I think my man is cheating, and I am 5 months pregnant, should I leave?

Question

I dont have any hard core proof, but its things like weird phone calls, and we havent had sex in over a month.he is not pulling his weight as it is,I pay for everything.....he is 3 years younger than me, and even though that isnt alot, I feel like his mother.(im 25 and hes 22).....I just dont know what to do.....hes lied about so much in the past that cheating is the next logical step...or maybe im over reacting?

Answer 1

well, you can be over reacting. Becasue you are pregnant you may feel things that may not be true. Talk to him. see if you can get an answer to this question out of him. Ask him. see if he answers. Then if he is cheating, then ask if he wants to work things out or not. Take care of yourself first. That baby is very important. good luck and hope all works out.

Answer 2

I'm sorry you have to go though this right now when it should be the best time in your life.
Unfortunately is you have a suspicion you probably right. You know you man better than we do. Unless he is scared of the baby or feels inadequate, or some other reasonable excise.
I'm pretty sure you are right tough.
But do not just storm out, have a talk with him, try to make im understand your fears after all he is the father of the baby and that makes him responsible for the provision. Age makes no difference, if he is old enough to make a baby, he's old enough to pay for it.
The only definite thing is... people do not change, if he cheated before (not on you but any girl) he will stay a cheater until he gets hit by a bull.

Answer 3

Women have something called intution and very often it is not wrong. If you think he is cheating on you he very well may be. If he isn't pulling his weight now, think about when this baby comes. Maybe try talking to him and telling him exactly how you feel, tell him its time that he starts taking responcibility for his actions and that he starts cleaning up around the house and looking after you and bills. If you feel you should leave then do it. Trust me there are many single mothers out there and they do just fine. Just think about it before you do it.

Answer 4

Hi, i am really sorry that you are feeling that way. i am also 3 years older than my husband, i am 23 he is 20 and i am 36 weeks pregnant so i know what you mean about feeling like "his mommy"I think you should talk to him about it, maybe he is afraid he'll hurt the baby if you have sex, you got to let him know he won't, and maybe your hormones are everywhere right now and you just need a lil extra attention...i know i did earlier in pregnncy...and worse comes the worst he might be cheating but you will never know for sure until you talk to him, one thing is for sure this is the most amazing moment of your life and you dont wanna expend it unhappy or wondering whats going on.

Answer 5

I wish I had enough time to tell you my situation and everything that's happened because it sounds a lot like yours only mine is older and I still feel like his mother. The bottom line is what you want. Trust me, it's easy to get upset and say I'm outta here but when it comes to staying gone are you to a point where you can turn your back and never look back. A lot of people don't get that, but you have to be able to stay mad at him if you leave. My husband and I have been together for 7 years and during which he's had three affairs (one with a 19 year old) that I can prove, we've gone through the weird phone calls, the leaving early for work and staying hours after "with the guys." I found phone numbers, I found panties in my dryer one day, one of his girlfriends called me up directly one day. It's not easy stuff to get over and you'll always have your doubts, but he and I are happier now than we've ever been. We're 12.5 weeks pregnant with our fourth baby (we have three girls) and we just bought a house. He's calmed down a lot and I stuck by him, not everyone can do that and not everyone can understand my reasonings, but I wasn't ready to walk away. If you feel like you are and your heart is no longer invested in this man then you need to turn your back, if you're not then you need to find common meeting ground and try to work it out with him. What he's doing is wrong and hurtful, but a lot of men go through it, especially when their women are pregnant. There's no excuse for it by any means, but what it comes down to, is are you ready to leave him? Good luck to you and your baby, do what's right for you and the future of your child.

Answer 6

definately see if you can find some friend to follow him sometime. Sounds fishy to me too. My ex cheated on me when I was in the hospital having our second child. I suspected him for quite some time, however, when he didn'd come home one night I asked my friend's husband to follow him and sure enough he was busted. Lay out some traps like when the phone rings pick up and say (his last name residence this is his answering service may I help you? Let him know it takes two to make a baby and it will take two to take care of the baby as well as the needs of the baby like rent, food, electricity. Stop paying the bills and make him do it. If your gut is telling you he is messing around chances are he is, just get the proof. Find a friend who he is not familiar with their vehicle and have that friend follow him around. Good luck to you my dear. Congradulations on your upcoming motherhood.

Answer 7

Sweetheart, most guy cheat on there girls when there girls are pregnet...its a know fact, I mean even celebrity's do this. You still don't have any solid proof, but its really all up to you. I mean his 22, he probobly has a whole bunch of azzwhole friends that advise him the very wroung way. I mean i can understand if he took care of you, but he doesnt!!!!! then why have a man live off you ?!?!?. You need to cook him a nice dinner, look very attrative and have a conversation about the future and how he needs to step up to the plate because if not you can't continue like this. If he doesnt man up then you need to leave him. You might think it will be hard but trust me hard is when you are raicing your son and he cry's for daddy never being there for him, thats even harder.

Answer 8

Sit down and tell him that you are 5 months pregnant and look at how he acts when you tell him and see if he says it's not his and then that will give you proof that he is or isn't cheating but don't just go on feels talk to him about everything and make sure that he understand that you don't want to be paying for everything as while.

Answer 9

sounds to me like you could be over reacting. i had this same problem, but you know what. he could just have some weird stored up mixed feelings about you being pregnant, what he would do as a father. as you said *i dont have any hardcore proof* so sit down and talk to him. sure you are 5 months and you would think its a bit late in the pregnancy for him to start acting weird, but its perfectly normal. sometimes its the pregnant woman thats being weird and not the guy, especially if this is the first baby. so just sit and talk to him. dont just leave. ESPECIALLY if you dont have any proof. just try to work it out sweetie. hope i helped you.

love jennie :)

Answer 10

If you were not pregnant i would say leave now don't tell him. But since you are pregnant i would find out for sure so you don't do some thing you will regret. He could just be scared and worried about being a father. Find out for sure before you do anything. You don't want to leave and be wrong and him not take you back.


Hon if you don't love him don't stay. You don't need to look for a reason to leave if you don't want to be with him anymore.