Okay I have this friend she and another of my friends ALWAYS fight(verbally) and then they get mad at each other. And my friend ALWAYS complians about the other girl how she is always getting mad for stupid stuff. But all i say is "i dont care,really,,,just forget about it" i say that ebcause the next day or so they make up and are friends again. I mean for god's sake we are grade 9 shouldnt we act better then as if we are in middle school? So how can i stop her from complaiing because first she will say that she wont complaina nd then 10 minutes later she is STILL ragging on. And she is even mad at me becaus ei am 14 and i am going out with a 23 year old it's my choice. And i think at times she is jealous cuz i have b/fs and she has never had one. I had suggested matchmaker.com to her...
2006-11-16 08:23:39 · 13 answers · asked by Haley 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Tell her to grow up and that you don't want to hear it anymore.
2006-11-16 08:25:46 · answer #1 · answered by ndtaya 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know how your going to stop her...it sounds like you have tried everything and if you try telling her that she is annoying you or try telling her to shut up then it sounds to me like she will just ignore you or if she does listen to you then maybe then she'll be upset with you...i suggest just sitting and daydreaming when she complains and just wait till shes got it all out, finding her a bf might be a good idea too because then she wont have so much time for peety fights....but i dont think you should suggest matchmaker.com because their are alot of weirdos on the internet who may seem nice on the outside but aren't nice on the inside and if he treats her wrong then she'll have even more to complain about....also only older guys go on internet things like that and they are the types that only want one thing from a girl and since it will be her first bf then if he pressures her into anything she might do it because she thinks she is in love or something because she hasn't felt realy love yet....if that makes any sense, i know what i mean but its hard to put it into words....well thats all the advice i can give you i hope it helps!
2006-11-16 16:39:22 · answer #2 · answered by Debbie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that she has way too much attitude and should get over her self. Right, she isn't the only one with feelings in your friendship. If she starts yelling walk away from her and ignore her untill she apologizes.And your only 14!! He is 23. Does your parents know this that's outrageous. I would break up with him that's a 9 year difference! That's like a baby dating a 9 yr.old. Keep in mind when you were 9 he was 18!and when you were a baby he was 9!! You are way to Young to have him as your boyfriend. She may not be jealous just protective.
2006-11-16 16:37:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's rather difficult to attempt changing the way a person does things. She will be the way she is...It's how she copes and survives with external circumstances. How you cope with things will be different from how she does; including how you cope with her complaints. Give her her moments if that makes her feel better. The trick is to not let it bother you...remember it's her problem. Listening to her doesn't make it yours. Often, when people complain about others, they are looking for validation. They are looking for someone to support them in their quest to be right about how they interpret things and people around them. If she can't get validation from you, she'll stop looking for it with you...patience is usefull during this process.
2006-11-16 16:36:17 · answer #4 · answered by chibear666 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are worse than her. You are the one that is going out with a 23 year old guy! What the hell is the matter with you!
You people are just kids!! Man, you better grow up. Your friend might be annoying, but you are the one that is risking your and your bf's life by going out with him.
2006-11-16 16:30:03 · answer #5 · answered by Webballs 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK first thing...you are 14 and going out with a 23yr old?!!! is your mom freaking nuts?! i just hope you aren't sleeping with him....that's called statutory rape and he could go to jail for that!!! pick someone your own freaking age! what could you possibly have in common with someone that old? that's probably why she is mad...she knows its wrong!
now to your question...tell her you are tired of it and that you don't like being around her if all she does is complain. tell her that if she starts to complain you are going to get up and leave...simple as that. stick to your guns, keep your word and do it...after a few times of doing that she'll see you are serious and might stop.
BOTH of you are WAY TOO young to be doing any online dating! stick to what you know...school!!!
2006-11-16 16:31:37 · answer #6 · answered by Get_R_Done_n_Dallas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to be friends with her jump in and find out what is wrong. Then try to fix it between the two of them. If you don't really care if she stays your friend tell her what ever advice you have for her and leave them alone. Don't listen to her. You don't have to. I hope this info helps you.
2006-11-16 16:29:05 · answer #7 · answered by devin102791 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your friend was smart, she would report that 23 year old going out with you and actually have a legit complaint.
2006-11-16 16:26:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You called her a friend, didn't you?I'm sure you will treat her as one too. In other words, accept your friends as what they are, regardless of their flaws or faults. You may not believe me now but you will kinda miss it if she really stops complaining to you!!
2006-11-16 16:36:18 · answer #9 · answered by PhiloPhobic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh sounds to me like a bunch of kid stuff...tell your friend you do not wanna hear it anymore it sickens you...and tell her to go tell the other one how she feels not you...cause you no longer wanna have anything to do with that ...you got more in life than that garbage...take care
2006-11-16 16:27:42 · answer #10 · answered by blugeanie923 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋