kid disrespecting adults/how would you punish her?

Question

my boyfriend's 10 yr old daughter got in trouble for yelling and screaming at other kids at recess for "cheating" at tetherball. the supervising adults got involved and she continued screaming and yelling at them. this boggles my mind because when i was a kid i'd never dream of disrespecting an adult like that. but, weren't we all beaten or spanked if we ever tried? nowadays, we fear being accused of child abuse if we even spank them. since this is the first time this has happened, we sorta scolded her but didn't actually punish her. if it happens again, what would you do? this is a deep deep problem!

Answer 1

Nothing wrong with a spanking. People need to realize that spanking is absolutely totally different to beating on a child.

The lake of spanking in society today is the reason why our youth have no respect for anything!

Answer 2

I cant believe that no one is saying that someone needs to TALK to this little girl. She is only 10. If she is acting this way something is wrong. Obviously her parents are divorced or have never been married. Something is wrong and she is hurting. Your boyfriend obviously doesnt know how to talk to a 10 year old girl. Can you? Can you try coming at this from another angle and sit down with her and talk? Try this - " I know that you would not have acted like that unless something was realy bothering you". She may deny this but you just keep asking and be patient. You might have to sit with her for an hour before she opens up to you as I get the impression that this girl is holding a lot in to have so much anger (deep pain is what it really is) in her. Go out for a walk together. PLEASE do not hit her or turn your back on her. She is crying out for help. Do something about it now or in a couple years you will have an angry 14 year old into drugs and by then it will be too late. You could change her life. Wouldnt that be nice?

Answer 3

First of all let your boyfriend and the child's mother discipline her. Only the parents should be involved with her behavioral problems. I myself am a single mother of a 10 year old and I also teach. I do believe she should be punished by taking something away from her that she truly enjoys. I notice that same problem here at the school I teach. Me personally, I believe it's in the water!!!!! It's very rare that we see children behaving properly. I do believe in spanking. The fear of God needs to be put back into to these children when it comes to school an adults. The government has too much say so in the way we run schools and discipline. I hate the fact that they have taken away some of the power out of parenting. Well back to the subject, if that doesn't work than a severe punishment needs to happen. I told my ten year I wasn't going to go to jail over him acting crazy either! When I spank him he seems to straighten up a little bit more, but honestly; America has forgotten this great proverb, "Spare the rod, spoil the child." If rhe authorities object to the types of punishment that is laid out for her ( if she tells on her father) then pack her up and let them take care of her themselves!!!!!!!!

Answer 4

I might must truthfully say sure; that this guy isn't making issues any larger. You are an grownup, and it is a little one. If the dad was once going to yell at someone it will have to were the little one. He will have to have set an illustration, as to what's anticipated inside the family. It looks to me that you just have got to get the guys in determine inside your family. I might allow this guy realize that he's to not scold me in entrance of an little one whilst this little one is already in a degree of disrespecting you. I have no idea the popularity of your family. Like are you additionally a bread winner for the dwelling, or are you a housewife. If you're a bread winner inside the dwelling then I might allow this guy how how I am feeling, and threaten to transport out of the dwelling if he can't manage his mood, and his son. If you're a housewife you continue to have rights you simply must opt for your phrases larger to confront this difficulty. I might hate to supply you the flawed recommendation when you consider that I presently have no idea your popularity inside the family. I am married and we each paintings. I paintings 3 jobs, and I take advantage of cash. I additionally make the entire regulations inside the family for my 3 son's and my husband. I don't play disrespectful guys or kids for that topic, and that i might must let you know to begin talking up for your self, and get your fortress so as.

Answer 5

I would not wait for it to happen again.I would sit her down with my boyfriend have him along with you explain to her that yes the other children were in the wrong for cheating.You understand that she was upset.it was okay for her to be upset anyone would be if someone was cheatin them.Even though the other children were in the wrong that it was also wrong in the manner she choose to deal with the other kids.Yelling/screaming is unacceptable behavior.Whether it is a 10 year old or a grown adult.Give her examples of way to deal with it in case this problem should arise again. then ask her how she feels she could have handled it differently?You should talk to her ,listen to her.teach her right from wrong .Punishment should be apology letter to adults in charge. hope this is useful to you. What would you do if people were cheating you?Nobody listened to you.

Answer 6

We just went through this with my 12 year old step-son. His father spanked him and left a nickle sized bruise on his behind. My step-son's mother called the cops. They took pictures and did an investigation. When my husband went to talk to the investigating officer, the officer said that you can spank your children, as long as it was below the waist. He didn't get into any trouble for the bruise. It might be different in your state, so I would check. But it sounds like that is what she needs, a good ol' butt whoopin'. Might change her attitude for the better.

Answer 7

First of all, you're at a disadvantage because she's not your daughter. So, you need to address this to your boyfriend and gauge his reaction. Don't come off as rude or accusing, because this could come between you and your man. She does, however, need to be reprimanded. I would also apologize to the adults if you know them. Good luck.

Answer 8

The kid was obviously never reprimanded. I don't believe in beating or abusing, but keeping the kid in line is definitely an essential part of good parenting. Somebody needs to have a good, long talk about respect with her.

Answer 9

hey, i just wanted to say that one of the above answers was really disrespectful.

i'm referring to the lady that said that the father 'is obviously unable to talk to a 10 year old.' that comment is completely out of line. the asker said that they scolded her...do you really think that didn't mean "talk"? i just think that was really rude to assume that the parents are not talking to her about the problem. perhaps just talking is not working for them and that is why she brought up the idea of spanking.

Answer 10

There's a difference between a beating and a punishment.
If she deserved it, you're allowed to hit her but not to the point where she can barely walk, and not daily.

Talking wont work with kids like that. The more you talk/lecture, the less they'll hear you.

I don't even act out, all I do is break curfew (9pm, I'm EIGHTEEN) and when they start lecturing/yelling it just gets me annoyed and more willing to stay out late.