He is 5 and will be spending tomorrow in in-school suspension. He has behaved horribly all year long. We have changed his diet and bed time, taken away toys, TV, games and outside time. Nothing works. His sister was the same way last year but has improved this year. She was diagnosed with ADHD but we never medicated her. We will have him tested next week. I am at my wits end..I don't know what to do anymore.
2006-11-16 05:01:01 · 13 answers · asked by PEBBLES 1 in Education & Reference ➔ Primary & Secondary Education
His school work is perfect. His grades are fine. He just misbehaves. We do spank..we have tried everything.
2006-11-16 05:10:53 · update #1
He just recently had physical. He has no hearing, or eye problems. He threw something at his teacher today so when I get off work, I am on my way home to have a few words with him.
2006-11-16 05:14:30 · update #2
We talk to our children on a regular basis. We just had an hour talk with them last night about how they would behave today. When we ask him why he does things, he shrugs and says "I don't know"..
2006-11-16 05:18:52 · update #3
OMG! My husband and I do not drink, we do not do drugs, and we attend church on Sundays. We are not abusive..in any way..
2006-11-16 05:21:40 · update #4
There are lots of good answers above here. I think that if he is doing well academically, he is probably bored with the curriculum and needs more of a mental challenge. Additionally, gifted children are often socially immature, and this can be overwhelming for a child. A 5 year old does not have the presence of mind to self correct their behavior--think of how hard it is for you as an adult to cope with your feelings of overwhelm when they happen.
When talking to him about his bad behavior, ask him questions about what was happening when he had his meltdowns. He will not know how to answer "why" he did them, but by asking the right questions, you may be able to determine a pattern that triggers the "overhwhelm"--transitional times, loud times, unstructured times in the school day, etc. Answers to these types of questions may help you, as the adult, to help him identify his behavior patterns and self-correct. This takes YEARS of learning for the little guys, and you'll need to be patient. Get help from a counselor if you can to see if you can nip it in the bud before it becomes full-blown oppositional-defiant behavior, much harder to correct as they get older.
Your little boy is probably gifted--do some research on the net to see how best to support him as he grows!
Good luck!
P.S. You also should talk to the school about their discipline policy. It seems to me that an in-school suspension is NOT age-appropriate. Are they actually using effective methods of discipline when dealing with your son?
2006-11-16 06:05:23 · answer #1 · answered by angiesmom32 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I congratlate you on not falling into the cycle of medicating your child! yay for you! I think that sometimes I child starts school a little to early and they don't know how to act yet. I think that maybe he needs some one on one time in the classroom and he needs time to adjust to everything that is new. There is a small chance that he could be acting out because of other problems such as maybe he cannot see what the teacher is writing/reading so he gets frustrated or he might have a hearing problem. I would suggest getting a physical done to rule things of that nature out. Once again, thank you for not falling into all kids need medication trend!
2006-11-16 05:11:22 · answer #2 · answered by Maryann B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me tell you that I was your son right on until I was thrown out of high school at the age of 17 for knocking the coach unconscious.
For one year at the age of 12 I was sent to live with my grandmother and aunt, and all the trouble disappeared for that year. When I was given the boot, I enlisted, was a perfect soldier for four year and was decorated. Among those ribbons is the "Good Conduct."
Today, I am a retired History Professor who finished under grad in three years and had a Ph.D. nine years after discharge. Trouble disappeared as soon as I was out of my home and away from my birth family, especially important was getting away from an alcoholic father.
Any help in this bio?
2006-11-16 05:19:51 · answer #3 · answered by john s 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is 5 and the school gives in-school suspension!!!! Have you ever considered homeschooling. It seems he is okay with the academics but is having social anxiety having to compete for attention everyday with so many other children. Then there is also the noise factor for concentration. Homeschooling may be an alternative, At least for the primary grades. I am not sure of your state requirements, each state varies. There is such a large homeschooling population now that it is easy to find resources in your area. check with your school district, and other homeschooling families in your area. I find that they are always willing to help out newbee's. Just remember to keep learning fun.......its not what they learn, its teaching them to love to learn that counts
2006-11-16 05:30:53 · answer #4 · answered by gardeniamom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I worked for a Dr that specialized in ADHD children and some children just have to be medicated. My friends son would get in fight everyday for one reason just to do it because he was bored.He would also yell in class and other things but she finally tryed some meds and he has made a big change. Hey I don't want you to think I want you do dope you child up but some kids have a chemical imbalance in their brain. I hope this helped you.
2006-11-16 05:09:59 · answer #5 · answered by kim806 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am no professional, but maybe he is acting that way, becuase he is doing it for attention, maybe because he doesn't want to go to school and be away from home. It could be because he is having trouble in school and that is his way of saying he is struggling. I am only thinking that this could be the problem because I know someone who was sort of like that. I would still suggest taking him and having him tested. I hope that helped.
2006-11-16 05:05:19 · answer #6 · answered by Slider 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
im 14 and my mom had the same problem with me in 1st grade... give it time.
usally when i act up its because i wanna me the one who is right and i dont wanna be put down.
like yesterday in chouir we had a sub and she told me to stop disturbing others and i told her i dont give a crap.
i got an 8 oclock detention.
but try to give him lots of hugs and kisses because i am only 14 and i already miss my moms hugs and kisses.
make him feel loved
&&& DONT SPANK!!! when ever my mom spanks me i alway act up more to get back at her b i t c h a s s
2006-11-16 05:11:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a person diagnosed with ADHD, I very much recomend medicating your child. It really helped me. Not just with behavior problems, but also with my grades.
2006-11-16 05:09:48 · answer #8 · answered by Grant 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Whoop his ***. If that was my son and he was doing some **** like that I would definetly do that. my niece is 1 year and a half and she gets hit in her hand.
2006-11-16 05:03:59 · answer #9 · answered by ReyMysterio'swife 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think he is not understood , maybe theres something he wants to say , and express but hecant , try talking to him .
2006-11-16 05:17:35 · answer #10 · answered by mimid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋