i am married 19 yrs with a 17 and 13 yo. first marriage been married since i was 19. we own a house now that we have for sale it is not going well. we own some property 14acrs and a trailer. i am not sure yet about the divorce it depends on my h if he decides to choose me or his drinking. if it goes that way i want the property and trailer but it isnt set up yet no water no elect no sewer ect. and i dont have money it takes everything we make.. i would be willing to let him have the house and keep it or sale what ever i dont want it. my question is if the seperation takes place where do i stay? till the divorce and if one person leaves the home how do you split the bills up? i really just dont know where to turn to this is all new to me and i am totally lost... any help would be apprieciated. one more thing do i need to talk to a lawyer before i make him choose or wait til after?
2006-11-16 06:40:23 · 6 answers · asked by crazyme 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i cant afford to stay in the house with out his check plus i know this may sound dumb to some but i love this man i have put my whole life into this marriage and i thought that this house was made out of love and if he chooses to end our marriage i couldnt stand to be in that house with all the memories ect trust me i will put my kids first as i always have and will that is not even a thought.
2006-11-16 06:46:43 · update #1
I'd contact a lawyer and ask them these questions directly. They are the only ones who would be able to give you proper advice. Not enough information is garnered through this manner. You may get some good answers, but the best will come from your lawyer. Find one.
2006-11-16 06:46:20 · answer #1 · answered by tipper 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hope that I can help you as I was Power of Attorney for my Mom during her divorce since she was a mess and didn't even know where to begin with bills and dividing income.
I would talk to an attorney, FAST! Most, if not all, won't have concern yourself with fees until after this is done and overwith.
As far as assetts and bills. You wil probably end up paying anything that you created yourself as far as debt. Your attorney will want copies of your bills, including credit card debt. He/She will want to know what purchases are yours (an itemized list) and you will be responsible for that. As for the house...if you continue to live there, you will more than likely be responsible for ALL of the bills...my Mom was until the divorce was final, then the house was sold. It was very difficult as she's bi-polar and only lived on 50% of my Dad's income which had to cover utilities plus property taxes. I would try to sell the house that your living in ASAP and get an apartment if a divorce or legal separation is what you really want. Good Luck!
2006-11-16 06:46:28 · answer #2 · answered by Mom of One in Wisconsin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you make him leave the house!!! you have the kids, you need the house. don't you dare sell yourself short. the bills are split up in the schedule of assets and debts form with the divorce itself. you may want to talk to a few attorneys now so you can get an idea of what you want and what you will need prior to starting all the actual paperwork. he is responsible for keeping up the house payments, don't you dare walk out the victim!
2006-11-16 06:48:17 · answer #3 · answered by Bella 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For me that is whilst i'm no longer even bothering to verify the questions and nevertheless forming a greater coherant fact than the questioner. Thank them precise for the factors and awaken to locate i will nevertheless answer greater useful than some human beings can ask jointly as i'm asleep!! That stated, i could be stunned if this question lasts the night!!
2016-12-30 13:26:59 · answer #4 · answered by kennan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well there is the courts yes and you could also chose to stay in the house during the seperation if you have no where else to go, as the mom and kids need the place to stay, but go talk to your family and the courts
2006-11-16 06:43:28 · answer #5 · answered by goodlookin.mama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why are you waiting on what he wants to do is my question? take the phone and dial an attorney that's your first step. he will be on your side and advise you of your rights. if you cant afford things it will be sold then you will have the money to move wherever.if he is an alcoholic he would not be choosing anything because he is not in his right mind. first get the attorney have him go to rehab then make your decisions. thanks
2006-11-16 06:49:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋