my husband even went as far as asking someone else to lie for him.now alot of people knows he lies .i dont believe anything ge tells me .help i need some ideas thank- you
2006-11-16 07:24:53 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Every time he tells you anything, and I mean anything, look at him with a solemn expression on your face, nod your head, and then say, "Since you have lied to me so many times before, I am going to assume what you just said is a lie, and act accordingly." And then do it. If he says you're beautiful, say the above, flip him a bird, and call him a bad name. If he says, "I have not been cheating on you," call a lawyer in his presence and inquire about a divorce. No matter what he says, do the opposite. Once you lay this on him consistently for a few weeks, he will get the point, and then, when he's begging you to stop, you can have a real conversation.
2006-11-16 07:39:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm sorry to ask this, but are you stupid? Your husband lies and everyone knows it. You don't trust him due to how much he lies. Honey you don't need help, you need an attorney. There is no reason why you need to wonder if he's telling the truth or not. There is no longer a marriage there and it should end. No trust, no marriage. I don't mean to sound so mean, but someone needs to knock some sense into you. No one should ever put up with deception and lies, especially from their husband. Good luck.
2006-11-16 15:46:41 · answer #2 · answered by cookie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in a similar situation. It will take a LOT to get that trust back. Only time will tell. If he wants to try to change it will take time for him to get to that point when he is not a compulsive liar. You could expedite the process by going through some marriage counseling. The two of you can explore why you behave the way you do.
2006-11-16 15:34:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes there are chronic liers out there! U basically cannot really live with this type person ! When the chips are down he wont be there for u .He will lie and lie ! Im sorry but the right thing is for you to leave him !
2006-11-16 15:31:46 · answer #4 · answered by jessy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't waste time trying to believe anything a habitual liar says. Like you said...you just can't believe anything he says. People like that aren't worth trusting.
2006-11-16 16:02:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can not trust him then why do you stay married to him? Marriage revolves around trust and love. I always like the saying "Once a liar, ALWAYS a liar"
2006-11-16 15:27:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Agreed. Trust is an earned thing. If you can't trust him, you have nothing. Lying to you means he has no respect for you....have some for yourself and dump the jerk.
2006-11-16 15:27:58 · answer #7 · answered by BVC_asst 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
There is nothing that you can do to make this better. You can only support him if he chooses that he wants to change.
2006-11-16 16:13:22 · answer #8 · answered by 1st time mom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give hi an ultimatum that he learns to tell the truth or you are gonna leave him!
2006-11-16 15:30:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
THE PROBLEM SEEMS TO BE THAT HE IS A CONPULSIVE LIAR. AND HE WONT STOP. SO IF YOU CANT TRUST HIM THEN YOU NEED TO ASK YOURSELF IF YOU WANT TO BE IN A MARRIAGE THAT IS NOT TRUTHFUL
2006-11-16 15:29:08 · answer #10 · answered by becca_2 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋