How can one tell if a spouse is cheating on them?

Question

How would a spouse act if she were cheating on him, even though she insists the person in question is only a friend and they have never engaged in sexual intercourse?

Answer 1

get a private eye and have them trailed

Answer 2

Well l guess it's the old saying ; actions speak louder than words. You should be able to pick up on things such as does she try to start an arguement so she can leave the house on her own, is she starting to work away from home more often, is she more secretive on her mobile, does she not seem to give a dam what you think or whether you are happy or not. These are all things that made me suspicious about my husband, and l was right !!! I guess your situation is a little different as you suspect it is a mutual friend but the signs should still be there if you look hard enough. Hey l am not saying she is cheating but l guess she does have the opportunity while you are at work if she really is cheating on you. You know your wife better than anyone else, are there really any signs or are you perhaps just a little jealous of their friendship. That could well be all it is you know ! I would suggest before you start accusing her of having an affair that you think long and hard about what you really feel is happening. Sit down with her and pour your heart out , if she is cheating on you it will be obvious by the way she re acts. If you feel your marriage is secure GOOD but if not it's up to you two to work things out or go your separate ways. The bottom line is communication without that nothing ever gets resolved. Good luck !!!!!!!!!!

Answer 3

There is no fool-proof way unless you catch them or she admits it.
But here are some pointers to watch for:

Never being where they say they will be
Gone to much from home
Nervous when the phone rings, running to grap it
On the top list of cellphone contacts
Not particularly interested in sex with you (not initiating it)
You see her light up when this person is around (eyes smile)
Your bed is warm when you are not there (signs)
She is using more makeup, nicer clothes, pretty hair (than normal).
She makes excuses all the time why she can not be with you.

Granted these are never fool proof so dont go running out and confronting her if you notice a few. But many of these signs is a good indicator of unfaithfulness.

The bad part is if many of these are present, you still have to catch her in the act. And if you do then you need to decide if she if worth staying with or if you need to move on with our life.

Answer 4

Is soemthing you just feel. I personaly see a change of attitude, all the sudden hes happy or the opposite, grouchy. She might avoid you big time to do whatever, maybe the avoidance of sex. She might ignore some phone calls, "No, not important", or "wrong number", If the calls stops all the sudden, then they arange a time to call.
Be careful with an extreme hospitality, she might feel bad, then u say, "No she is being so nice to me lately" SHES CHEATING AND FEELS BAD. Or you might c that guilt trip. "You dont trust me"
If you dont trust is because of something. Just keep your eyes open, dont judge If you cant prove it, Dont look for anwers either, but every truth will be revealed just pay attention and be patient.

Answer 5

When they pay less attention 2 U but more 2 some1 else, then they're interested in them! Check their phone bill to C what time they're making phone calls & length of time. R they dressing different? R they interested in new things cause they're new friend is? Whatch their behavior around that person, hopefully it really is just a friendship and not more than that. It hurts 2 much 2 know the person U love is w/ some1 else.

Answer 6

First of all, if she has a freindship with another man, and you are uncomfortable with it, she should respect you enough to end the friendship! If she refuses, she probably has a deeper connection with him than she will tell you, and she has no respect for your feelings.

Do you really need to know whether she is sleeping with him? If so, you could have her followed.

Is she is going out more frequently and staying out later? Have you checked her cell phone for numbers that aren't familiar? Is she having sex with you? Has her attitude towards you changes, good or bad? Sometimes women will feel so guilty about what they are doing they will be overly nice to their husbands.

Before you jump to conclusions, you need to ask her what she is getting from this guys "friendship" that you aren't giving her. I'm not implying that you have done anything wrong, but she has to have some reason for not giving this guy up.

Good luck to you! I really hope that she isn't doing that to you. It is avery hurtful thing to have to experience.

Answer 7

The way you can tell if is your wife has been cheating is if she is acting differently or has there been a change in your relationship. Tell her to be a woman and let you know before she does that. Have you asked the friend? Maybe if he is a true friend he'll tell you, otherwise if he doesn't then he wasn't a friend to begin with.

Answer 8

Check out their cell phone history when they go to bed. Place tape recorders around the house, hoping to catch something said in poor taste. Keep a KEEN eye out for it. If you suspect it, to me, that's 50% already. But you need better. It sounds like you care about the relationship, but if cheating is evident, I wouldn't personally hang around very long. But prove it first. And know their whereabouts. I hate having to play babysitter myself, but you simply have to know what's going on in a marriage such as a potentially dead one.

Answer 9

Hire a Private investigator

Answer 10

There is no such thing as just a friend. They have either already done something or have at least thought of doing something, which means that they will if given the opportunity.

Answer 11

If she takes more showers than usal, if she is buying new underwear or outfits more.if she has stoped telling you that she loves you or stoped talking or if she is paying unnormal attention to you. If she gets calls and hangs up when you come in a room, if she is alone with this person alot....