Do you regret your abortion? OR Do you regret NOT having an abortion?

Question

I have never heard a woman say she wished she would have had an abortion after all once her child is born...but everyone except for ONE person I have ever encountered says they DO regret their abortion. Would like to hear from all of you who have opinions that are legit

actually, I have never had an abortion, all of my friends have, and I am very involved in the Pro Life movement, may God be with all of you in your journey, no matter the consequences

http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/abortionmustendnow/

Answer 1

I had an abortion back in 1992 before the internet was available. As a result, I had very little information about the facts of abortion because the abortionists at that time weren't required by law to tell me the whole story; how it would affect me psychologically; how the baby actually dies; what does and does not constitute a "human being". Now, after two sons and the wealth of information on the internet about the horrors of abortion, especially partial-birth abortions that are happening every day whether we all want to admit it or not, I couldn't regret my abortion more. The next thing on the list is that it will be legal to kill your newborn up to 3 days after birth, if you decide you don't "want it" or if "it is damaged goods and doesn't deserve to live."
Abortion is a selfish, fatalistic thing to do. It requires the mother to believe that "nothing is going to work out" and "it will be impossible to handle". Let me tell you, LIFE is tough, LIFE is hard to handle, but we all do the best we can with what we've been given. That's the purpose of our lives! Without trials and hardships, we have no opportunity to grow.

Answer 2

Keep in mind that you asked for an opinion: This is your decision and you';re teh only one that will have to pay any consequences or rewards for your decisions. Anyway, everyone I know has had regret to different degrees and most have wondered on all the "what if's" and "what baby would've been like, etc. etc. etc. If you are already wondering about regret, I think it may really take it's toll on you later on when it''s done, over and too late to take it back. This really is a serious decision to make so you really need to be sure of what you want to do before you do anything. FYI: Please know that baby can feel by 10 weeks gestation. Baby is literally ripped apart during an abortion - it's the only way to remove them. They can feel all this. It's really sad. They can sense the danger and try to 'run' away from the abortion instruments. Thier heartbeats increase rapidly. It's really sad. It's a horrible thing to do to a fetus. But like I said before, your decisions are either your reward or consequence but you knew the risks when you laid up. Sorry, but I have to be blunt here... Good luck..

Answer 3

I wish I could change the fact that I had an abortion when I was 18 but I can't so I just go on with life and learn from my mistake. I was told in my pregnancy with my twins they were conjoined (they were NOT) and told abortion was best but I couldnt do it twice. I think each woman has to make up her own mind on what is right for her, I am personal very pro life now but dont push it on others. I think sometimes people dont realize that a lot of time their are two "victims" in abortion, the baby and the mother who thinks she has no other choice.

Answer 4

you know what.. I still cant say. You see I was pregnant at a very weird stage in my life.. I had just started dateing this guy and I was living in a hectic place.. I was still Just Not ready. I had an abortion.. and it was probably a good choice.. But then i got pregnant about a year later.. * bad luck with condoms* and i decided to keep it. cuz i cant go threw another abortion.. And i felt it shouldnt be used like birth controle.. I am 9 months pregnant no and i cant say im completly ready. I do feel guilty thinking about The fact that i aborted one.. And now im going to have one. Its hard.. But I think i made the right choice. in both cases

Answer 5

People regret doing thing. People regret not mowing the lawn on Sunday or not eating the last piece of cheese. Regret is part of life.

Abortion is a big (and serious) regret. I have never had one but I can only imagine how hard it is for those woman who do get one.

Educating a woman before having an abortion is a great thing; spiritually and literally. It's important for a woman to know exactly what she is getting herself into. While abortion isn't right for me--I cannot determine what is right for others.

My cousin had my second cousin (who is now in my care) when she was young. She is not a part of his life and feels she is a failure. She has said before she wished she had gotten an abortion so she could protect him from herself. Her son is a victim of FAS--he will have developmental and physical issues his entire life. Who does that rest on? Her--it is her fault. I'm so glad she did not get an abortion but she is not.

Answer 6

I have two children now and one on the way. I have endured the horrible mistake of an abortion. I live with it every day and I do all that I can to help others so they never have to go through that. Reducing the amount of abortions performed in this country isn't changing the laws (women need this law) it's about educating our youth and directin them to a life of holy living before they engage in relations. It's about prevention and education.
But, yes I do have incredible guilt issues. I know God forgave me but I find it hard to forgive myself.

Answer 7

I became pregnant after a one-time (isn't it always) mistake. Didn't see the guy past month two of my pregnancy. Never for a moment thought I was ready to be a mom. But ... never for a moment considered doing anything but having him, and doing my best. Hopefully, my best has been good enough, and he is a joy to be around, almost five years later.

Also, if you need any evidence about how accepting and desensitized we've become to infant death, check out the following link. When actual doctors advocate something, and don't even bother to sugarcoat it as anything less than discussing "active euthanasia" and "life-shortening and deliberate interventions to kill infants" (real doctors, mind you, and their words, not mine), you know we've gone pretty darn far down that particular slippery slope. Talk about regrets, making this type of decision:

The link: http://www.washtimes.com/world/20061106-123108-6932r.htm

Answer 8

I do regret having the abortion I had. Even though I am at a better place now in my life now, I still wish I could take it back.

Answer 9

I regret the abortion because as I am older now, I am able to analyze what I did, and that I killed a child that I was carrying and had no fault for "my" wrong doings and that child was depending on me to protect him/her, and I failed him/her. I ask God for forgiveness everyday of my life, especially now that I have my own kids living, I always think, if something is to happen to one of them, I guess it is well deserved, as I took that opportunity away from an innocent child. At times, I feel lucky and blessed that I yet have not been punished for my sin, or maybe God forgave me for my sin as I promised that under no circumstances will I ever kill again, and just maybe, he forgave me that...

Answer 10

i had my first kid when i was 17 and i was still in school now i have three and 2 of then are under 2 i love my children to death and would do anything for them and never regret having them but if i could have made some better chosses at the time i would have!