I've been comparing the way the two men in my life use their lips & tongue to get me aroused, & no doubt about it, my lover is the runaway winner. i think this is why he gives me unforgettable orgasm after unforgettable orgasm when we're making love, while my husband struggles to keep me awake. Oh, why are husbands always boring their wives? That's why you can't blame many wives who stray (& i believe all wives does at least once in their lives) because secret lovers always give them what they need & deserve. Husbands we need for the material & financial, but lovers we want for the emotional & sexual. But is this natural for married women? I mean, my husband's a good man, but i think i crave my lover more. i'm at the height of excitement/arousal whenever my lover's around, even if my husband's also with me at that same time! in fact, i wanna have sex with my lover right there & then, i f only my husband won't get hurt... why so?
2006-11-16 09:18:34 · 36 answers · asked by Yvette R 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Don't compare your skanky self to all married women. We don't all cheat and your husband deserves a HELL of a lot better than you. Your a tramp!!!
2006-11-16 09:20:20 · answer #1 · answered by HereweGO 5 · 10⤊ 2⤋
Well - from the lovers point of view (I am one recently) I don't really understand why a woman would after 12 years of marriage stay with a man that she is no longer in love with, I am sure that if she gave the lover a chance he would be able to be the complete man she wants. Sometimes people just simply grow apart and I found (from experience) that when you start out young, and stay together for so long, the relationship becomes a routine. When you reach your peak (mid 30's to mid 40's), you want something far deeper than "oh he is just my friend (husband role) - woman want to grow even deeper and more. Men generally just get bored and sometimes roam. Anyway - the point is, she wont leave unless he is abusive and mean to her... he wont give up cuz its too easy just to stay... so a co-dependent relationship starts and that is the start of the end.... time is the best teacher.....
When my girl and I kiss, it sends electricity thru BOTH of us... maybe its the thrill of someone OTHER than the husband actually wanting her? It's very deep and woman loves to be wanted - BY THE RIGHT GUY - and when they find them - watch out - its a July 4th every day together!!! Maybe the husband should take notes!!!
2006-11-16 09:29:04 · answer #2 · answered by ? 1 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I think it's probably the fact that you're just bored with your husband. It's always more exciting to have something that's forbidden in some way. That's why young people smoke and drink when they may not old enough to. If you respect your husband and are brave enough you could try discussing it with him personally.
2006-11-16 09:23:32 · answer #3 · answered by Robin H 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
things sometimes taste better when theyre off limits, but remember u are still new to your lover...i'm sure your husband was all that in the beginning too & thats why u married him!!!! in a marriage there will always be someone else who u will probably be attracted to from time to time but be careful because it might not be worth u losing your good man for a hot fling..i can feel your pain but make sure u are ready to handle divorce because alot of people eventually get caught....its also easier for your lover to please u because he knows what arent getting at home..try telling your husband what feels good to u...and reward him when he gets it right...who knows, u might be able to turn that old spark with your husband into a full-fledged fire!!!!!!!!!
2006-11-16 09:26:55 · answer #4 · answered by truth4u 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It so hard to keep the romance alive when married and the new lover is fresh and exciting and soon he will be old and dull.
If you want to keep you love alive you have to work hard to keep romance alive.
Try secretsinlace.com and work hard with your husband as you do with your lover and keep things fresh
2006-11-16 09:29:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes, when people are uncomfortable with their sexuality, if they're even sexual at all, they call other women who enjoy themselves tramps. I wouldn't take offence if I were you, I'd just feel sorry for them.
Anyway, I think it's hotter because we all want what we don't have. When my guy and I were broken up for a while, he kissed me, and it automatically got me aroused...I think it was so sexual because it was something I didn't have at the time.
Grant it, my sex life has never been better, I'll never forget that kiss.
2006-11-16 09:28:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Because you married the wrong man for yourself maybe? or because your husband got comfortable and no longer feels like he has to try and win you over? I think that once couples get into the comfort zone sex life goes out of the window. I just hope that my fiance and I won't have that problem.
2006-11-16 09:22:32 · answer #7 · answered by wantstoknow 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
You gave up on your husband? So it's your husband's fault that he's boring and you cheat on him?
That's complete bull. You don't need a lover for anything. You MARRIED your husband. Congrats! You just destroyed your marriage and your husband's life. Congrats! You're going to be a cheater for the rest of your life!
The fact is that one you stepped out and cheated on your husband, you became selfish. You really DON'T care about whether or not your husband gets hurt. How do I know?
BECAUSE YOU CHEATED!
My husband is FAR from boring, and maybe had you TALKED to your husband you could have been able to get more spice from him.
Good job joining the rest of the 50% of couples who get a divorce!
2006-11-16 09:21:28 · answer #8 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 6⤊ 3⤋
Because you have no morals! You are not worthy of your husband, much less to be his wife! You are being used in such a big way and you think that the immediate pleasure is more valuable then your eternity! GROW UP!
2006-11-16 09:23:36 · answer #9 · answered by believer 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
sounds to me like you are a whore that is just waiting to come out of her shell. I have been with my husband for 8 years and I can HONESTLY say that I have not cheated on him one time. There is no reason for it.You have alot of growing up to do. And don't forget about karma, what goes around comes around.
2006-11-16 09:23:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Just get a divorced....and stop using your husband. support yourself and be aroused by your lover. dont make the lover your husband...then you would only be repeating the cycle!
2006-11-16 09:21:53 · answer #11 · answered by mz_elegant_1 3 · 5⤊ 1⤋