Another child. I've discussed before that we have a three year old and my husband, although he's said before he thinks we SHOULD have another child, still is not quite ready to take that leap. He's afraid he won't have the patience...he's afraid that it will be too hard financially, he's afraid that it will take all his free time away...
BUT - we both agree it would be good for our little boy.
Now, my question is - what are some subtle ways I can get him to give it deeper thought. I mean, I don't want him to concede just because he knows I want it so bad. How do I make him realize how great it can be without flat out saying it? How can I make him realize it on his own...little hints, if you will.
Guys, some help? What I really need is ways to make him evaluate his thinking without letting him know that I am asking him. Does that make sense? I just want to give him a subtle push to start thinking about what he really wants.
2006-11-16 07:56:20 · 5 answers · asked by Jax 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Stop pressuring him
2006-11-16 07:58:22 · answer #1 · answered by skawp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, men do not do subtle. When you try subtle with men, you will end up angry because they do not get the hint. Just have a conversation with him about it. This is a human life you are considering. If you can't have this discussion with him about it, you certainly aren't ready for another child. Men work well with factual things. Show him how a child will fit into the budget. Show him how he will not lose you (spending time with his wife). Being able to have down time is important. Being able to have his wife's attention is important. Think about how you will be able to meet his needs as a man if you have another child. Just show him the fact.
2006-11-16 16:02:32 · answer #2 · answered by truly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think subtle will work . Plain and simple if he's waiting for the perfect time it will never come. There are always what ifs and maybes but you can't make decisions on them. I'd say as much to hubby and let him know you are serious and ready now and leave the ball in his court.
2006-11-16 16:04:04 · answer #3 · answered by buffybot67 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him that you are wanting another baby and asking if he will permit it. there are reason's why he wants to push this aside or on the back burner. and if his mind is made up , there is really no convincing him of it. with you being honest and flat out asking him if you can do this , is all that really needs to be done.
2006-11-16 16:12:01 · answer #4 · answered by ~just_jd~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a guy, subtle doesn't work for me. Now if my wife was on the bed wearing just a smile and told me she wanted me to knock her up...... that I would understand.
2006-11-16 16:11:56 · answer #5 · answered by open_phunguy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋