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2006-11-16 05:32:58 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
Age is wrong darling......... think of future
2006-11-16 05:34:30 · answer #1 · answered by John P. 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Your tooooooooo young!!!!!!!!Did you/he finish high school? What about college? Are 2 kids going to have a kid? What will you teach the baby? Are you married? Commitment? Have a house? Job? Medical plan? Forget this at least until your 25, college educated, married with a house, good job with medical benefits. You would be surprised how quick he would leave you in your parents house with a needy child (all kids are needy) and be out with his friends and other females. And a sick kid-oh my god!! It takes 18-21++ years to raise a child not until he gets tired or mad which is usually three years or LESS. Don't let him sweet talk you into this or don't fool yourself-whichever way WAIT. You probably won't know him when your 25. Tell him your going to college and see how jealous he gets this will tell you something. Just get 5 or more college applications and GED classes if you have dropped-out. Fill these forms out in front of him. If he gets irritated, mad, wants to argue, changes the subject, or wants to go out. Look for anything negative in his demeanor-this should/will tell you something.........wait and get educated and then try to get pregnant. Don't rush-be a kid as long as you can-there is no going back.
Take your time. I and my HUSBAND had our first child at 33 and second at 35 and it's wonderful and the hardest job I've ever had. I've traveled, partied and done everything I (not the bf) have wanted to do. Now was my time to have children. Whenever your time comes(and it is not 17) everything will go as it should.
Everyone of my friends who had kids at 14-21 are not with the fathers and child support-forget it without the court system and some of the men have beat the court system. Which means all the women were/are on their own.THINK LONG AND HARD.
I don't care what you have heard a baby will not hold a man-And don't think you will always have your bf in one way or another, some men don't deal with the baby's mom at all.
PLEASE ANSWER ME BACK.
2006-11-16 06:25:53 · answer #2 · answered by babyshe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is just some advice I am not judging you but you really need to sit and think about have a child. You are only 17 and sorry for sounding cliche you have you whole life ahead of you. I am mother and it is hard and this is coming from someone who is grown I am 25 This is not something that is to be taking lightly or some kind of fad. Or something that is going to be cute for a while. Being a mom is a full time 365 day a year no sick days no overtime pay 24/7. Its not a game sweetie. I know that your bf says he will be around but I have heard a lot of girls with the same story. My reality to you is. I was married and my HUSBAND left so what is keeping your bf around. Just please stick with school get an education you have plenty of time for children in your future. Take some time out and get to know you live a little experience somethings. Don't grow up too fast and enjoy being a teen.
2006-11-16 05:48:18 · answer #3 · answered by Laila 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A baby is a lot of work, it's a very very expensive bundle of love. You really should wait until you are married and have a more supportive job. You may think you're ready now, and that may be true emotionally, but you need to think about the baby's welfare. Can you afford the proper "baby care needs"?
A good crib
Good quality formula/baby food
Baby proofing needs
Diapers/wipes
Changing table
Clothing
Toys
Books
Hospital and medical bills
A good apartment and car with functional heating/airconditioning (babies need a certain temp to be comfortable and lower the risk of illness)
You sound like you badly want to be a mother, and you will be a wonderful mother when the time comes, but you need to prepare for a baby and take care of yourself first. Finish school, get a steady job, have a nice wedding. We aren't all so lucky as to find the one we are ready to start a family with by 17. You've been fortunate there. Give yourself some time to prepare for your baby and allow yourself a bit more time to grow up. You're still in your teens! When the time comes your child will be very loved.
Hope I helped!
2006-11-16 05:45:25 · answer #4 · answered by Artemiseos 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The age is definately wrong, honey. Take that as a sign and stop trying. I got married @ 19 and had our 1st one when I was 20, and though I wouldn't trade her for the world, I wish we had waited longer. Live your life 1st b/4 you bring another into the world. Finish school, work for a while and save up and get married. Life is too short, don't rush things. All will come in good time. Good luck with everything, but seriously, you should wait.
2006-11-16 05:40:31 · answer #5 · answered by amcr1999 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
after reading all the answers before mine i feel I should say something. If you have a job and are in a stable relationship, go for it. All these people told me for so long wait, you're too young, you've got so many things to look forward to and so much life to live, and now, I would give up the last 7 years of my life to have a baby.
Don't start worrying so soon in the process, there are many factors in it like were you on birth control etc.....
I've been trying for 7 years, and haven't given up yet even though all the cards are stacked against me. Don't lose hope, it'll happen....
2006-11-16 05:35:53 · answer #6 · answered by sbourque79 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are 17 you are very lucky that you haven't gotten pregnant yet. girlfriend, take it from me... I had a baby at 17 and it was not a smart move. you should wait a while and have one later. Enjoy your life, and get an education and good job first so you will be financially and mentally ready. This is a huge life changing event!!!
I noticed you said "BF" you're not even married yet. You dont even know that this boy will stay with you and the child and help you care for it.
remember - I done this myself so i am telling you from experience.
2006-11-16 05:36:29 · answer #7 · answered by I know, I know!!!! 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take it from another 17 year old mom. You don't want to do have a baby. Your boyfriend will get tired of you and move on and you will be stuck. It isn't fun to have the total care of a baby. You give up everything. School dances,going to the movies, hanging with friends. I love my daughter but I sure wished I was older.
2006-11-16 05:41:05 · answer #8 · answered by AGNES H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are a teen or a person that is not yet stable, wait until your older married and stable. Babies need alot of time, care, and love. They need: diapers, wipes, food, formula, clothes,onsies, socks, pants, shirts, sweaters, jackets, coats, shoes, lotion, baby wash, powder, diaper rash cream, nose drops, gas drops strollers, cribs, sheets, pillows, bed sets, medicine, doctors visits, toys, learning, daycare,and much, much more. Think about affording all this cause it wont all come from a baby shower. Babies are a full time and three part time jobs, if you like working that many jobs than, maybe you do have time and are stable enough. Just think first, maybe you should wait.
2006-11-16 06:57:38 · answer #9 · answered by brittany S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it is not time for you to gog out and have a baby at your age look at it as a sign you will have one when the time is right right now you r too young dont get a baby caues you want one think real hard about it before youwish you never had the baby
2006-11-20 01:00:21 · answer #10 · answered by Brandi S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is the hurry???? I mean you're only 17. You can't wait at least 5 more years so you can have a normal teen life?? Trust me I had my son when I was 19 and had to grow up really fast.
2006-11-16 05:37:10 · answer #11 · answered by COURTNEY 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋