This may seem silly since I am a happily married woman who is 20 wks pregnant with #4 but I would like some advice on how to tell my parents. When I was pregnant with # 3, I told my mother over the phone and she was horrible-said "if I want to be white trash", "sometimes abortion isn't a bad thing",etc,etc. She finally came around and apologized but the hurt she caused me will never completely go away. This past summer she has been hounding me that she hopes I don't get pregnant again soon, etc so I expect her to be very negative again when I tell her. I just don't get why she is so concerned with how many kids/how close together I have them-we are not asking them to raise or pay for them. It's our family and we are very happy with it. So I could use some advice on how to tell them -I definitely won't do it over the phone this time, I could write them a letter , or tell them when I see them in early Dec. Thanks in advance. This is causing unnecessary stress.
2006-11-16 03:02:47 · 5 answers · asked by ? 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Don't tell them. They will figure it out sooner or later. Why are you so worried about what they think anyway? They are not paying your bills.
2006-11-16 03:07:34 · answer #1 · answered by maamu 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I am with the don't tell crowd . . . many time parents have issues that get inappropriately pushed off on the child (even adult children) & since she is apparently NOT geting the psychiatric counseling she needs . . . minimize your contact & communicaton.
In fact, you need to write her a short, simple note . . . indicating that due to her unresolved issues and its adverse impacts, you are minimizing communication about your family, until such time as she gets the couseling she needs. When she feels ready to be a positive & constructive grandmother, you will be happy to include her more in your family.
2006-11-16 11:16:19 · answer #2 · answered by kate 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I wouldn't tell her at all.
When you start showing if she notices, tell her that you didn't want to tell her because she hurt your feelings before. Then if she is still rude about it tell her it really isnt any of her business and she should respect you for that and get over her attitude! And if not well poo on her!
2006-11-16 11:06:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree. Don't tell them. If they see you much, they'll figure it out. And whatever you do, don't stress over this. As long as you aren't depending on them for support, financial or otherwise, then just lead your own life. It's their loss.
2006-11-16 11:13:23 · answer #4 · answered by Momma Jo 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell at all....
You enjoy your pregnancy and why should you worry about thaaaaaaaaaaaaaat...........
2006-11-16 11:11:43 · answer #5 · answered by shan 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋