He got upset with me because I told him that I wanted him to take care of our kids while I go to my sisters house(four houses down my street) for my cousins bridal shower. I don't see anything wrong with this,but he went all cracy with me..he even told me that it was over if I were to go...OK we have a wonderful marriage he is a good husband,good father,but this is the only thing that upsets him..He doesn't like me going to bridal showers..He says women get all cracy and nasty..He reminded me of mine(there was a video)..when he saw it he broke the video..(no I didn't have a stripper)..but we did play nasty games..So what do you guys think??? Is it wrong for me to be upset..mostly I'm hurt..that he said that was it for us...
2006-11-16 09:08:34 · 26 answers · asked by Angie29 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
we will be married almosr 10yr..He doesn't go out with friends..I don't go out with friends..We enjoyed going out with each other.Is there something wrong with us???He is a loving husband that likes to make me happy..
2006-11-16 18:34:46 · update #1
Apparently your husband feels that his wife shouldn't be playing nasty games. Either do what he wants, or hurt him, and accept the problems that will follow IF you go. Only you can decide what you want to do. But, nasty is nasty, no matter what the reason it happens. Try looking at this as a compliment. He feels you are too good for nasty games. But, does he feel the same way about bachelor parties?
2006-11-16 09:46:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have every right in the world to be upset. Sounds to me like he doesn't trust you. Why would he have a reason to not trust you? You two have had a wonderful marriage all except for this, right? Do you get mad if he wants to go hang out with some friends? Ask him what he and his friends talk about? I'm sure there's some nasty conversations on his end as well. I seriously doubt he will call the marriage off because you go to a family oriented baby shower. You should go and enjoy yourself. Spouses are supposed to love support and trust eachother. If he doesn't understand this concept, then he's the one at loss. Good luck.
2006-11-16 09:14:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be a little upset. There is nothing wrong with what woman do at bridal showers so long as they remain faithful. Did he have a bacholar party? What is wrong with it?
I can't believe he threatened to end your marriage because of this... that is waaaaaaaaaay extreme and completely irrational. He sounds like a VERY jealous guy.
Its not like you are going to do anything... and you will only be right down the street. Hmm.
2006-11-16 09:13:13 · answer #3 · answered by Kamunyak 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your man has a problem. It sounds as if he has a jealous streak and/or is controlling. Stop and think of other instances in which he might have had this issue, such as going to hang out with a female friend or two. Or has he been checking up on you a lot at any point? I would watch him and his behavior closely. If it escalates or he threatens violence, then it's time to go- both to the bridal shower, and away from him.
2006-11-16 09:14:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you admit that these bridal showers get "nasty" I don't blame him for not wanting you to attend. In light of the fact that your own bridal shower was a bit too much for his standards, I think you should understand his feelings and not insist on going.....no matter how wacko it seems to you and others....this is how he feels. Why would you ever make your good husband/father feel uncomfortable?
2006-11-16 09:14:46 · answer #5 · answered by Raven 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow he needs to get over himself. So what if we play those games ect.. He can't controll your life like that. Thats what girls do. Its not like you are looking at porn or worshiping the devil or something. Or you could compromise and jsut go for a short time and not be to involved in the shower even though its your cousin. He has to let you have a little fun.
2006-11-16 09:19:00 · answer #6 · answered by pinkbunnylol 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have every right to be upset. It's just a bridal shower that down the street. It's not like you're going to a bachelorette party with strippers or in some club.
2006-11-16 09:11:42 · answer #7 · answered by Ms. H 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Sorry but your Hubby is being selfish, controlling and jealous. Go to the shower, you need time out. If he wants to throw away a good relationship over something this silly then he is not worthy to be with you. Let him threaten you, Take a stand and GO..
2006-11-16 09:12:40 · answer #8 · answered by StarShine G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband is the same. Everything else in our marriage id fine except me wanting to go out. Tell him to wake up to himself. You need to just go off your head at him to show him how stupid hes being. If hes insecure then thats his problem, not yours. He needs to sort it out. In my husbands case he is very jealous and hated having to look after the kids. They are his kids too so he need to take responsibility. Let him go, he'll soon realise his mistake & come back. Deal with it now or it will only get worse
2006-11-16 09:55:47 · answer #9 · answered by Kylie P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some men are insanely jealous and controlling! But a bridal shower is totally different then a baccalaureate party.
2006-11-16 09:12:19 · answer #10 · answered by veronica c 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋