A friend of mine blames me for everything n when i tell some people about what happened n if i am wrong or not they say i am not wrong n that she's the one that blames me for everything,,,what should i do now?
2006-11-16 02:16:36 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
How do face her without feeling guilty?when some1 is bothering me n i wanna tell them that i always feel shy as if i were wrong ?How do i have confidence in myself n face people who treat me badly?
2006-11-16 02:26:21 · update #1
How to face her without feeling guilty?when some1 is bothering me n i wanna tell them that, i always feel shy as if i were wrong .How do i have confidence in myself n face people who treat me badly?
2006-11-16 02:28:47 · update #2
Doesn't sound like much of a friend to me. Dump her like yesterday's newspaper and find some real friends.
2006-11-16 02:17:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a entire group blaming me for things that had gone wrong my arguments that they were wrong fell on deaf ears until,
I compiled a list of all the items I was being blamed for for a period of one month.
I admitted error for the one Item that was my error, then stated. "you all say the rest are my fault,and since no one else here admits to error ever, it must be so. But it seems very unlikely that all this was my errors, my fault. but that is what I am hearing. No one else makes a mistake , ever, note that please."
Then I dropped it.
I said this straight , no sarcasm or anger. The silence after wards was deafing. No one admitted anything but the constant blaming stopped too.
Leave room for saving face but point out that it is unlikely that all the errors are yours . then drop it. leave room for others to salvage dignity.
Be honest with your self tho admit to your errors then you will not do them again.
2006-11-16 10:44:37 · answer #2 · answered by Alan G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sould tell this person how you feel and let her know that her blaming you for everything is making your friendship fall apart. Don't let someone blame you for things that you did not even do, it's not right to treat a friend that way. If she is a true friend she will understand and stop but if not then she is not our friend.
2006-11-16 10:20:13 · answer #3 · answered by Kidd 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let her know that you don't appreciate the accusations and to get some substantive proof prior to casting further aspersions in your direction.
2006-11-16 10:19:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell her to knock it off, and tell her to start taking responsibiltiy for her own actions or else you will stop being her friend. She's very immature and needs to grow up.
2006-11-16 10:19:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to set her straight. Talk to her about it and see what's up. she may just be one of those people that won't take responsibility for anything. Either way, you need to let her know you won't put up with it anymore.
2006-11-16 10:18:28 · answer #6 · answered by purple rain 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You keep some mean friends by your side.
2006-11-16 10:18:24 · answer #7 · answered by MOVING 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is a FREE LOADER trust me she is not your friend ! she is just treating you like a maid and you know her manner is a INQUISITIVE INFANTILE !
2006-11-16 10:32:25 · answer #8 · answered by DaRkAngeL XIII 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find another friend....this one's a poser.
2006-11-16 10:19:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That sucks. You shouldnt be that persons friend!
2006-11-16 10:19:32 · answer #10 · answered by Sammy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋