my grandaughter and her temper,?

Question

my grandaughter who lives with me, loses her temper very easily at school if someone says something rude to upset her, i tell her to ignore them it does not matter what others say, the headmistress has excluded her from school now. How do i try to stop her and tell her that she should not react angrily to people, I am upset she has been excluded as she is a very intelligent girl who can do well for herself and she is her own worst enemy sometimes. why on earth does she blow her top.

Answer 1

A guess, your grandaughter is hurting, maybe feeling anger toward some circumstance in life. The hurt, the anger is just below the surface, and young people like they are just may be baiting her, to make her blow up.
I don't have all the facts, but I would give that headmistress a call if indeed the others are the cause of the blowups, and set the stage for a legal action as necessary.
I would damned well point up that any school that lets students say anything rude to upset another student has lousy discipline in the first place. That is bullying and is just as unacceptable as your grandaugher's behaviour.
Now, having so stated, I must once again say I do not know the circumstances. Depending on circumstances, I would do all I could to get her name cleared.
In addition, I would probably get some sort of counseling for my grandaughter because we go through life with someone, or a lot of someones, and circumstances continually trying to anger us. It won't hurt to get that sort of help now, before something drastic might happen.
Finally, my heart and best thoughts go out to both of you. Please let us know how this is all working out.

Answer 2

How old is your granddaughter and how is it that she lives with you and does she see her parents. If she doesn't this could be one of the reasons why she is gets upset so easily or if she only see them occasionally again this could be the reason. It could be that because she is angry about the fact that she can't or doesn't see them she feels that this is the only way she can vent her anger. What you need to do is sit down with her and talk to her and find out if there is anything worrying her and why she feels the need lose her temper. Okay I'm admit when people are rude to you it does make you angry, but she had to get extremely angry if the headmistress had to excluded her from school.

Find out if there were any issues withing the school that also led to her being excluded. Either way you need to sit her down and have a chat with her about it all and try to get to the bottom of it. If you don't you may find that this will not be the only school she is excluded from

Answer 3

She sounds like she's either been spolit too much or shes a bully, to be excluded from school due to her temper is quite bad. I can catagorically tell you exactly which road she is heading down - the wrong one. All the ex offenders I deal with have a history of bad tempers and being excluded from schools so you really need to get her Mother/Father you or whatever to sort this out. Maybe point this out to her and tell her her temper may be just an exclusion from school now but do it when shes older and it'll be harrassement/ABH, GBH etc etc... Also tell her she'll end up with no mates and everyone will dislike her and is that how she wants to be. Tell her no one respects peopel who lose their temper all the time and not everyone is going to disagree with her in life so get over it. Maybe she needs a bloody good lesson, eg grounding, no pocket money or in my day a good hiding!!!

Answer 4

She sounds just like my own little grand-daughter. When someone bullies them around they think everyone is out
to get them and that is not the cause it is only certain kids
that treat them this way, so they feel they have to take it out
out on all kids. If you were to ask why he/she act that why to
their peer then he/she will tell you she/he were mean to he/her
her/him. There is always something that goes on in the school
that the teacher is not telling you. My grand-daughter went up
to this girl and looked straight up to her eye to eye and didn't
say a word, as I was signing her in. I turned around and looked
I said Aaliyah say Hi and she said NO she was being mean to me,
The teacher said No she wasn't, I believed my grand-daughter.
So you see things go on in school to make kids act up. All you
have to do is ask your grand-daughter what is going on in school
tell that you will help her out and she will not get in trouble for the
thing that someone else doing. just reassure her that everything
is going to be okay. Her temper will change, tell her to continue
ignoring the bad kids. Good Luck for your Grand-daughter and
yourself. We are going through the very same thing at the very
same time she goes to an after school pre-school from 12-5:45pm. And Lots of time its because of her Ethnicity she is
50% Mexican/American/25%Africa/American/25%White

Answer 5

If her temper is bad enough to get her excluded from school, she has some serious issues to deal with. This may well stem from her family circumstances. She needs help in coming to terms with her life and controlling her anger. You need to find her a counsellor - and persuade her to go.

Answer 6

I think she needs some sort of help if her anger cannot be controlled what will she get up to when she is older. See if you can get out of her what the trouble is and why she is acting like it, has she been spoilt and too used to getting her own way. It must be difficult for you, but dont get too wound up about it, it could be just a passing phrase she is going through. Hope everything turns out ok for you.

Answer 7

Well you didn't say how old she is, but since she is living with you instead of her parents, it could be part of the problem. She may not even know herself why she's so short tempered. It is also part of being a teenager if she is that age!

Answer 8

Your granddaughter sounds to me she is highly intelligent & needs to be in a school for kids whom need to understand her. What type of school excludes a child for small issues its not like like she took bomb to school ?. You need to get her into good school out of the one she is in use your heart to understand how you would feel if people nasty to you its bullying & she will suffer in her adult hood. I would contact the parents of the bully kids & let them know its got to stop & I would go see the kids whom are doing this to her also show her you care deeply & trust me she will be happy just knowing some one understands her. I'm not sure what they pick on her but there its no excuse @ all to do this. They are the ones with the issues as they need to put her down to feel good themself as there got the issue & she has all the right to stick up for herself good for her i say hope she keeps it up as there are more people like her just around the corner & there is never a better time to start defending yourself like NOW. I wish i could tell you what my mum did to a teacher whom said bad things to me you would crack up :) Have a great day chin up your doinf a great job bringing her up your a good person :)

Answer 9

You don't say enough to give a considered reply. How old is she? When and why did she come to live with you? She may be angry about things which have happened in the family and the only way she can express that is by getting angry.

Answer 10

You need to give more info. Does she live with you because her parents gave her up to you? My daughter has emotional issues and she goes to a therapist and takes medicine. Is there mental illness in the family? Was there something traumatic in her life? Divorce, did her parents fight a lot? I would definately call her pediatrician and they could refer her to a therapist or someone eklse who can help her. I speak from experience with both of my kids, get her help now!