Ive been dating a girl for 3years now and we're breaking up. She wanted to get married and I wasnt ready. Im very sad because I felt like my time with her shouldnt be over yet... she wants to move on since Im not read.
Can you give me any advice for getting over this breakup? I still love her alot and think about her all the time.
I cant sleep at night and Ive already lost about 15lbs. What should I do to help myself get over this and move on with my life?
2006-11-16 06:50:12 · 7 answers · asked by Purcell10 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Im 24 and shes 26. I think since shes older she feels more pressure to get married.
I just feel like Im not ready for the responsibility of getting married and starting a family. I just started my career, bought a house and I feel like Ive got my hands full right now with all that. Getting married and starting a family just seems like added pressure that Im not sure Im ready for. I think that maybe in 1 or 2 years I might be ready but she doesnt want to wait. She says I should know by now.
2006-11-16 07:14:20 · update #1
I dont think there's any chance of us getting back together... Im pretty sure she is seeing someone new already.. I dont think I have commitment phobias... Maybe something between us just wasnt right. It really confuses me, how she was able to move on so quickly after I was supposed to be the love of her life.
I just want to move on also.. but I cant seem to. I cant sleep and Im not eating. I try to hangout with friends but Im still not better.
2006-11-16 09:10:40 · update #2
theres not really a way u can get around it...
only thing you can do is... really focus out...do something else.. erase her from ur aim and blah blah...
after a while, if u still cant stay without her...mayb u do need to re-evaluate everything and go back to her
2006-11-16 06:56:31 · answer #1 · answered by raiseup151z 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-07 17:37:55 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you suffer from anxiety? You have your career, a house and you love her. If you really feel this way then you need to ask yourself why you see getting married as a negative instead of a positive in your life. Just think. No more dates with ditzy people. No more lonely nights alone. Companionship and closeness. Does the thought of this kind of closeness with someone stress you? Might be commitaphobia - or just that your not grown up enough yet. People go through a major mental change at about 25 years.
Do you feel she is the one but your just not ready? What else do you want to do before you get married that you cant do with her? Does she want to have kids right away, and you want to wait and travel and just be together first? There must be more to this.
Of course no one should get married unless they are ready. But a lot of people are never ready because they have issues with commitment. I think that might be something to look at. I had commitment issues for most of my 20's but I was totally blind to it. So I just kept moving away from nice guys thinking I wasnt ready. I know I lost some very good husband prospects. I think if you really feel that she is the one, but your still having these fears, you should go talk to a counselor/minister. Find out what is really the issue here.
When you make a decision based on what you KNOW is the best thing for you - it wont be so hard. If you are making decisions based on fear or anxiety, it will eat you up.
2006-11-16 08:01:41 · answer #3 · answered by Blondana 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you two don't have the same ideas about getting married, you shouldn't be together, in my opinion. I made the mistake of marrying while still having misgivings about the person. Luckily there were no bad reprecussions, but I would rather have not done it. Instead, I should have let him go find someone who was more sure of him, and found someone I was more sure of. Alot of time and an unbelievable amount of money was wasted in the meantime.
And my personal advice is this...the best way to get over someone is to get under someone else
2006-11-16 06:55:44 · answer #4 · answered by irie.girl_2006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel that strongly about her, then perhaps you should consider marriage. Why not now? You will eventually. I don't get what makes you think you're not ready? Is it age? Or that you're not sure about her? Or are you just one of those guys afraid of the word marriage?
If that's not an option, then to get over her, date someone else. Yes, it is using the next girlfriend but that's the best way to get over it.
2006-11-16 06:53:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well get out of the house and try not to think about her or him. be around some positive people who make u laugh.
2006-11-16 07:02:28 · answer #6 · answered by gurl_balla14 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Surf some porn sites and masturbate often. Works for me.
2006-11-16 07:08:41 · answer #7 · answered by Flex 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋