My husband is confusing me?

Question

Me and my husband have a seven month old baby and he decided to move in to a friends house temp, he said he needed his space well then he kept inviting me over and I was really starting to think things where getting better but then he out of the blue decided that he needed space again. I told him he was confusing me and he said he cant make up his mind when im there i anoy him because I want his attention and I tell him to look at the baby everytime he does something and I do every thing for him that he ask me to do. He said that he really messes me when I am gone he messes cuddling and being around me. I think a husband and dad should be at home with their family

Answer 1

You're right, they should. But maybe he's wishing for the single life again. Tell him to grow up and move home, or pack up and move on. He can't have you both ways.

Answer 2

Your husband is a big baby. He is either cheating on you or thinking about it. There is no way he has your interests at heart when he is "getting his space". Your baby needs a father and he unfortunately isn't an ideal one. The fact that you get on his nerves when you are "visiting" him, should make you realize that he doesn't want you. My advice to you is not to allow him to make the decision. You need to make him aware that he not only has a wife, but a new baby as well. He needs to either grow up and face responsibiltiy or stay away and allow you to continue on without him. Good luck and GOD bless you.

Answer 3

Everything sounds F'd up. He is not a provider for his family or a worthy husband. You should have seen this while you were dating him. You in a big mess now with no good way out. Sorry, but you are hosed until time heals your pain. The sad thing is that your kid will be the most hurt from all of this BS.

Answer 4

give him his space. maybe he is having a hard time adjusting to father hood. but the next time he starts inviting you over dont go. tell him you will only go if he is sure this time. and if you need to start going on dates just the two of you. sometimes that helps an then have the days where he is just there for the baby.
hope it all works out.

Answer 5

Quit giving into him. Tell him you'll be waiting whenever he decides to come home. Don't go visit him, he's just not ready to be responsible for you and the baby, and only wants a booty call.

Answer 6

so he can't handle being a new parent, isn't as interested in the new baby as much as you, wants to actually walk out the door and would rather miss you than be with you??? if my husband walked out that door and didn't come home one night, i'd change the locks on the door. if he wanted to be home, he would have been.

Answer 7

it sound like he having a problem with the baby some men do not no what to do with them. i was one at on time that had no clue what to do with them but my wife show me how and i been learning ever sense .. may be he need you to show him how to be a dad.

Answer 8

wow,srry your going through that,and the baby ,my goodness he's a GROWN man he needs to be with you guy's .he says he needs the space looool!ok this is what i think YOU need to do alil'spying you know what i mean .just to make sure !if not then good but you need to tell him to get home ...AFTER u spy.trust me!!

Answer 9

You're allowing this to happen. You are making it convenient for him to behave like this. STOP!!!!!!! Go find someone who wants to be a family person, he obviously don't.

Answer 10

He is just afraid of all the new responsibilities that he has to adjust to.