and move from their environment unless there's a problem.
We moved, lock, stock and barrel but, that was due to work shortages in the area and a job proposal, for both of us, it, by the way was for the best but there was nothing for us where we were, that's different.
I definitely would not move. Tell him to go, I had my friend do this and, my brother. They both moved, got jobs, got settled then sent for their families after they were situated and going strong, they had something to offer, somewhere to go, a job, a place to live.
Do not be stupid. Stay with a relative while he goes and gets settled, if anything else. Good luck
2006-11-16 18:01:48 · answer #2 · answered by cowboydoc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds controlling. Controlling people usually end up being abusers. If he's going to move also, without your approval or input on how you feel, I would move on. If you stay, you're going to be miserable and the divorce will only get uglier as time goes on as he may try to get you for every penny you've got! Good Luck!
2006-11-16 17:51:36 · answer #3 · answered by Mom of One in Wisconsin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Moving will NOT make it better. Moving is a stressful thing to do through, and if you're already having problems, that additional stress will NOT help. Try counseling to work through his anger. You've got to get at the root of it - it won't magically disappear on it's own. good luck!
2006-11-16 17:49:50 · answer #4 · answered by sassybree1979 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When i asked this ? i found that he wanted to move because he cheated on me and did not want me to find out and he was angry all the time at everything and everybody. but he was really only mad at him self for doing what he did! I left him in feb. There are so many answers to this but u'll know the answer or already do its in ur heart!
2006-11-16 18:01:46 · answer #5 · answered by maamdus 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Moving will not help anything he will still have his anger and anything else whereever he goes if he doesn;t realize he must fix what's going on with him before making any changes to his living arrangements then maybe its time for you to leave because this just may be a start of things becoming worse.
2006-11-16 18:00:49 · answer #6 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before going to the misery of moving, ask him to go to the doctor for a physical. There may be some health issue that is causing his bad moods. He may also need to be put on antidepressants for a while until he starts to feel better.
2006-11-16 17:49:16 · answer #7 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you saying he don't know why he's angry. do you believe that? what he won't tell you why he wants to leave . have look close. is it other women, drugs, to much drinking read some of Dr. Laura Schlessinger books. like Ten Stupid Things Couples Do to mess Up Their Relationships .and other good one is The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands. there easy reading. most book stores carry them.
2006-11-16 18:09:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not go as you are about to give up too much positive things in your life & your child's, for something even he does not know if it will help or not. Don't alienate yourself for him, as it may turn out to be not worth it.
Also, check with your daughter make sure nothing is going on with her. He may want to alienate both of you for reasons you are oblivious to. This happened to a friend of mine.
2006-11-16 17:53:11 · answer #9 · answered by OZzY MoTo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A move needs to be a mutual thing. And if he is destressed over something he needs to share it with you. You guys are a team.
There needs to be some reason of why he is like this. Some guys can't express their emotions, but sometimes they just need to do it. or they will lose what they got
2006-11-16 17:51:36 · answer #10 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋