he then started to annoy me and I said that I was gwtting upset and to leave me alone then he carried on and I snapped at him..pushing him. Now just because I snapped more then I did he feels in the right..i am upset and dunno what to do, how can i let him understand that he's wrong...
2006-11-16 08:31:16 · 19 answers · asked by monjka l 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
U really should wait until you're a bit older, maybe till you're a teenager before you have a boyfriend.
:-)
2006-11-16 08:33:55 · answer #1 · answered by George D 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let him cool off and in the mean time you cool off as well. Be thinking (sometimes it helps to write things down) why you are upset and what he did (his actions) that upset you. Also think of some things you could do when it gets to the breaking point so you aren't in a fighting match every time you are in a disagreement. Later sit down the two of you and have a civilized conversation about what happened. Be a good listener and give him time to voice his opinion too, that's part of creating a healthy relationship. The key to any relationship is communication and right now the two of you need to talk, that is the only way things will be resolved. Good luck.
2006-11-16 16:39:22 · answer #2 · answered by Melissa M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, I don't think either of you were wrong, you both just let the emotions get the better of you. You shouldn't have pushed him though. I would sit down with him, and explain to him how you feel, and why you got upset. Tell him that you don't want to fight again. But, do appologize for pushing him. It will make him see that you are a strong woman to own up to that. Unless he's bull-headed. Then he'll just say, "I told you so." But, I think you should discuss it with him and reach some sort of agreement. Hope this helps!
2006-11-16 16:34:31 · answer #3 · answered by Elizabeth H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first take responsibility for your actions with him. Apologize and tell him why it got to that level of anger. Secondly ask him why he felt it necesary to continue to aggrivate you when you specifically asked him to back off. If it occurs again my suggestion is to leave the situation until you have time to cool down. If you continue as such, there's a possibility that the next time you "snap and push him" he may do something back that really causes you physical harm and better yet, who's to say that you won't cause him physical harm. He could fall when you push him and get injured. It's not a good thing to be doing. Address it before it gets out of control.
2006-11-16 16:38:33 · answer #4 · answered by dribble 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT SAY ANOTHER WORD, apart from an apology from you for pushing him and calmly saying goodnight... Go straight to bed- he's expecting more of a row because he's in a bad mood and wants one.
In the morning, I'll be surprised if you don't get a snuggle from him.... Your silence will make him think!
2006-11-16 16:35:05 · answer #5 · answered by Coley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't try to be right/ wrong. Just tell him there are times when you are really not ready to deal with things.
2006-11-16 16:35:03 · answer #6 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
part of being a grown up is to learn how to communicate and have discussions with out violence and yelling. it shouldn't matter who is right or wrong, the trick is to deal with it and move on.
2006-11-16 16:35:21 · answer #7 · answered by nwnativeprincess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give each other some breathing space.
if you start being physical, its the beginning of the end.
put the shoe on the other foot for a minute, bet you wouldn't have liked him to do it to you...
2006-11-17 07:21:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
EH you mus tune hime 1 2 f u c k you.
south african talk.
in other words tell hime to **** off
one time ekse
2006-11-16 17:48:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You pushed him. That was wrong. It should never be physical. Apologize to him immediately.
2006-11-16 16:32:57 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋