Friends with benefits good or bad?

Answer 1

It all depends if you are both on the same page about what's going on or else someone will probably get hurt.

Answer 2

This is usually a bad idea. Unless the bounderies are fully understood by both parties involved, which is hardly ever the real case, people get hurt by this. Women will often believe if they agree to be a 'freind with benifits', the man will eventually come to care and love them, as the woman cares and loves the man. Women seldom truly want to have such a degrading relationship, they only enter into it due to a belief if they are around the man enough he will see how good they are together and it will develope into a serious relationship. This seldom occures as the man truly only wants the benifits not a real romantic relationship. Women are allowing themselves to be hurt, and men need to understand that very few woman truly want the same thing the man wants. If more men understood how women think they would be less inclined to ask a friend to be a 'friend with benifits'. Why do you think so many men and women refuse to do this as they are so concerned about losing the friendship? Because this is usually what happens when friends mix sex. The woman and less often the man, truly wants more than what this defines and when they finally relalize they are not going to get what they want they become hurt and bitter and the friendship is lost.

Most often a bad thing unless it is VERY clear BOTH parties involved truly are expecting the same things from the situation.

Answer 3

It's very rare that it works out well for both parties - so many times, one person agrees to it only because they actually want a relationship the other party and figure this will be the first step to making that happen. Next thing you know, the friendship is destroyed, forever.

"But we had an understanding!"

Short answer: If you have to ask if it's a good idea: it's not. If they are a co-worker: it's bad. But some people need to make their own mistakes, to learn WHY it's so often not the win/win situation that it seems like it should be, on paper.

Answer 4

I would not let your friendship turn into something that you might regret later on in life. Your friend and yourself should just remain friends, no matter what. The friendship won't last if you persue it, no matter how much both of you say nothing will happen, there are always regrets after. And they will haunt both of you. So, it is a very bad idea.

Answer 5

Bad

This never works out for anyone, no matter how much both parties try to tell themselves it will and feelings will never change..
Feelings always change, there will always be one party that develops the "I want more than friends" feelings and someone, if not both, always get hurt..and this is how lives get turned upside down, friendships end, rumors start, etc...

humans are way to complex and emotional for this kind of relationship..

Answer 6

NOT good... If your friendship is worth it to you then keep the benefits out of it.. Otherwise 99% chance of losing the friend in the end....

Answer 7

it could be good at the beginning if you both know what youre in it for but possibly you might get in a bad spot if one of you have a change of feelings. and it can possibly end quite badly. you never know what is going to happen in a relationship like this.

Answer 8

WHo is the friend and what is the benefit?

Answer 9

I guess that it dependd and how you set up things from the beginning, but usually there's someone that stucks up with the other more than what was planned and gets hurt...
I think if things are clear from the beginning and noone forgets about it, things can work out

Answer 10

It starts out nice doesn't it but it always goes bad someone eventually falls in love and get hurt

Answer 11

Come on guys and girls. Don't tell me you never had a friend like that?? In my opinion is nothing wrong with that, as long that you guys don't have someone else that you are commited to.