Over 2 years ago, I "had sex" with my BF. After that he never called, and I didn't want anything to do with him. I was a virgin till then... Six months ago, I got married to n amazing guy!!! The sex was great and everything seemed perfect, untill last night.
I was watching Law and Order SVU- a guy raped four women- near the end of the episode, I started having flashbacks of that night 2+ years ago... and I don't know if I'm going crazy, but I remember what happened now... I wanted to go home cause it was getting REALLY late n I was uncomfortable staying any longer. He said he wasn't feeling well and wanted me to stay just long enough for him to fall asleep, so I tucked him in bed. after a while I fell asleep, I woke up in the middle of him taking of my pants. I said no, but didn't fight him off. I was really groggy and couldn't move. He kept going and penetrated me. Once he was done he helped me get up and walked me to the front door, and said goodnight. I was numb... was I raped?
2006-11-16 04:51:41 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
Sounds like it. BF or not he did it without you really wanting it. Your body and emotions were violated and that will cause some major emotioanl scars that you will need to work through. Sounds liek you are happily married now but you will need to discuss your fear, anger etc.. with your hubby. If it is really bothering you i would suggest a few sessions of counseling to help you work through the feelings. Holding bitterness or anger abotu this deep down will only hurt you and hubby now.
2006-11-16 05:07:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your memory serves you right, then the flashbacks are telling you that something very unpleasant had taken place that night and yes, it constitutes raping. You may want to take to someone you trust about this, maybe a local help & support for assault victims center and possibly follow-up with lodging a police report against the perpetrator of the crime. In addition, you may want to go to your health care provider so go through your medical records on file for the past two years. You might want to check if you experienced nausea, injuries in the private parts, dizziness as side-effects of any date-rape/drugs that were used on you (if any) and to strengthen your case against the accused. I wish you all the very best and hope that whatever course of action you decide on, it's the one that works the best for you.
2006-11-16 05:09:51 · answer #2 · answered by kenny 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not really rape unless you report it that way as it is really a legal term. Not fully saying yes or no is kinda the way half the popualtion of the earth got here. You have to make up your own mind if you report it because you feel strongly it was rape then it is. If you just sorta kinda did or did not want to it may be just a bad lay. See a shrink and sort it out. Did you feel forced?
2006-11-16 05:32:32 · answer #3 · answered by SweetDeath! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say yes, because you said no and he kept going without your permission. You obviously felt bad about it because you didn't want anything to do with the jerk afterward. He should have stopped after you said no. I'm sure after he was inside you woke quickly due to the extreme pain. Oh, I wish you would have scraped his eyes out, this stuff makes me so angry. My ex used to do that while I was asleep even when I said no, I hated it.
2006-11-16 04:59:18 · answer #4 · answered by Lorie S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like he slipped you the date rape drug or something, yes it sounds like he raped you. Even though there is no evidence after two years, make a report anyway, just so it can be on record. What if he has done this to someone else, it sounds like this is somehting he has done before..Good luck boo
2006-11-16 04:56:41 · answer #5 · answered by VivaciousandSexy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
now think long and hard was it rape or are you really upset that ya`ll had sex and he never talked to you again,or was it that now you have found a really good guy and your thinking back to the guy you who was your first.but remember RAPE is a strong statement and once you put it out their you can`t take it back.SO THINK LONG AND HARD.befor you make your next step to make sure this is what really happen,and not that you had sex with this guy and he never call,talked,or respected you afterwards.plz don`t yell rape until your sure.
2006-11-16 05:59:19 · answer #6 · answered by MRS.K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow it definently sounds like he had maybe given you something to make you feel how you felt. Were you drinking anything at the time which would have given him the chance to slip something in your drink at all? The stuff you are describing sounds like you were drugged. There are all kinds of stories you hear about date rape drugs these days.
2006-11-16 04:56:30 · answer #7 · answered by sweetchesta 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I read that some women freeze up when they are attacked and/or raped....then they blame themselves because they didn't fight back....but it is not the woman's fault....everyone reacts differently to situations....extreme fear can make a person do that.
2006-11-16 04:59:18 · answer #8 · answered by Courtney 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldnt worry about it. same thing happened to me. then i got married and had sex so it doesnt really matter now since i am deff not a virgin after havein 5 kids!
2006-11-16 05:05:49 · answer #9 · answered by ♥xoxo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anytime a woman says no a man should stop. My answer is yes you were raped.
2006-11-16 04:55:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋