Ok so we have a lot of history together (2years worth) I love him but I have never told him that because we have never been a serious BF/GF couple. It started out as just sex, then we became really good friends then feelings developed (i think on both ends). There have been 2 periods of time (about 6mo each) where we were unable to see eachother. The timing was always wrong with us. When I wanted a relationship he wasn't ready wich is fine i was willing to wait. Now he is ready and so am I. The problem is that he is getting out in May and when he does he says he wants to move back home to Ohio. Thats where he is from. I can't handle him disappearing out of my life for a third time! I don't know if I would/could move with him. I am very close with my family and have a great job here. I know that sounds selfish when he has been away from his family for the last 6 years.I don't know what to do or what to say to him. I would never make him choose between me and his family. PLEASE HELP!
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We were off and no for 2 years. No fights no blow outs we just couldn't see eachother at times due to his work and we decided mutually that when we were separated like that we would be allowed to keep our options open. we never maintained a long distance relationship. But we also never found anything better than eachother.
2006-11-16 08:17:55 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
We just recently, within the last month started seeing eachother again... He just got back.
2006-11-16 08:24:53 · update #1
first you need to decide that if you tell him you love him, what distance are you willing to go to be with him. when you figure that out don't hesitate to tell him you love him.....tell him you love him and want to be with him. tell him how far you are willing to go for him but b/c of distance not sure how to handle a relationship like that. then ask him what his thoughts are on how to make things work. if he knows how you feel, maybe he will be willing to move to you...or you can come up with a compromise to be together
2006-11-16 08:24:58 · answer #1 · answered by Get_R_Done_n_Dallas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you both care alot about each other but still aren't sure about moving in together you should try a trial run. Like if you have vacation time at your job go to ohio with him and stay as long as you can and see what happens. Dont know what you do for work but if the trial run goes great is it possible to transfer?
2006-11-16 08:24:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he hasn't asked you to move to Ohio with him, then he doesn't want you to. You're somebody he can have fun with and see when he wants. If he's as crazy about you as you seem to think he is, he would have ask you to come with him. Even though you might not want to, he hasn't even asked, according to you. Forget about it...
2006-11-16 08:21:46 · answer #3 · answered by bodinibold 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋