do you feel more loved by other people than your family?

Question

those of you who know what I mean, pl. write about your experience

thanx

Answer 1

I am divorced, and my ex wife was horrid. I was married way too young; I had just turned 18, I wish someone had tried to stop me. My father left when I was only 8; so I didn't feel much love from him. My mother has been the one constant in my life. But I can definitely relate to feeling closer to unrelated friends than family.

Answer 2

Definitely -- I went through a short disaster of a marriage to an Abusive, violent, mentally ill ex-spouse. Then ... I ended up raising the children myself -- and they inherited the genetic mental illnesses of the ex's family line -- as well as having NO support from the Ex because he was a Deadbeat Dad.

After showing them how to live within society and within the law (And it was MY hard work that EARNED the home I live in and raised them in, put the food on the table, the clothes on their back and paid for the utilities and luxuries), an Adult Child willingly helped my Ex-Spouse of approximately a Decade and Half AFTER the divorce BURGLARIZE MY HOME -- and due to the Grace of God (plus common sense and a cell phone because I instinctively felt SOMETHING was WRONG) --- I am STILL ALIVE and breathing another day.

The only ones who helped me in this time of trial were my siblings -- we, the siblings, buried our parents as very young adults, and have remained close for our entire lives.

So yes, I've not been cared for by EITHER the Ex or my adult children (and the other stood by and watched the burglary happen and said nothing).

I've been CARED for by my Siblings, and the couple of people who actually took the time to listen to and take the Police Report (and actually open a case) about the Burglary.

Answer 3

Yes. I feel loved by my coworkers who appreciate what I do for them and by my contacts from the staffing agencies. I am a temp right now and when I did find my position, my contact person from OfficeTeam wanted me to always email her and keep in touch with her with how my new position was going. Now that I am back unemployed, I am back working with her. She cares if I land a job and be a successful person working in an office environment one day even though I have to register for other staffing agencies for work. My family doesn't want me to work in an office. My dad was the only working member in the household and he told me to work in a retail environment and so do my brothers. They thought of me (since I am a female) can't ever be a success. We all need money, so how is working in a retail environment a lot of money? Last year, when I had no experience working whatsoever except filing , no agency would help me find work. Anyway, I tried to apply for the retail stores for holiday help and the managers looked at me like I am some kind of weirdo. They knew I didn't belong in that environment. Gloomy people doesn't belong in a retail environment. Whoever heard of a business wanting to lose customers? Besides the retail environment isn't the work week that I am happy in which is to work Mon-Friday a 40-hr work week . That work schedule is my dream, but my family destroyed that dream since jobs are now scarce. I have roommates who know that I don't belong in that work environment. So, it is other people who love me because they want me to be happy in where I work at. Only my sister loves me in my family.

Answer 4

Sometimes it seems my family doesn't love me...My mom used to scream at me and get me in trouble a lot. My dad would do the same. I figured my brother could comfort me a little bit..He's 19..but he didn't care. I grabbed my wallet..with $200, and went out the door and started walking. I then realized that what I had to do was change my attitude, and that my parents would call the cops and have everyone searching for me. I came back. I changed my attitude, and everythig is going better.

Answer 5

God yes. All my family does is abuse and criticize me. I have friends who encourage me and stand by me when i make mistakes. My parents keep reminding me of my mistakes (still doing it from 10 years ago) I have strangers who treat me better than family.