My mate moved away from where i live ages ago. She had on and off relationships with man. Not that its her fault, she is down 2 earth and gorgeous aswell. She works hard she is real. She dont change herself for nobody. What u see is what u get. The problem is she dosent get along with her mum. She dont have a dad. She was abused by her mothers family but noone believes her even her mum. Her brothers and sisters take their mums side.She is the only one in the family who cant get a visa. So she overstayed where she is living now. She cant travel to go anywhere. She is 21 very intelligent and beautiful. She has to put up with **** at work otherwise if she quits she will sleep in the streets. Her home is in Zimbabwe where she cant get a job, her abusive uncle is there and everything is very expensive. When she gets a man she feels happy but they all use her and dump her. 4YRS she has been single. Most of her mates take her kindness for weekness and find her stupid coz shes from Africa.
2006-11-16 04:56:14 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Well it sounds like you care for her so let her know that you are there for her. If you dont want to see her on the streets surely your floor would do.
IN terms of support for her mental health a counceller can be given on the NHS if she's allowed i dont know the rules around her visa and everything. If not ....
National Domestic Violence Helpline - 0808 2000 247
http://www.womensaid.org.uk
Freephone 24 Hour National Domestic Violence Helpline, run in partnership between Women's Aid and Refuge. Women's Aid offers support and refuge for women and children affected by domestic violence. Public numbers for the refuges are on the website.
Home Office - Domestic Violence - http://www.homeoffice.gov.uk/crime-victims/reducing-crime/domestic-violence/?version=1
Steps that people suffering from domestic violence can take. There are phone numbers for organisations.
Refuge 24-Hour National Crisis Line - 0990 995 443
Rights of Women - http://www.rightsofwomen.org.uk/
A charity providing free legal advice by telephone to women in England and Wales
Victim Support - http://www.victimsupport.org.uk
Victim Support (0845 30 30 900) helps people cope with the effects of crime. There are separate advice sections for people living in England and Wales, Scotland and Northern Ireland.
Shelterline - 0808 800 4444 - http://www.shelter.org.uk
Housing advice both for the homeless and people having difficulties paying their rent or mortgage. Numbers for local centres are published, along with information guides.
The Samaritans - 0345 90 90 90 - http://www.samaritans.org.uk
Not only do the Samaritans provide an invaluable listening service, they also raise public awareness of issues such as depression and suicide. You can email them or contact your local branch, listed on the site.
Theres some helpfull info if she gets to a place where she needs someone to talk to or somewhere to stay in terms of refuges and shelters
2006-11-16 05:06:35 · answer #1 · answered by mintycakeyfroggy 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
u no what u shud tell her? that she has a life ahead of her she dnt need ppl trust me i know and she has more thn she thinks she has 4 a start she's inteligent n she seems really nice n totally down to earth n as 4 them at work screw them n she really brave puttin up with all that she gone through n plz do me a favour look after her she really needs you n u lucky 4 havin a friend lyk that thr not many of thm thrs a poem ive gone by since i was 7 n im now 12 n it is: true friends are like rubys precious and rare faulse friends are like autum leaves found every where.
n its them leaves just like at work that she needs to sweep off her driveway n it the rubys she needs to hold onto n tell her there are rubys out there and she needs to find them. good luck both of yas
2006-11-16 06:51:07 · answer #2 · answered by penguini_9214 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is it possible for you to help her out....have her stay with you until she finds somewhere safe...suicide is NOT the answer...there's also hostels and shelters for the homeless, she could go stay there till she's back on her feet...she should report that horrible uncle to the police if he is abusiv towards her, and try find a new job if she is taking too much S*it at work...tell her to stay positive, start looking for somewhere to live...she could even go for a house share if she looks hard enough....but be there for her and help her out...you seem to be the only one she has right now...
2006-11-16 05:08:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
all i can say is be there for her. Let her know she has you. She wont want to really comit suicide i've had those thoughts..as long as you have one friend by your side you can get through it.. good luck and god bless
2006-11-16 05:17:35 · answer #4 · answered by bellsbabe26 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
god poor girl..i really feel for her!!can she move to another place to get all the help she deserves??could she live with you?/x
2006-11-16 05:01:30 · answer #5 · answered by Lydia K 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
try to help her. search for theme associations
2006-11-16 05:10:21 · answer #6 · answered by Kanade 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wateva way u may feel.. DO NOT COMMIT SUICIDE things can n will change 4 her!!!
2006-11-16 05:02:19 · answer #7 · answered by xXxDolly92xXx 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why aren't YOU doing anything to help her then?
2006-11-16 05:00:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
she has you!
2006-11-16 05:03:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋