Lesbians: would you date a pre-op female to male transsexual?

Question

What about a pre-op male-to-female transsexual? She sees herself as a woman, lives as one, but still has male equipment. Would that bother you?

Also, in the case of dating a pre-op female to male transsexual, he would look like a man, live as one, but still have "female" equipment. So, would it be easier for you to be with him, since he still has female parts?

Is your attraction really based on liking the same GENDER or liking the same SEX?

Answer 1

Well, I'm bisexual, but I would certainly date a pre-op female to male transsexual. I'd just consider the ol' twig and berries to be, as they say in Carol Queen's "The Leather Daddy and the Femme", a 'wacky new type of strap-on'. But then again, I'm the kind of girl who loves strap-ons, so for the lesbians who don't, it might not be that great of a situation.

And I think it's a lot easier for lesbians to date pre-op female to male transsexuals if their lover was butch beforehand (the general case), and especially if they were stone butch- i.e. penetration never occurred anyways, and breasts were off-limits as well. Not much would change. I have a feeling the biggest detractor for lesbians whose partners transition is not what happens in the bedroom, but how they are perceived outside (as a heterosexual) and their own sense of self.

Like I said before, I like gender and sex, and all the mixtures they come in- mostly when the bits don't match (like femme boys and butch girls).

Answer 2

Pre-op MTF I'd have a problem with. Can't really explain why. I don't think post-op would bother me.

I'd also have a problem with a pre-op FTM, though, because what would be the point? Once the operation was done I'd have a SERIOUS problem, and we'd be setting ourselves up for a nasty breakup.

I've dated a (here my terminology gets a little fuzzy, forgive me) transgendered FTM (?). That didn't bother me at all, though we eventually broke up due to other issues.

Answer 3

My attraction is based on the person and not the parts. I'm a lot more selective when it comes to men that I'm interested in, but it would still depend on his personality. I would date a pre-op transwoman too. Yet again, it depends on her personality.

Answer 4

umm... i think i would have to have the equipment match the gender. Im definately attracted to the equipment(sex as you would put it) of a woman as well as her feminine personality (gender as you would put it).

Answer 5

I'm 50/50 bi, but I'd have no problem with that as long as they were honest.

And I get what you're saying about gender and sex.

Answer 6

Your gender and your sex arent the same thing? i'm confused.

Answer 7

I don' t think I could