I think it’s great for my wife to go out with the girls. My only exception is when she goes to dance halls and freely dances with any man that asks her. I feel all these women are putting themselves out there, acting single, and asking for trouble. Under those circumstances, anything can happen. Why would any wife put her husband’s trust in her on-the-line like that?
Girls-Night-Out can include concerts, out-to-dinner, happy hour, bowling, card games, etc, as long as the planned activity does not involve direct contact with other men. My wife & I are both avid dancers, and I certainly don’t mind a friend dancing with her when I ‘m there.
When I go out with my married buddies, we play poker, attend ball games, frequent sports bars, camping, and even fly to ski resorts. However, we never go to strip clubs. My friends and I agree that the opposite sex should not be included in any of our activities. We wouldn’t want to lose our wives’ trust.
Shouldn’t both spouses agree to this simple basic principle?
2006-11-16 06:24:18 · 20 answers · asked by goforgold98721 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Beware....dude. If you let her go....she will meet another man. I can tell for certain. I was that other man. Dude, I met her at a club....no ring......no panties. She was with all her other friends....also no rings. Great night...wound up banging....in the hotel......for a few weeks we stay connected....then it happened. I see here at a local mall....wearing a ring....huge rock....two kids with her. Married....oh well, even I get played. a couple of days later she calls me to tell me she's pregnant....and its mine, cuz she and her old man don't get a long.....I told her, it sure didn't look like it at the mall...Dead silence....then came the tears.....Oh, I've never done this before.....I should have listened to my husband......yada, yada, yada.
2006-11-16 09:23:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the spouses, I do agree that there should be an agreement of some kind, but what the agreement is depends on the people involved. I personally wouldn't want my husband go out dancing with other women, and it would never occur to me to go dancing with other men; but for other people, it's not a big deal. I would say, when it comes to the activities with the opposite sex, it the right thing to do to respect your spouse's views on the matter.
2006-11-16 14:35:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has she ever given you a reason not to trust her? If she hasn't, then there shouldn't be a problem. So they like to dance. Big deal!! I am married, and I go to a bar by myself and dance sometimes. Just because she's dancing with these guys, that does not mean she's doing anything else.
When I go, men ask me to dance, whether my husband is there or not. How do you know that she is not telling all the men she dances with that she's a happily married woman? Does she pull her ring off when she goes? If so, that's asking for trouble.
Talk to your wife and ask her these questions. You may be surprised.
2006-11-16 14:31:24 · answer #3 · answered by I_didn't_do_it 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
ouch. well....the normal standard for me is, if you can't do it while your husband is watching, you shouldn't be doing it at all. there is nothing wrong with a girls night out that includes dancing. i dance with my girls. i say no to any guys that ask. i always behave as if my husband was standing right next to me. which is how she should be acting. as far as going without the husband, i really don't do anything that i couldn't take him with me anyway. and he does the same. he doesn't make plans he can't include me in on. which kind of annoys some of his guys friends. i usually end up being the only girl at these parties of his.
2006-11-16 14:31:55 · answer #4 · answered by Bella 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Right , nothing wrong with just a dance with a friend. But I would rather have my husband there if this ever happened. But your right , a girls night out does not mean she always has to go to the bars.
2006-11-16 14:30:55 · answer #5 · answered by ~just_jd~ 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well it shows you what kind of respect she has for you. shes acting like a 16 year old girl what friends do she does. i mean is cool girls nite out but all this girls acting single when they married come on why in the hell they got married. they should know what goes on. in dancing clubs is single people looking for someone. they need to grow up alittle thats just my opinion is all about respect
2006-11-16 14:34:08 · answer #6 · answered by jose m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree 100%. I am having the same problem, us guys go out have a few beers, watch the game,ufc,the race, or whatever.
My wife on the other hand wants go out dancing and night clubing on girls night out.
Its not the same.
2006-11-16 14:30:33 · answer #7 · answered by Todd V 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes! Hold up there. Has she asked you to go with her and you wouldn't? Play fair. And if you are worried what does that tell you? Go out with her even if you think you are not going to like it. She could show you a thing or two about her. And that can be so sexy and so great. Is up to you. Not to mention make your relationship in all aspects great.
2006-11-16 14:30:59 · answer #8 · answered by bountyhunter101 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um, I love what I have at home. Don't need anything else.
But if you're both "avid dancers," maybe you should be taking her out dancing (hehe).
Meanwhile, if it bothered you enough to talk to her about it, and she disregarded your feelings about it, I see a red flag. Honestly I would try to stop doing anything my guy actually asked me to. Because he doesn't ask for much. Unless it's reeeeeeeeealy important to me, I would cool it. Just my opinion.
2006-11-16 14:32:26 · answer #9 · answered by Ade 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes your wife can dance while out with the girls, BUT ONLY WITH THE GIRLS!!
NO way can she dance with another man while your not there. Thats so disrespectful to your marriage. Well GOOD LUCK
2006-11-16 14:44:35 · answer #10 · answered by mperezwp 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋