I think my hubby has OCD (obsessive compulsive disorder). Everyday we have to do all of the laundry, and all of the dishes have to be done. He can't sit still, he always has to be doing something. Every weekend he cleans our house to the T. Our house can be spotless and he says that "We have a lot to do." I know it sounds great to some women, that your husband do all the work, but it gets really annoying. He can't even sit down and watch a 30 minute sitcom on television. Should I be worried? Is there anyone who can tell me what to do to get him to relax?
2006-11-16 08:38:00 · 14 answers · asked by Loola 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He IS NOT on drugs! He's not that kind of guy. He says he's a neat freak, but I think it goes a lot deeper than that.
2006-11-16 08:53:15 · update #1
No he wasn't in a war, he is only 22 and I'm 20. We just got married May 27, 2006. He's always been this way, but I notice it more now that we are married.
2006-11-16 08:58:57 · update #2
First get it diagnosed by a doctor. If it is OCD, there was a series of programs called I Can Change Your Life on british tv (Sky One satellite channel) where Paul McKenna cured a woman of OCD using a technique based on NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming). There are lots of other therapists in other countries who have been trained by him.
There's a book called Change Your Life in 7 days which may cover the same stuff on amazon, but the blurb doesn't give a contents list. You could ask on here if anyone has it and whether it covers OCD. There are plenty of other books on OCD, but may not use the same technique to cure it. His way was quick, there's may be long expensive analysis sessions.
If its not OCD, the doctor maybe able to tell you what the other possibilities are (another medical condition, a psychological condition, drugs). He may just be doing it to please you, because he thinks thats what you want. Discuss it and see if there are any mis-understandings between you.
It may be 'perfectionism', where someone thinks in black and white terms and every achievement is either perfect or useless. The wikipedia article on it (see link) says that it is one symptom of OCD. Also see link to wikipedia entry on OCD.
If there are any other aspects, you can research them on the net or search Yahoo Answers for questions and answers on the same subject.
It may be the male need to feel competent and succesful at everything (see Men are from Mars series of books) combined with perfectionism.
2006-11-16 09:17:28 · answer #1 · answered by ricochet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, you should be thankful your husband is not stupid enough to sit a watch 30 minute sitcoms. That's a sure way of getting OCD and a beer belly.
Why in the world would get upset because the man likes to keep the house clean. If he has all that energy, have him direct more of it your way. It does not sound like he's neglecting you from the information supplied.
I'll bet you would not complain if his so called "OCD" were sexually and emotionally directed your way and he still had time to keep everything in the house neat and clean. You too could have the constant smile on your face like the woman in the Enzite (Viagra clone) commercials.
Don't look a gift horse in the mouth.
2006-11-16 09:13:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not to be rude, but are you sure he's not on drugs? My neighbor was like that and we found out that she was on Meth. She's better now that she has come back from rehab. But she would barely sit to eat and was always cleaning. Always had a project she was having to do. Take him to the doctors. My son has OCD and this doesn't sound like it.
2006-11-16 08:45:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would definatly talk to your doctor about this.
Some people may say, enjoy the help, but if they haven't lived with someone like that they just can't understand.
Has he always been like this or is it gradually getting worse with age?
Was he in a war?
Definatly talk to your doctor and family counselor.
2006-11-16 08:53:27 · answer #4 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him to see a doctor. They have a test they give to see if people have ocd.
2006-11-16 08:40:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like me; however, I don't feel that I have OCD. I just like to be neat, clean, and organized!
2006-11-16 08:48:37 · answer #6 · answered by Mom of One in Wisconsin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has he always been like this?
I also think taking him to the Dr. would help. If he isn't able to sit and have any quality time with you being focused on you, I am sure that's a big concern!
2006-11-16 08:45:09 · answer #7 · answered by Simply_Renee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah...I'd jump his bones. Then take a nap. If he really wants to clean, he can do it around me.
No, seriously, if you are really worried go see a doctor. They are the only ones who can get to the bottom of this.
But jump him first.
2006-11-16 08:42:26 · answer #8 · answered by toothfairy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
his behavior is not normal
it could be his upbringing (Is he German or Scandanavian) I grew up with children with those backgrounds. Many of their parents were like you described. Most of my friends turned out to be hard workers but not quite as hardline as their parents,
2006-11-16 08:51:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
take him to the doctors love.i think it is ocd i have studied bout that at uni
2006-11-16 08:40:30 · answer #10 · answered by SenSored 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋