I(I’m a male) told my close female friend how I felt about her and she said we should remain friends.She said it wouldn't feel right going further.
She said she don't deserve my feelings---meaning??
Said she can’t imagine me not being in\part of her life---this mean anything???
We left on good terms,agreeing to remain friends always.After this happened I went quiet on her for over a week to clear my head!She txt me once asking why I went quiet and also txt my mate asking him. I got bck in touch on Monday and her reply mentioned nothing bout what I said(how I felt about her).
I txt her saying how impt the friendship is to me and apologised if I made her feel uncomfortable and hope that we’re cool.Why hasn’t she txt bck for over a day now??(we’re usually in touch everyday!)I say anything wrong?
Would she be feeling odd??Behave differently towards me??
Anyone been in this situation themselves?If so,what happened?
Why has she suddenly gone quiet on me??
2006-11-16 07:19:32 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
It sounds like she loves you, but just not in the way you want, she doesn't want anything to change and probably just wants to forget what you said and go back to the fun times you had before that. Try and treat her like you did before you told her how you felt, maybe she'll come back but maybe not. Maybe she likes another guy? Or maybe she's scared because she knows that if you two became a couple that would be the end to everything else, because you'd either end up getting married and growing old together or you'd break up and she's lost her best friend.
I had this situation, a guy was in love with me and he told me pretty much every day but he was my best mate so I couldn't you know, I loved him and I still do but just not in that way. Unfortunately I haven't seen him since I started going out with other blokes, but I miss him.
2006-11-16 08:48:16 · answer #1 · answered by floppity 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
(she said we should remain friends. She said it wouldn't feel right going further)------
I am not interested in having physical relationship with you but I like you as a friend
(She said she don't deserve my feelings)—-------I know you love me but I don’t love you in this way
(She txt me once asking why I went quiet and also txt my mate asking him)—------are you upset with me? I appreciate your friendship
(I got bck in touch on Monday and her reply mentioned nothing bout what I said(how I felt about her).----------I will try to ignore the whole incident and we are friends again
Why hasn’t she txt bck for over a day now??(we’re usually in touch everyday!)I----- Oh my God he is at it again
My friend—
She is not interested. Calm down be friends and see what happens
Sorry, I really did not want to disappoint!
Good luck
2006-11-16 07:32:45 · answer #2 · answered by toietmoi 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She wasn't interested and now your going to have to take the sting out of this.
No matter how much you try, she now knows you have feelings for her so things will never be the same, it's a gamble you take and it didn't work out.
There will be a time of adjustment for her, don't put the pressure on, keep it casual, relaxed and don't mention the subject again, ever!
If she changes her mind then she knows where your feelings are so it's her move but basically it's not going to happen so forget about it.
Why not arrange a night out where there are other people there? Get a few mates to go down the pub or onto the town, she also needs a few girlies there for support.
2006-11-16 07:29:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My interpretation would be that it was an awkward situation for the both of you. You needed time to keep to yourself and maybe she is just doing the same thing right now...one day is nothing to worry about. I think it will just take the two of you a little time to get back to normal. Stop the texting and give her a personal call to discuss the issue. Let her know that you had to disclose your feelings to her but you understand the fact she does not want to go further than friendship and you would like to work on getting things back to normal. It sounds like she truly cares about your friendship so dont wait....call her as soon as possible. I am sure the two of you can get over this little hurdle...good luck.
2006-11-16 07:31:53 · answer #4 · answered by Stacy H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably does feel a bit uncomfortable. It's always difficult being friends with someone of the opposite sex, usually one or the other wants something more. You need to accept that she doesn't want anything more than friendship from you. Give her a bit of space and then ring / text her in a few days.
2006-11-16 09:21:25 · answer #5 · answered by Jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i see you have a problem here,
for once, yes definately she will feel odd..but this is normal for a girl to feel shy and have a moment of her own..so don't worry.. you must start approaching her and talk to her again(take it slow...not everytime you get a chance to talk to her then you have to ask her to be your GF)
secondly, yes i have been in this situation myself..unfortunately the girl dislikes me and ignored me till today...but all the symptoms that you have shown is that she might like you just that she's afraid to gamble..imagine this, she has a nice friends who cares and cherish her all the time..she thinks that if she accepts you now, she putting herself into a risk of losing this close friend of hers...so give her some time, show her you really love her..once the girl gets the sense of security (she feels safe) from you..then she'll accept you..that is also the reason why she might have been quiet on you, she might be in stress all of a sudden
good luck to you mate!!!!
2006-11-16 08:22:31 · answer #6 · answered by tata bear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some times in life some one comes along who we really get on well with and in some cases we could quite easily fancy. But then we have to ask our self's what if.
what if we could be more than just good friends
what if I could kiss her/him
what if I went out with them
what if we became lovers
what if we fell out and NEVER saw each other again.
some time we have to make the hard decision weather or not to be lovers or risk losing the one person we can really relate to as a true friend. step back and let her Know that you value her friendship. and leave it at that for now . Who know what the future has in store enjoy today and let tomorrow take care of its self.
2006-11-16 07:37:28 · answer #7 · answered by lady_di_ar125 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well this happens alot, sometimes a girl becomes very comfortable with someone and get used to him filling her life, but that doesnt mean she wants him as a lover.
i know it hurts alot, but believe me i've been in ur friend's position before and i know it must be scary for her as she might feel that she will lose you in a way or another.
and if she stop calling u for a while thats pretty normal, i bet she is giving u some space in order not to attract u more to her, and she doesnt want u to think that she feels sorry for u.
but believe me u both will be just like before:) , but it needs some work from ur side too, i mean u need to get over her, and worship ur friendship, its a bit hard but if u feel safe and comfy with her u can do it.
best of luck
2006-11-16 07:49:49 · answer #8 · answered by Yasmine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Carry on with your life normally and try to forget her.
If she is interested, leave any approach up to her.
She playing the cat and mouse game with you, and
I don‘t think you should fall for this, and if she makes
a move in your direction, play hard to get. This is the
only way you will find out what her true feelings are
and, if it is worth while going back to her. Someone
else may slip into your life, at least I hope so.
2006-11-16 07:37:25 · answer #9 · answered by Ricky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ive gone through this before. she'd be definitely feeling different toward you. she can behave differently to you in the beginning and it can wear off in the end if you help by behaving normally and not bringing up the subject. shes gone quiet on you because she dosent know how to act toward you now..shes wondering about you.
after this happened to me. i went really quiet. because i was in a state of confusion. if shes that type of person dont talk to her about it, only do if if you can. but after i prayed and just was happy afterwards i was fine. so im acting normal now. but its just not the same anymore..
pray.
2006-11-16 11:28:46 · answer #10 · answered by bella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋