My boyfriend of nearly five months has just broken up with me. The thing is he is the only person i have ever truly cared about. Ever since we split i cant stop crying, im crying writing this. What makes it harder is the fact he loves me and i know it, we havent knew each other long but in the time we have we have grew closer than is humanly possible.
The reason he split is because my ex partner was abusive and violent and he managed to get my new partners num. He sent him messages and rang him for a couple of days.
He says he is feeling it just as much as me and that he wont get over me for a long time(even been crying as much as me). He just thinks we will be happier in the long run as my idiot of an ex would start crap again and make us hate each other.
The fact is he doesnt realise how much i will miss and need him in my life.
I would appreciate anyones views and comments on this, please??
2006-11-16 08:18:47 · 15 answers · asked by donna_davidson777 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
The thing is, ive taken him to court on three occasions, one for beating up the first guy after him, the current one knows this and is worried for his mams safety also as the idiot one knows where he lives.
He never gets any punishment and he is insistent on ruining my life, when will this stop??
When will i get a chance to be happy and live my life??
I will miss him so much.
2006-11-16 08:26:23 · update #1
I wish i did have someone to sort him out.
2006-11-16 08:28:21 · update #2
thank you for all your responses, the thing i hate more is the fact my ex is soo violent and i am still scared of him. Ive had two restraining orders on him. It never really stopped him. I was with him since i was 15, im still only 21 now but it seems like im a lot older, trust me.
2006-11-16 08:39:09 · update #3
He is scared, at first i thought he was making an excuse, but i know he loves me deeply, thats what makes it harder. It is so frustrating and upsetting at the same time.
2006-11-16 08:48:41 · update #4
i know people always say there is someone better that will come along but the fact is we are great friends also and he says he doesnt want to lose contact all together. How can i possibly still see him when all i will want to do is kiss him and hold him?
2006-11-16 09:06:22 · update #5
OK you can't lose this guy because of an ex-lover. Get a restraining order if that doesn't work file a harrassment charge. Stand up for yourself. The guy you love will appreciate it and the ex might get the point.
2006-11-16 08:22:54 · answer #1 · answered by stephanieplum4404 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start by changing your life, move if you can, change some of the mates you don't trust, take some self defence classes. keep a diary of what your wanker of an X does, phone calls, threats, following you, you need times dates,and where it took place... He thinks your the 15yr old girl he fell in love with, he thinks your probably just going through a bad time, he also thinks you belong to him! So change don't be scared! FIGHT BACK! our life's are like books each day we all write a page whether its good or bad, but good thing is we all have a chance of starting a NEW clean page,, so stop crying and start a new page...And Another thing if this new man does Love you like you say. He'll be back. Then you can write some chapters together good luck
2006-11-17 03:30:55 · answer #2 · answered by free2fall67 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just a thought but... If you both care about each other so much, why are you letting your ex come between you?? Get a restraining order against him for both you and your current boyfriend ... have his number blocked so he cannot call you or your boyfriend and start trouble. Have your boyfriend change his number and make it unlisted if you want... If you two feel that you're right for each other and can't seem to deal with the idea of being apart, then don't split up...
Talk about it with him and see what you come up with.
Good luck
2006-11-16 08:26:01 · answer #3 · answered by rainbowofhope04 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I AM SORRY YOUR Hurting is he scared of your ex; if not its just an excuse to keep you hanging on;if he really loved you he wouldn't let your ex stop you from being together.sounds like your ex is still controlling your life and your both letting him.Are you going to let him break up every relationship you have; put your foot down or you will always be his victim; get him for harassment; see a law er' talk to police find some one to make him leave you alone ;take him to court ;do something I CAN;T STAND PEOPLE LIKE YOUR EX;hes probably laughing about it;my sister had someone like that once. your still being abused emotionally.Did he beat your boyfriend up? if so why didn't;t he have him arrested?
2006-11-16 08:43:24 · answer #4 · answered by deedee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a chance for u to move on w/o an abusive ex!! guys I thought would always be missed r missed still but no contact whatsoever dropped my feelings for them besides, I found that they may b sweet but a sweeter 1 comes along :) I never thought I'd find.
2006-11-16 09:04:32 · answer #5 · answered by anna 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? This doesnt seem like something us older people deal with, I not saying that your feelings arent just as important I'm just saying the older you get the less you feel like your gonna just die without someone, plus there has to be more to this story than just your ex called him and now he does'nt want to be with you anymore, if thats the truth, wipe those tears and move on honey, he would have left you anyways.
2006-11-16 08:23:57 · answer #6 · answered by Sistamoon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey love is one thing and pain is another - the dude is SCARED and with the history of your ex..he has reason to be. I'm keeping it reall hon. 5 months is NOT a long time and Im not doubting your love for him or his for you BUT you still have pending issues that no new man wants to or should have to deal with. YOU need to get rid of the ex completely BEFORE you go out reaching out to new guys - ITS UNFAIR TO THEM, especially since you know he is violent and has already fought the guy you dated after him. BOTTOMLINE: I dont blame him for bouncing. You need to get your business handled before you put an innocent guy in a situation he cant get out of.
2006-11-16 08:55:40 · answer #7 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ONE WAY MAY BE TO GET A RESTRAINING ORDER ON THE ABUSIVE EX, AND TELL THE OTHER GUY. IT MIGHT SHOW HIM THAT YOU ARE SERIOUS ABOUT GETTING THE OTHER GUY OUT OF YOUR LIFE. BUT TO ME IF THE GUY LEFT YOU BECAUSE OF A FEW PHONE CALLS FROM A GUY YOU WERE ABUSED BY HE REALLY IS NOT A STRONG ENOUGH MAN FOR YOU. I ALSO THINK THAT MAYBE THE REASON YOU ARE SO ATTACHED TO THIS GUY IS BECAUSE YOU HAVE BEEN IN SUCH A BAD RELATIONSHIP, THAT YOU ARE WILLING TO BE SATISFIED BY ANYONE THAT SEEMS TO CARE FOR YOU. I'M NOT TRYING TO BE JUDGEMENTAL, I FEEL BAD THAT YOU'RE SO SADDENED BY THIS. JUST REMEMBER WITH OR WITHOUT THE GUY YOU'LL BE ALRIGHT IF YOU STAY TRUE TO YOURSELF AND STAND UP FOR YOURSELF. GET THE RESTRAINING ORDER.
2006-11-16 08:30:10 · answer #8 · answered by CASSONDRA D 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Darling just hang in there. i had a ex like yours and it made my next relationship very hard. But i went threw the same thing that you are going threw now. My next relationship after the really bad boyfriend broken up with me cause of the same reason. but owe still staied really close and after a little while. Me and my new relationship ended up getting married and we have been married now for 11 years and we also have 3 wonderful boys... So sweetie just hang in there and follow your heart. cause following your heart will lead you to your true happiness
2006-11-16 08:25:11 · answer #9 · answered by michaelslady95 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like this ex has a bit of an obsession with you, make it clear you wanna move on with your life without him in it. maybe your boyfriend needs to stand up against this bully. Good luck
2006-11-16 13:28:57 · answer #10 · answered by cookie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋