This is he name of a beautiful book by Kim McMillen. I am not sure if it is available outside Australia. The Author wrote it just before she found out she was gravely ill.
My favourite from the book is:
When I loved myself enough...I quit rehashing the past and worrying about the future which keeps me in the present where aliveness lives
2006-11-16 09:01:27 · 12 answers · asked by Spoonraker 3 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
erm when i love myself enough i will stop dying my hair different colours
2006-11-16 09:04:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To love oneself is the hardest thing in life to do. You have so many people reminding you of your short comings and your weaknesses and your faults and all thats bad in you.
No matter how hard you try. YOU, believe it all.
To rehash the past is totally fruitless as it is done and finished and no one can roll back time.
I could tell you to think about the things you could do to change your life and make a plan and live happilly ever after but that would be forecasting the future and that doesn't work either because the future is not written.
Kim is absolutely right in living in the moment of her illness or death and it is sad that she did not have that insight in her youth.
She is right in her advice to live only for today and if you want to love yourself then go out into the world with love in your heart and mind and share it with those who will remember you for your loving and caring and your compassion. TODAY
I think the greatest hurt that we inflict upon ourselves is toward the end of our life when we think of all the people we have loved and not shared that with them.
You obviously like to read philosophical books looking for answers
Read the new testament bible
In particular, all of Matthew. Many parables from Jesus all relevant to your question. Don't just read these passages. Read one at a time and then THINK about them.
I think the most profound teaching of Christ is within the 'Golden Rule' parable.
If you know within your heart and spirit that you were harmful to one you loved it will cause you pain and suffering till the day you die (regret , loss, remorse.
If you do not have faith or a belief in Jesus Christ at least read the New Testament and understand His teachings. It will help you.
To Beatrice Very short but very profound, answer right on the mark.
2006-11-16 11:15:14 · answer #2 · answered by jim60 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I loved myself enough..... I put the horrible events of the past to rest for the final time. I've chosen to live life to the fullest. i have my hopes and dreams. There will be no more of my past to come back and scare me or make me paranoid that I am not safe. I will not make the same mistakes of befriending bullies and abusers and controlling men. God helped me become free so that I may smile everyday, and sprend words of hope and kindness to others who share commonalities of the past. Freedom when speaking spiritually and emotionally, can be the most satisfiying peace ever encountered. When I loved myself enough.... I just let go.
2006-11-16 09:42:44 · answer #3 · answered by Dorie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
woah.... well it's easy to see that she's talking about living life NOW to the fullest... woah that sucks :| so did she pass away? :| Many people worry about the passed(errors made)... they worry about the future(dying) it sucks... having fears mean that you're not living life to the fullest. and that's not good:) hope you're learning a lot from reading her book : ) sounds very interesting,.....
"when i love myself enough then there is no on out there to destroy me " ha i don't know :P i guess i'm talking about self-esteem... when you love yourself enough you really don't care what others say ... :D :| are you writing for a book report? Hope you get an A with this answer :D ha
2006-11-16 09:10:12 · answer #4 · answered by Ginger B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you love your self unconditionally, truly, and beautifully, you are able to love another that way.
If you do not love your self unconditionally, you are not able to love another that way...
The reason I say that is because...You cannot give away of that you do NOT Have. If you have NO Love for YOUR Self, How could you Possibly have love for another.
On the other hand, if you love your self from your centered beingness, and it shows in your doingness, it will come forth in your reality. Loving YOUR SELF FIRST is where it must start!
2006-11-16 12:27:23 · answer #5 · answered by BabyGirl~ 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i might say that love is once you experience the might desire to guard somebody from harm. an hassle-free thank you to describe the kind you experience while in love is probably giddy yet love incredibly is all approximately only being concerned some man or woman expensive to you.
2016-10-04 01:14:26 · answer #6 · answered by mauzon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I loved myself enough.... I trusted so much in my ideas and actions that I was never afraid to get involved and help others.
2006-11-16 09:09:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
i like what the author said, i would also add that i loved myself enough to be truthful to myself. and forgive myself.
2006-11-16 09:08:10 · answer #8 · answered by iwondersoiask 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I love myself enough, others tend to love me too.
When I love myself enough, I tend to love others too.
2006-11-16 11:02:51 · answer #9 · answered by Beatrice B 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
when i loved myself enough....would i then be able to offer the same kind of love and respect to those closest to me
2006-11-16 20:43:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋