I really don't understand, i see 13,14,15 yearolds here, talking about how they might be pregnant! Im 17 and I have to admit I've always been mature for my age, also mature enough to know, that if I have sex, the moments of pleasure aren't worth the times of nervousness im bound to have, wondering if im pregnant or not. Sex should be for MATURE people, who can face both the pleasure AND the consequences! It really worries me that this is what are world is coming to, its sort of like taking a step behind.
I know Im going to reamain a virgin, until I decide Im ready. It doesn't mean i have to wait until marriage, just until I consider myself mature enough, and fankly I think thats what all these other girls should do...
2006-11-16
02:31:33
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I really am not insulting anyone...its just that sometimes, im a little shocked... I go to a small private school, and I hardly see this, and it sort of shocks me...
2006-11-16
02:54:27 ·
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There is nothing wrong with waiting. So many people now days are under the misconception that they have to have sex in order to express their love or to feel needed. I'm proud of you. Hang in there. You're doing a good thing.
2006-11-16 02:35:25
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answered by Drewood 5
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Your A Very Smart Young Lady...You Have A Good Head On Your Shoulders...And I Hope It Stays That Way...If I Were You, Then I Would Wait Til you Were Married, And You'll Be Glad You Did..! Some Girls Just Don't Think Before They Let It Go...But Apparently Their Ready For The Consequences...
2006-11-16 14:27:29
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answered by *Proud Mommy Of 2* 4
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That is wonderful that you are mature enough to make that choice for yourself. Kudos to you! However, we live in a culture inundated by sex- good, bad, or indifferent. Many teens do not have the maturity, or the parents willing to sit through uncomfortable conversations to educate their children, to understand the risks that come with having sex. Having sex is a big responsibility; one that should not be taken lightly. There are risks involved, such as pregnancy, HIV, and STD's. Sex may last a few minutes, the consequences can last a lifetime. I would advise you to try to encourage your friends and siblings to make smart choices rather than condemn them for having sex. Chances are, you will not be able to change their minds, but you could use your maturity to try to educate them about protecting themselves, and the risks involved with having sex. There are no guarantees that birth control/condoms will work effectively 100% of the time. Give advice compassionately, and you may have a better response and actually help some of your friends make a better choice!
2006-11-16 02:42:09
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answered by Anonymous
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U Go Girl! What ur parents and more importantly U have learned that it's OK to Wait. No shame, no blame but a respect for yourself to develop this aspect of life when Ur ready to handle all that it entails.
Many of our young teens and young women feel they have to have sex to be loved. Love isn't about getting laid. It's developing the ability to know who u are, what u want from life, and surrounding yourself with people who respect, love and appreciate u for the person u are. It's finding that special someone who compliaments the adult u've become. Who is committed and wants to take ur relationship to the next level. It will happen when you want it. And any friends who are pressuring u, aren't ur friends.
Don't get me wrong, sex is wonderful. But if done too young, the girl is searching and jumping from bed to bed. With so much STD's, babies having babies, and searching for love in all the wrong places we are where we are. Can children makes lives for themselves with their own babies. Some do, but the majority live above poverty. Making it equally tough on the next generation by the choices of these young teens. It's not disrepecting, they have choosen a hard road.
See the world, enjoy travel, have a career and develop a relationship. Kids will happen for those who want it. Others will choose not to have children which is ok. But it needs to be what u want from life. Wheither u marry and have your first sexual experience really isn't the issue. It's allowing yourself the time, the freedom to have the choice of intimacy when its right for all parties involved.
2006-11-16 06:45:29
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answered by Staci 4
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Hi! I am writing a article in the Courier post about purity rings and abstinence I couldn't agree with you more. My life is more valuable then a piece of bootie. That can come later on in life. I have expierence one relationship, but the person was not mature or ready for anything. I too am told that I act older then my age. In fact I look older than I really am, but that doesn't mean that I need to use what God gave me the wrong way. I am proud to be a virgin.
2006-11-16 03:12:56
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answered by Nerdy Girl 1
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I like the way you think. I wish I would have waited until later in life. I wish I wouldn't have waited when it would have actually MEANT something, you know. But I will say, I knew all the consequences, and I when they arose, I faced them. That is why I am 22 with a 5 year old daughter!!!
When I think about it, sometimes I wish I would have waited until marriage really. When it was with someone I loved. But times have changed and that isn't important anymore in society, or so it would seem.
But you be who you are!!! Wait until you are ready, or marriage!! It will mean more to you!!!
2006-11-16 02:42:48
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answered by Anonymous
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The unfortunate truth is that many young girls are so neglected by their parents or guardians they mistakenly equate having sex for love. Mostly lack of attention from their dads but both parents are guilty of this. Some would say that is a cop out or excuse. I would too, but I have witnessed that phenomenon with my own kids friends. You obviously had people in your life that cared for you a great deal and you feel really good about yourself as a result. You have a really good head on your shoulders.
2006-11-16 05:18:24
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answered by bonobo 2
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I really wish I knew what I know now back then because the guy that I'm with right now would have my first. But I listened to all my friends telling me every body was doing it. More people need to talk to our younger generation about it cause some feel that they have to to fit in. I tell my little sisters all the time they should wait for the person thats right for them and dont feel presured. Thanks for putting it out and keep it up. Wish I could have said I was a virgin at 17.
2006-11-16 04:51:51
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answered by Pumpkin 2
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Thats how i feel! I'm 16 and plan on waiting! Our school is quite big (approx. 2,000 students) and we don't see much of this, either. I think 1 girl is pregnant this year, and its a HUGE deal. We live in a higher end area, though.
Its horrible to think that people are so young and pregnant! I'm definitely waiting until I'm ready. I haven't even dated yet. Although I want a boyfriend, school plays to big a role in my life! It has to be the right person, who would respect me.
:-)
2006-11-16 08:11:12
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answered by countrygurl587 3
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I lost my virdinity a month before my 18th B-day, I am glad I waited even though I did get labeled a slut just because my friends were but I knew I wasn't. It is funny because I am 26 now ans was the first out of my old friends to have children ( I am married) I think it's great there are still people out there that have values and self-respect!
2006-11-16 02:37:38
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answered by Jody 6
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