How do you prevent becoming a perv?

Question

I'm afraid I'm turning into a pervert. I don't want to be a sexual predator/deviant, but my mind is trying to push me that way.

What do I do, before this destroys my life and the life of those I care about?

Answer 1

It depends upon how you define the word, "pervert." To many people, a "pervert" is someone who engages in sexual activity which considered "normal," but does it in ways that are unethical/illegal: eg, rape, masturbation in public, sexual harassment, etc. But a true sexual perversion, ie, a "paraphilia," is something like sadomasochism, fetishism, transvestism, etc. TRUE perverts are the way they are (probably) due to early childhood experiences, and really can't change. But they can, and do, find ways to satisfy their desires in a socially acceptable manner (well, except for some: necrophiles, pedophiles, zoophiles, etc, have a problem ;)). If you're a "real" perv, you should, perhaps, get involved with an organization that understands and caters to your special needs. If you're what most people call a "perv," you ought to just decide to behave in an ethical manner.

Answer 2

You are saying that you are turning into a pervert - sound like you could identify something that you did or am doing now that is leading you there. I have a question for you - what or who is driving you there? How?

You mentioned your mind is leading you there? Seems like you mind is quite strong. What else is stronger that will lead you the other way?

What do you think you could do if you perefer not to seek help? If you intend to seek help, who should you go to?

The key to your question is really about those whom you care about. If you so desire, you could put a stop to it. Only you could decide and take action even after you have seek help.

I hope this help you. If you know the answers from others, it may not help you as much if you could resolve the matter yourself - i.e. by asking and answering the questions.

Answer 3

1. Keep yourself busy with other things.
If you do other things, besides surfing porn, for example, on the computer (is this part of what you're talking about?), then you'll "crowd out" the behavior that you want to avoid or eliminate.

Learn Microsoft Excel, for example. You don't need to learn a computing language, and Excel is useful for budgeting your money, computing costs of financing a car, or comparing costs of different products or services like cellphone plans (which isn't heavy on Excel skills, but it helps to tabulate things).

Play games online like at Yahoo games. It will seem childish, but that will help too. Get reacquainted with the feeling of wonder of the simple things.

Offline, join a club or volunteer. The more you're off the computer, the less time you'll have to surf porn.

If your problem is not internet-related, then tailor your method accordingly.

2. Consider the *concrete* consequences of your actions.
I saw a guy on one of those news magazines (20/20 on ABC or something like that). He kicked a heroine habit by imagining the police coming through his door whenever he prepared to shoot up. For you, think of getting caught by the police for doing something illegal. Or think of scenes where you would be shamed when you would be "exposed" for these activities.

3. Consider the waste of time that perverted activities are.
You could be learning something new, working towards a higher degree (college, post-grad), or just making more money and investing it for healthy things like vacations and retirement.

4. Oh, yeah: counseling, as others have suggested.

I hope these suggestions help.

Answer 4

Studies show that sexual deviants were obsessed with pornography that gradually depicted more and more violent or abusive images.
If you use pornography, you should stop and get counselling so it doesn't become the only thing you think about, and so you don't spiral down into sadist material.
Also, if you are in a sexual relationship, talk to your partner and really get to know her so you associate sex with a good relationship. And don't do the one-night stand thing, it's pretty much just shopping for a disease.
Mostly, I would suggest you get some counselling, if not with a therapist, then a trusted friend who is not in the same predicament, who will keep you in line.

Answer 5

You have just taken the first step congratulations, You can be do and have anything, unless you want it too much in other words just let the idea of becoming go. You have to understand that we are all pervs we are all mean we are all killers, we are all everything and nothing, every part that exsits is within each of us and trying to hide it or judgeing it will just make it harder to accept.
You can ask people what they think esp. your friends and you I garentee will be amazed when they tell you their truth, you will no when this is happining because you will say to yourself I am not like that or maybe I could not be like that and you will find a part of yourself that you may want to find a way to accept. Go to amazon and but The darkside of the lightchasers by Debbie Ford and you will understand. All you realy need to do is look inside yourself because you realy can do anything you like.

Answer 6

You must understand that the thoughts we all have are implanted there by unseen evil forces or forces for good. You have a leg up in recognizing the evil thoughts that the demonic powers have been trying to get you to commit. What you must do is surrender to Jesus Christ through prayer and ask him to come into your heart and give you strength to resist these evil thoughts and they will flee from you. You then will become a child of God and will be empowered with the Holy Spirit in order to fight off these attacks.

Answer 7

First of all, I want to tell you that we all have our own demons to fight, whether it be of a sexual nature, or jealousy, or greed, etc. Your problem is not uncommon, I'm afraid. But at least you are concerned and want to be well. It is not surprising that so many people have difficulty with pervertedness and deviance when our society shoves sex in our faces relentlessly. Advertising, tv, movies, internet porn- it's everywhere. You have to realize that your beliefs about sex are being influenced by these things, and these are wrong things. They are portraying sex in the most vile ways, and it takes away the soul of us all. You sound like you are being consumed by these thoughts in your mind. Please seek help, and seek to know God- not through some tv preacher who wears a false face, and bears false witness- but through the pure truth of the word. You cannot fight those demons by yourself- you need spiritual help. I have not had problems with deviance, but have struggled with sexual demons- we all have. I just began seeking out people who were on the path I wanted to be on. I left behind friends who wanted to spend time around unsavory places, watching unsavory things, thinking unsavory thoughts. You can change your mind and your life too.

Answer 8

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Answer 9

get a life and stop perving! Speak to your doctor or a counsellor talk to the Samaritans? you may have to be specific about your problem . You may need drugs or mental health assistance. Do something before you become a problem to other people.

Answer 10

We act out that which is modelled to us in our formative years. You have freewill to make the choices you desire. Surround yourself with that which you most want to emulate. What t.v. shows ,video games ,people do you expose to your self? You are in the ultimate decision maker in your life. If it is really challenging go to a professional fro assistance. If you have an infection you go to a doctor for assistance. Same thing if you have "pus brain " go to a doctor for assistance.It is all about being personally responsible.