Your Fears: For Delivery and/or After Baby Gets Here.?

Question

My ally throughout this pregnancy has been information. I was one of those ppl that was never having kids; then I met my husband. I will be induced on Mon if I don’t have her before then, and I find myself having a hard time relaxing mentally, spiritually, and physically. So I’m curious, what are other mother’s feeling.
What are your fears of delivery; pain is obviously the big one, but what about the pain?
What are your fears after baby gets home?

Answer 1

I had my baby already so I will tell you what my fears turned out to be and exactly how I felt!! When I went into the hospital to give birth the one thing I was worried about was needles, lol! I told the nurse that I didn't want an epidural, no IV..NOTHING!! Pain didn't bother me all that much because I went in there thinking it would slide out like CRISCO, hahaha!!! Yes I honestly did. I thought I was just push hard and she would come out! I didn't think the contractions would be bad at all. When I brought my baby home I thought this would be easy and I could just play with her all day! Well stupid me!! I suffered from the baby blues and part depression..There was nothing wrong with my baby, I hurt like hell due to an episiotomy but I still managed..I would just cry and cry and cry..Ive never read anything up on the baby blues because come one I would never get that but man was I wrong! I feared at home that I would never get better/i wouldn't take care of my baby properly/i wouldn't ever give my baby enough love..and that i would lose my fiance! It was soo frustrating for him to just walk into the room and me start bawling...he got angry and would just leave!!! Baby blues and Postpartum Depression affects so many people that I volunteered now in a group to help suffering mothers seeing as though i am better! my heart goes out to all those that are suffering....

Answer 2

I was one of those I'm never having kids too until i met the right guy. funny how that is huh? Anyway everyone worries about the pain and what its going to be like. It's the fear of the unknown. I can't say what labor is like because I was induced but had an epidoral which made me sleep through 17 hours of labor and then I had a C-section.

I also worried about bringing the baby home. That I wouldnt know everything to do. But really it comes so natural that it becomes second nature pretty quickly.

Everything you are experiencing is normal. Good luck to you and congrats!

Answer 3

Labor and delivery is a very intense and tough thing to go through, so of course we all get worried and stressed a little bit. We can worry about the pain as you said, also if we will be a good mother, if the baby will be healthy, if the baby will grow up to be a good person or not, if you will love the baby as much as you think you should, if the baby will get along with siblings, etc etc. There are just so many things to worry about with another life that will soon be *your* responsibility.

Don't worry too much though, babies have never come with an instruction manual, but we have all made it through, haven't we? ;)

Answer 4

I was induced with my first born. I wasn't scared of the birth, as I knew the doctor's / nurse's were there to care for me. What I was scared of was that complications would occur (but didn't) and that something would be wrong with her. Everything went fine enough that when I had my second child, nothing fizzed me at all about the pregnancy or the birth. And there were no fears of bringing either child home. I was excited to begin my new life as a mother, and I still to this day enjoy it even though my kids are now teens.

Answer 5

Hire a doula! If you can not have enough money one, seem for one desiring a certification. She can aid either one of you. If dad has to depart, you will not be on my own. Do no longer expect the employees to be by means of your aspect to your whole exertions. You will see the surgeon a highest of more often than not 20 mins for the whole beginning. The nurses can not be with you for quite a lot of mins at a time, as they've different sufferers to generally tend to. A doula might be there for bodily and emotional aid. She too can be careful to your husband as good. I train childbirth categories, and I've met a couple of dads' who faint on the sight of blood. Yet one way or the other those men make it via beginning with out fainting. I continuously inform them that the most important factor they may be able to do to prevent fainting is be certain they get whatever to devour throughout the exertions and keep hydrated. Some dad's need to sit down up toward mother's head, and simply seem into her eyes, however many come to be seeing whatever and nonetheless stay status. ;-) If he has to depart the room, your doula might be by means of your consistent. She is the only individual who you've gotten to grasp and would be the consistent face even if there's a nurse shift difference. Good success!

Answer 6

I didn't worry much with my first one about the pain...I had already made up my mind to do it without medication...so I prepared myself to just deal with it...my biggest fear was something going wrong...or being in labor for like 30 hours...thank God neither of these happened....I'm 33 weeks with my second and have Gestational Diabetes...so my fear this time around is having to have a C-section...the thought of them cutting me open terrifies me...I've never had surgery before in my life...or even broken a bone for that matter! So, hopefully my baby won't get too big and I won't have to have a C-section...I wasn't too worried about bringing her home cause my mom stayed with me for a week after I had her...my only fear this time around is my 3 yr old daughter trying to pick the new baby up and dropping him...that runs through my head all the time...

Answer 7

I went through so much getting my first here. i was in hard labor for 72 hours pushed for three and had an emergency c-section. with the second baby i had to have a c-section. i went into labor which was fine but then they could not get the needle in my spine right. it took them 15 tries to get it in. then i had to be put under which is scary because they have to do it just fast enough so that the baby does not get any med. from putting me under. i guess my biggest fear is something going wrong again. i gave birth to two healthy babies.there perfect but it was hell getting them here. i guess im just afraid something will happen again and i will have to go through something like that all over. the pain is not that bad its just the fear. getting them home is scary the first time. your worried about taking them on your home. while in the hospital you have the nurses and the doctors all right there to tell you what to do and help but when you get them home its just you and there daddy. but it all works out you learn what to do and how to take care of them. Its fun and wonderful. Good luck.

Answer 8

We're stationed overseas and my husband is gone right now. My biggest fear, beyond the pain, is that I'll go into labor early and have to go through it alone. My mother-in-law is already coming after the baby's born, and no one else in my family can afford to come. After my first labor/delivery class, I came home scared to death of doing it all by myself, and that hasn't really gone away.

Answer 9

The nurses will tell you to relax with whatever emotions you might have. My fear of delivery (I delivered twice) was pain. It's exactly like menstural cramps and when they get unbearable, they'll give you an epidural (to numb you from waist down) shot in your middle back (only if you choose to receive it). When they give you your shot-DON'T MOVE-YOU'LL REGRET IT. After baby gets home, your fear will be not enough of sleep and it's proven true. Good luck and God bless you on your delivery.
Mom of B & D

Answer 10

After the baby is born, I'm going back to work part time. I'm afraid we wont be able to do it, and I'll have to go back full time. I want to be a stay at home mom more than anything. One of my biggest fears is the baby calling someone else mom. I want to be there for every first word, first step, first boo boo. If I have to work full time, I'll miss that!