on drugs (pills, coke, crack, you name it). She works, he doesn't. They can barely afford to put food on the table. What should I do, if anything. I lend her money, give her rides places....Should we have an intervention? She is almost fed up, he stole her jewlery recently for $. What should I do? Get involved or stay out???
2006-11-16 03:33:37 · 9 answers · asked by baby girl 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
DO what you have to do for the sake of that baby. My cousin is a crank head and has been one for 20 years his kids are 11 & 8 one lives with his grandma the other lives with my mom now.He has put those kids through HELL. He is my kin but sometimes you have to make a decision. He is old enough to take care of himself, but the kids need to be protected from his dangerous lifestyle. So friend or no friend think of that poor, defenceless, precious little baby. Someday if the daddy straightens his life up he will not be able put into words his greatfulness. The 8 year old that lives with my mom told me Sunday night " I wish you were my Daddy". It takes a lot of abuse for a child to give up on a parent. A child would be better off not knowing a parent than to be hurt that way by the ones who are supposed to love them the most.
2006-11-16 04:01:22 · answer #1 · answered by BIGolBOY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
good it relies. what approximately pregnancy makes him now not desire to have intercourse? is it her apperance or is he afraid?? if it is her apperance then they rather must perform a little speaking. Couse he has a correct to his possess feeling, how ever piggish they will look. Let him speak it out, possibly she is not watching prego just a bit at the puggy facet. And that's harboring a few resentment in him. however as soon as he sees child in there matters would difference. if he's afraid once more inform him the details your physician must supply you a pamphlet approximately it and possibly with the intention to ease him. Good success. I for my part have thanked god for porn. I am in no temper( 7 months prego) to have intercourse and my husband is continually within the temper. we've determined a reasonable meduim in the meanwhile. But speak it out and spot what the truly challenge is. i doubt it's almost how she appears couse he's a pig. regardless that it perhaps, then she must significantly lay into him.
2016-09-01 13:30:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK I'm gonna step out of my caveman persona for this one. yes an intervention is needed. i speak from experience if you really care for this person you have to get tough.and if he does not get the help he needs, then he needs to be cut off and sent away.imagine if he continues after the child is born are you going to buy diapers and formula and if you do he will take them and return them for drug money.Ive been clean and sober for almost 10 years now and still remember the horror of going through what your friend is living. for both of their sakes stop him now
2006-11-16 03:45:05 · answer #3 · answered by Unfrozen Caveman 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually it is best not to get involved, but in this case it seems like this could be a dangerous situation for your friend. She really needs to be the one who tells him it needs to stop or he needs to leave...most cases he will choose the drugs, which is really sad. I hope it works out well for your friends
2006-11-16 03:36:56 · answer #4 · answered by saraikyon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't hurt to help. That child will need as much as possible. It takes a village to raise a child.
2006-11-16 03:36:21 · answer #5 · answered by RoxieC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As hard as it is to turn your back on one friend, it is harder to watch someone's life be harmed by another. You need to approach the boyfriend and tell him that he's screwing up his life and her life. If he can't change, then your pregnant friend needs to move on and start of life of her own.
2006-11-16 03:36:19 · answer #6 · answered by flyboop_2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jerry, Jerry, Jerry
2006-11-16 03:35:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
um get that man out of her life and the baby's.
2006-11-16 03:47:03 · answer #8 · answered by Sara S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get involved, and firstly, help her to move on immediately. She is in danger. She needs help, her unborn child needs your help, and she needs the courage to make the right decision for HERself. Then print this post and give it to her.
It takes courage to say ENOUGH is ENOUGH.
Courage, contrary to popular belief, is not the absence of fear. Courage is the wisdom to act in spite of fear.
Don't be afraid to say enoug is enaough. We never know what we can accomplish until we dare to try. To risk takes courage and determination. Knowing what we want, having goals and not being deterred by others' opinions gives a special force to our existence. Having courage provides our lives with momentum and we discover our capabilities.
A lot has to do with our attitude. Those who move through their lives as positive people are probably more comfortable with circumstances they encounter. They are more open and have more flexibility and calm. If most of our daily thoughts are negative they will reflect how we experience life. We can take our power back.
What does courage mean to you? Do you think of the firefighters who lost their lives in the World Trade Center towers? Do you think of the men and women serving in Afghanistan and Iraq?
What about the courage to admit a mistake? Or the courage to stop someone from hurting you? Or the courage to stand up for what you believe? Or the courage to just be yourself?
Yes, all those things take courage, but all of those things also have something else in common. Do you think any one of those things can be accomplished without feeling some fear? No. There cannot be courage without fear.
Courage is not the absence of fear, but rather the judgment or decision that something else is more important than the fear. Courage is what you do IN SPITE of the fear, in spite of the resistance, in spite of what you want right now.
But you don't have to show the kind of courage that it takes to get on the 6:00 news. You can show courage every day. It takes courage to go against "that's just the way it is."; or "what can I do about it?", or "I've always been this way"; or "They won't let me...".
Courage is deciding not to put your current desires above your desires for the future. Courage is deciding there's something more important.
For me, courage brings to mind the Bible story of David fighting Goliath. In order to get into the Promise Land, David had to fight his giant. Don't you image he had something else he would have rather done that day? Fighting a giant wasn't likely at the top of his list. But he chose not to put his current desire over his true desire. In order to get into your own personal promise land, you'll have to have courage to stand up to your personal giants too.
It takes courage to end an unhealthy relationship.
It takes courage to quit an unfulfilling job.
It takes courage to say No to someone who is using you.
It takes courage to set up a new spending plan.
It takes courage to say Yes to your dreams when it means putting your self-esteem out there for the whole world to see (well, that's relative, but you know what I mean).
It takes courage to reorganize your time so that you spend it on what is most meaningful to you.
It takes courage to ask for what you need and want in your life.
It takes courage to be honest.
Courage doesn't mean that you don't recognize the difficulty of the task. Not at all. It does mean that you are willing to do it anyway, to push yourself out of the comfort zone, to give it a try. Courage is standing up to whatever mental-emotional-physical "Giant" is in your life. Resolve to live in such a way that courage, not fear, directs your life. Resolve to determine your own worth, not let someone else decide it for you. Resolve to stop working hard to build someone else's dreams. It's time to find the courage to take your future into your own hands.
Start to dream again. We did it often as children. Our imaginations ran as wild as we did. It's time to unwrap our cocoon and burst out into the sunlight. So often we are timid, afraid of what others might think about us or our choices. Let's shed the fear like an old skin embracing the new, the adventurous. Life passes at a seemingly faster pace as we get older. Let's promise ourselves not to waste another moment worrying about how others view us. It's how we view ourselves that is the most important.
It’s your life…imagine the possibilities.
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Once you've gotten her on the road to a positive life, you can tend to her boyfriend through an intervention.
Best of luck with your friend and her boyfriend.
2006-11-16 03:35:23 · answer #9 · answered by Lilly 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋