I am Muslim, my boyfriend is Hindu. My parents won't let us get married unless he converts. He said he'd just say or go through it so we could get married. My father told him to tell his parents, and then went to his parents about it. His father is totally against it, and thinks there is a middle ground, that we should jsut get married as we are. I was accepted to Columbia, and my boyfriend moved there to be with me through it, but now I'm not going until I'm married becuase my parents won't let me. Both parents now want to see us married but my father won't let us do it until the bf converts.
To add tothis craziness, I'm 24, and he is 27. Im sitting on my butt waiting.... Help!
2006-11-16 09:43:12 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What exactly do you mean by "let you." I think you are giving your father too much power over your life decisions. Is he threatening to withhold financial support? Telling you that he will disown you?
I was raised in a Christian home (although I now consider myself agnostic). I met and fell in love with a Jewish man. My father, too, told me my partner would have to convert to Christianity before he would approve of my marrying him (even though we have not especially talked about getting married and I don't care about his religious background/beliefs). I finally got to the point where I told my dad that he was welcome to his own opinions, but he would ultimately suffer if he distanced himself from me because of my personal relationship.
I stopped letting my dad have any mental control over my life, and we are both better for it.
2006-11-16 09:56:57 · answer #1 · answered by anotherboringday 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have fear of Allah and understand Islam well then u would not do it. If the guy loves you then he will be able to do anything for you. If you were smart enough in first place you wouldnot get into this. And maybe you could have tried to explain him about Islam and convienced him to convert. And you might want to talk to your dad and explain him what rewards you will get for converting a guy to muslim and the benefits it holds. so think it over and do Istikhara and see what happens. make dua and do what you think is best. But Fear Allah because this life is nothing because you have to deal with hereafter and the punishments are not something you want to look forward to. May Allah help you.
2006-11-16 10:04:24 · answer #2 · answered by hajira 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
one word. ALOPE!! I know you love your parents, but they shouldn't have this kind of control on two adults! You two know what you want. If your parents can't see you happy because of their own beliefs, then they will have to deal with it in the long run. Good luck at Columbia!
2006-11-16 09:53:06 · answer #3 · answered by toothfairy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are legal.... maryy him. sometimes you HAVE to go against what you family wants
2006-11-16 09:45:45 · answer #4 · answered by tigweldkat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋