He's been cheating on me for years. Finally, last year he promised he would straighten up. He joined AA, moved out of the house for a year. His job moved him to another state and he said he was over "her" and wanted me and the kids to go with him. We sold our house, moved out of state, bought a new house 3 months ago. Now he says he wants a divorce. We're in texas now which provides minimal support payments and limits child support. He makes a great deal of money and since we've been married Ihe hasn't wanted me to work, just take care of the house and kids. Since he lied to me to get me to move it there any way to get my prior state residency back so I can file for divorce without having to wait 90 days? Do I have any recouse since he lied to me?
2006-11-16 06:10:27 · 13 answers · asked by M S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
just the fact that he wants the divorce not you helps you in court and dont forget to run him down in court with the cheating fact girl he will have to pay alimony because you were used to the life he gave you and didnt want you to work divorce his *** let someone else deal with that sh--be the beautiful woman you are and tell him to get gone
2006-11-16 06:14:33 · answer #1 · answered by diamond 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got this answer covered. And first, my heart goes out to you. Anyone can say what they want about your situation, but there is no more living hell than what you are and have been experiencing. Now, to answer your question, No, the fact he lied to get you to move to Texas has no legal signficance, not anymore so than he marriaged you, took vows, and lied about that too. If you haven't lived continuously in the State of Texas for 180 days immediately up to the present date, go back to your prior state (assuming that you lived there at least 6 months before going to Texas) and FILE THE PAPERS, AND I MEAN IMMEDIATELY. You are going to have to have a definite game plan, that doesn't involve him to get it going, meaning, if you dont plan on living with the kids in Texas after the divorce, take the children back to the prior state with you and file there. And I agree with you, Texas is like another universe when it comes to laws, for whatever reason, it seems all child support dodgers go to take up living in Texas. Immediately get an attorney or at minimal, you need to have a consultation with an attorney within the next week on this for certain. The emotional part of how rotten he was and the betrayl will take time. But now is the time for making the important legal stratigical decisions, and for this, you need a lawyer and I dont mean maybe. And trust me, he doesn't deserve you. It is good to be a kind and trusting person, next time, just make sure you think a long time before deciding who you will give the joy of sharing yourself with. Taking advantage of someone who you know trusts in you is unforgivable.
2006-11-16 06:22:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some states require long residency before filing for divorce, also long separation so be careful what you want not to get in the worth situation. All state are now required to have identical child support rules so i do not think that moving to another state will help you to get more.
2006-11-16 06:48:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
All states have child support guidelines, that go by the fathers and the mothers income both. Go to and do some research on line to find out the possibility of what you will get, and it will be determined by percentages, and who pays for daycare and health care, if he has to pay for daycare and health insurance you are going to get less, but it is that way in every state. Alimony I can't advise you on, i have never received it. First get a job, start writing out what you want and think ahead to collage as far as child support goes. Things to think about regarding child support:
health insurance including paying for half of everything, to include prescriptions, co pays, anything not covered, orthodontics, paying for half of all school expenses such as field trips, school parties, etc., whether you ask a judge to order that no one other than a spouse of your ex can spend the night when your children are over for a visit (such as unmarried parties must leave by 11 pm), extracurricular activities. Just trying to let you know think of everything or you will get screwed, and oh, while all this is going on , be sure to purchase a large notebook and keep detailed notes of conversations, money, times, dates, this can and will be a help to you in the future, and keep it after you are divorced, believe me, it helped my friend.
2006-11-16 06:22:02 · answer #4 · answered by Premo Mom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I sure hope you do. He just used you for the stepping stone honey! I would go back home and file for divorce and let the judge there in your hometown set the support and visitation up. Don't wait and work things out there because you will get the short end of the stick!
2006-11-16 06:19:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you can't claim his lie as a reason for more support.
Move back to where you came from, wait the 90 days and file. Yes, that will be 90 more days that you are married to the jerk, but that 90 days could help support your children more than if you stayed where you are at now.
2006-11-16 06:14:35 · answer #6 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move to California by any means possible. File for the divorce here. He will have to come here to court. Trust me, Without him allowing you to work and with kids and no means of support he will have to pay up. Get out here. What are you waiting for? Sounds like he did his homework.
2006-11-16 06:15:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
GO empty all the bank accounts NOW . If you can't do that wait till you can build up a nest egg and then boot his dumbass . Stay in the house as long as possible and live off him . Let him pay now and if he wants to split up let him do all the work . You do nothing but make him PAY.
2006-11-16 06:21:19 · answer #8 · answered by IT'S JUST ME ! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get the most exspensive lawyer you can find and make him pay for it cause you do not have a job the judge can make him pay all court costs,lawyer's fees and everything else. be cutthroat and devious like he was . Oh boy and if you need some more tips email me and I will be glad to give them to you. I hope you give him everything he deserves and then some . Good luck hon and god bless and happy thanksgiving.
2006-11-16 07:18:05 · answer #9 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, you sold the house no way of getting it back. but file for divorce and you have to split all assests in half, so talk to a lawyer and your family
2006-11-16 06:17:29 · answer #10 · answered by goodlookin.mama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋