Does this bug anyone else?

Question

I am 13 weeks pregnant, and all the "experts" are coming outta the woodwork! I am a bartender and all my co-workers and regular customers know that I am pregnant. They all know it all! Im sure they are just trying to be helpfull be geez. I even had a guy last night (who is single with no kids) tell me I was crazy because i feel like I am having a boy, he say's it's a girl! They are driving me nuts! Anyone else notice this?

Answer 1

Yes!

I wanted to wear a t-shirt that said:

What is it about my being pregnant that makes YOU stupid?

Answer 2

This is the bain of all pregnant women. Everyone has advice, and most of it is just plain kooky! But as many mothers have already pointed out here, it just gets worse once your child is born. The most annoying will be the "breast feeding nazis" as I like to call them. If you have any problems breastfeeding or if you just choose not to, they will attack like a band of harpees. They'll tell you that every woman is capable of breastfeeding, and that you are either lying or doing something wrong. I listened to this militant sect with my first child and almost landed my malnourished baby in the hospital because I truely did not produce enough milk. The same thing happened with my second child, but I was ready with a bottle of formula to supplement with and a broom to beat off the harpees. My kids are now 4 and 5 and I still get unwanted advice, though it had tapered down. You'll face the worst when your son is an infant and the only polite thing to do is just smile and let it go out the other ear the moment they walk off. Trust your gut, not anyone's advice. Even the doctor's get it wrong sometimes, so if you feel they've told you something wrong, don't dismiss your own instinct.

Answer 3

What bothered me the most and STILL bothers me is a single sister in law who has NO kids yet she tells me what i should do and what I am doing wrong. My kids are 22 18 6 and we have 3 foster kids ages 6 16 months and 9 months old. over the past 6 years we have had over 40 kids stay with us as foster kids. I think I know what I am doing and i know each child is different when is this woman going to get through her head that i KNOW what I am doing? YES people like you are talking about drive me crazzzzzzzzzzyyyyyyyyyyy.

Answer 4

I know I have three children and everytime people like to crazy things about your pregnacy! My "favorite" has always been from like 8 months on is "your still pregnant" well let me check YES!!! Then after you have the babypeole will let you know everything you are doing "wrong", I was asked to leave the store one time because my son was crying, the people were saying you should feed him or something, he had a stomach disorder that made digesting painful he was only a few weeks old, I left the store crying!!

Answer 5

Oh yeah, and don't forget the friends that say they are "living through you" cause they wanna be pregnant and you are. Then they say WE are going to get ready for this baby together. I want to know is she going to start buying diapers next month like I am? And everyone has something to say. Don't do this do that and are you always eating.... it goes on and on. I am 4 months and I eat small amounts every 3-4 hours ( it is the only way I can eat without getting sick) and just comments rack my nerves. Sorry you asked and I vented. Anyway good luck with your pregnancy I hope all is wonderful.

Answer 6

Yes - even my close family started with this, they all say everyone is different in pregnancy, but if I differ from them at all it's time to rush me to the ER or I'm not taking care of myself properly. It's like the whole world goes mad when you become pregnant. I have just been dealing with it for now, but may have to start ignoring them, they make me very paranoid!! Good luck, I know they all wish us the best but I wish they would lay off!! Especially the men, what do they know about how tired and sick we are??

Answer 7

Honey this is going to happen the rest of your life. Even after the baby is born you are going to have all these people telling you what to do what not to do and everything else. Take it all with a grain of salt and say thanks for the advice. But also be thankful that you have so many people who want to make sure everything goes right. It is good to know that people care and the support of people is a good thing to have during these times.

Answer 8

Oh my gosh...people drive me insane! My grandmother always tells me what I'm not supposed to be doing or eating...I had to stop talking to her about my pregnancy because she always thought the worst about everything...I know that she wants the best for me and means well- but people have got to understand that is our learning time...and that every pregnancy is different...so just because they got sick from something doesn't mean we're going to...I know exactly what you mean...and the other answerers are right...it gets worse...with my first- complete strangers actually came up to me in public and touched my stomach or gave me "advice" and now (i'm 33 weeks with my second) complete strangers feel the need to comment on my belly size...someone actually asked me if I was about to pop...and I still have 7 weeks left!

Answer 9

I had alot of people offering advice, but it was worse after the baby was born. Then all sorts of people with no kids had an opinion on bedtimes, feeding, the works. We decided that if it came from someone that had kids - and was doing a good job with them - that we would listen. Otherwise we just ignore them.

Answer 10

When I was pregnant everyone told me that I would have a girl because I carried so high. I ended up having a boy. It drove me crazy as well. People rely to much on myths. Everyone seems to know everything. Like " if you have heartburn it means your baby has a lot of hair." Well, my baby was bald. It's ridiculous.

Answer 11

Get used to it. It isn't going to stop here--just wait until your son is born. Then it gets REALLY fun. It was 70 degrees out for us, and our son had taken off his shoes and socks, like he usually did. Some woman yelled at us for not giving him shoes. Pssh!

Listen though: you're going told advice from everyone--doctors, parents, relatives, strangers, friends--and the majority of it will contradict each other. In the end it comes down to the fact that YOU know your child, and you need to do what's best for the child. Just smile kindly and thank them, but you know what works best for you.