This is a long narrative, but please tell me who you think was at fault. Mature answers only.?

Question

My boyfriends car broke down yesterday just like it always does and he had to go to a new job to fill out paperwork today. He didn't come right out and ask me to take him, but he hinted around and pretended he had no other options. I offered to take him although I did have plans that I ended up having to cancel to that he could go to this job.
We get in the car and he tells me the approx. address of the job. I didn't know exactly where it was at, but I knew it was on the southside of our town so I got on the freeway and started heading that way. Later, after driving for about 10 minutes, I ask him what exit I should get off on and he says that he doesn't know why I took the route I took. I told him that I didn't really know where I was going. He continued to say absolutely nothing and looked out the window. I made another wrong turn and he then tells me again, I went the wrong way. I once again told him I didn't know where I was going and that I needed his directions.

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At this point, he then begins to just point where I should turn...Never once opening his mouth to say "turn left" or "turn right"...So now, I'm watching the road and looking for his hand gestures...I made it clear that I didn't understand most of his hand signals and would like him to just speak insead...No, he chooses to continue gesturing...At one point, I end up driving past his job because instead of him saying, "turn here" he just pointed and once I drove past, he said "you were supposed to turn there." At this point I was fed up and yelled that he has a mouth and should have been using it because this whole time, I was lost and he did not speak up. I then went to make a U-turn and ended up getting a flat tire because I ran up on the curb...I'm not blaming him for the flat, but he's saying it's all my fault that it took us so long to get to his job and that I should have known where I was going. He is ignoring the fact that I stated 3 times I didn't know where I was going.

What do you think? We are both adults.

By the way, no I didn't get gas money...I won't let him drive my car and later when I brought up how he acted as if I was his only hope during our argument, he said he could have taken a cab. I of course yelled that I wish he would have did that in the first place and if he would get a reliable car, his car wouldn't break down all the damn time. I don't plan on speaking to him for awhile. Especially because he doesn't think that any of this was his fault.
He did offer to change the tire, but I was so upset that I told him I didn't need his help and I did it myself.

Answer 1

sorry I didn't get to read more, I think you need to advise your boy friend that you failed miserably at mind reading, and in future he is going to have be very clear about what he need you to do, and if explicit instructions are not forth coming, no action will be taken and he is on his own , where he should have been mature enough to be in the first place

Answer 2

WOW! Sounds like you did not just have your hands full with your boyfriend, but with your driving. First of all - thank God it was just a flat tire and nothing more serious (like an accident). Good job keeping calm (somewhat) and controling your anger.

Now -as for your boyfriend. There seems to be something wrong with him. Is he scared of you? Are you the dominant one in the realationship? it sounds like - he's afraid to speak up for himself because you might get upset with him. Maybe it's a 'pride' thing. He might feel like a loser, he has no car, no job, probably no money and now he has to rely on his girlfriend to make time out of her busy schedule to take him to this job.

On one hand - he should feel lucky that you are there for him and are willing to help him. That whole car 'silence' thing is very confusing. I don't understand that. You need to take him somewhere, sit him down and have a heart to heart with him.

Find out 'why' he did that and anythingb else you might see as a problem with the relationship. I'm sure there are a lot of things you two will talk about.

If he refuses - dump him. You don't deserve all that drama.

All the best,

Wiseguy

Answer 3

wow. this is a classic example of lack of communication. I'm betting this is also a classic example of a typical problem in your relationship. When people hint around at what they want, or state something that they need and/or want and expect you to just offer to do it, it's a sign of an immature, insecure and potentially manipulative and passive aggressive person. Your boyfriend should have been very clear and direct and asked you for a ride, and acknowledged that he knew it was an inconvenience for you. Then, he should have had more than a general idea about where he had to go (it is HIS job, after all) and not expected you to use your psychic abilities to get there.

Answer 4

He was wrong the guy could have atleast given you directions while your driving. He sounds a bit like a loser I kinda kope he missed his job interview. He should have atleast had the decencey to ask for a drive and offer to put gas in and apologize for screwing up your plans really he never heard of a taxi. Really he sounds like someone you would do better without. I hope he atleast gave you some money for gas for taking your car and you on a wild goose chase.

Answer 5

well, yea i gotta vote for you on this one, but mind you, i'm not hearing his side of the story.....seems like the whole thing started out bad and got worse. i agree, he should have told you at least where he thought you should exit, even if he didn't know for sure either. and the hand gesture thing, trying to watch someone talk with their hands can be frustrating, let alone on a fee way, in a stressful situation. but try to cut each other some slack, sometimes no one is to blame...just circumstances.

Answer 6

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Answer 7

You boyfriend was at fault, but you also ran to his rescue and it backfired. I suppose if he doesn't get the job he'll blame you for not handling his transportation properly. I have the feeling he's kind of a loser and blames everyone else for his problems. You're at fault for trying to fix them.

Answer 8

i think u should've been more aggresive with the fact that u don't know where you were going befor even getting in the vehicle but dats minor.....for dude to react like dat is crazy....u were doin him the favor....and im sorry to go off subject a bit....but r u the lauren london from ATL?.....cuz if u are.......make dude wait a lil longer then u planned.....there's plenty of guys dat would love to change ur tire....lol.

Answer 9

ok sweeti, forget his but . just kick his ole broke down, ragedy car, having *** to the same curb that gave you a flat tire and be done with it. next time get a man with an up to date car so it does not break down and you don't have to be the TAXI.

Answer 10

Next time tell him to find another way around and to get a more reliable vehicle. Men can just be jerks, unfortunately.