Every since I found out I was pregnant I seem to have done nothing but cry ! My first three months I had terrible growing pains which were like period pains from hell, morning sickness was terrible, constipation was and is even worse, I had spotted 3 timees in my first 3 months , all was ok in the end but still very anxious times. You name it I have had it. I am now in my 21 weeks and have my 2nd scan tomorrow. I just want to enjoy being pregnant, and as plus sized mom to be, I am not even showing and noone can really tell that I am pregnant anyway, so I feel cheated ! I am finding maternity clothes for a size 26 impossible to find ! My poor fella has put up with so much, I just want to laugh and smile and not feel so anxious about everything ! I feel like I have lost myself somewhere in all this and would like to come back ! No one ever tells you that pregnancy can be hard !
2006-11-16 01:08:18 · 30 answers · asked by Neilsbaby 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I totally feel your pain. I am also 21 weeks (as of today, actually) and have already had 3 ultrasounds due to spotting and cramping. I actually had a miscarriage back in April, so every little thing that goes "wrong" freaks me out. I am also larger than average and people really hurt my feelings when they say, "Well, I can't even tell you're pregnant." I feel like saying, "Gee, so you just think I'm always round and swollen huh?". Emotions are really crazy things...you may feel like crying and it comes out as being p*ssed off at your mate. I actually had to be in the hospital overnight just 3 weeks ago because I was dehydrated, anemic, spotting, and have placenta previa. However, all that said, this is my 2nd pregnancy, so I know the outcome after all the bullcrap will be a good one! Everyone acts like pregnancy is supposed to be a joyous time, and it is a happy thing to know you are going to have a baby, but it's not an easy road for everyone. My advice is this: if you feel like crying, do it...get somewhere by yourself and let it all out, scream, cry, whatever you want. Find a time when you're not too overly-emotional to talk to your man and explain that you may say and do things that you would not normally do because you are emotionally crazy right now, and apologize for these times in advance. I'll be thinking of you and hope everything gets better for you!!! BEST OF LUCK!!
2006-11-16 01:26:20 · answer #1 · answered by rdnck_grl_ms_007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pregnancy is hard. I didn't enjoy my first pregnancy very much because I was so worried all the time and my morning sickness didn't let up until 25 weeks. Now I am pregnant for the second time and really enjoying it. I wasn't as sick and I wasn't sick as long. Now I'm 23 weeks and really like being pregnant. It's different for everyone, though. It does really help to have clothes that fit you and are cute. I wouldn't know where to refer you for plus-size maternity clothes, except you can make a pair of pants fairly easily from a pair of pants where the legs fit you and just put a belly panel in. I hope you find some cute clothes and start enjoying your pregnancy more. Maybe your ultrasound will help you start to enjoy it more. Buying baby things is really fun, too. I love washing and folding tiny clothes. Maybe that would help.
2006-11-16 01:35:48 · answer #2 · answered by AerynneC 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're not showing you won't need maternity clothes, I've been pregnant twice & both times I stayed in size 10 (uk) jeans apart from my 2nd pregnancy right at the end I went to size 12 as I was carrying twins.
You're right, no one tells you the horrible effects of being pregnant but that's probably because not everybody feels the same way. I didn't show with my 1st until I was 6months gone but I was fine with that, with the 2nd it was slightly earlier. I didn't enjoy being pregnant at all, apart from when the baby/babies kicked, that was magical. I felt fat, ugly, useless & so sick all the time.
You have to remember that whilst you may have been looking forward to the perfect pregnancy it's not what matters the most. Once your baby is born you will forget all about it & you'll have a happy healthy baby to think about. Of ourse take care of yourself, treat yourself when you're feeling down, get your hair done or just take a relaxing bath but the pregnancy is just the beginning, you'll have laughs & smiles by the truck load when baby arrives!
Good luck & I hope things improve for you!
2006-11-16 01:31:56 · answer #3 · answered by C Greene 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everyone is different. This pregnancy is bad but don't let it discourage you from wanting another baby. Your first pregnancy as my was, is very hard. I am a plus sized mom too and that doesn't help. It makes it a little more uncomfortable and for people to look at you and not even know your pregnant, is even harder. I am 26 weeks and people can now start to tell, so just hang in there. You might be making it harder than it has to be. Don't worry and just relax. Pregnancy can be fun, even more fun when the baby starts to move your belly all over the place.I wish you the best and hope you have a happy 3rd trimester and a easy labor.
2006-11-16 01:22:02 · answer #4 · answered by mamato5Boys 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did not start enjoying my first pregnancy until my second trimester. We had the ultrasound and saw the baby (he actually looked like a baby), the heartbeat and the dr. said everything looked great. I sort of began to relax a bit. Thing is I never stopped being anxious. I think that is just part of being pregnant. You want everything to turn out ok. Also I stopped having morning sickness. I regained my energy. Everything seemed lots better. Now with my second pregnancy I eased up a bit. But still wanted to make it to my 20 week ultrasound where I could see the baby. Count the fingers and toes. See that everything was developing correctly. If you do not have, buy a pregnancy book so you know what is going on each month. Also sign up with babycenter.com. I loved getting weekly emails from them. Good Luck!
2006-11-16 01:15:03 · answer #5 · answered by jakenjennasmom 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pregnancy is so hard. We've been conditioned to think that we'll be glowing and cute and love every minute of being pregnant. But not everyone does. I sure didn't. In fact, I hated being pregnant, all 3 times. Morning sickness, being so incredibly bone tired you can never get enough sleep even if you tried, heartburn, and in the end being so big that you are so uncomfortable....all things people tend to gloss over when discussing their pregnancy. But you know why? Because the end result is so WORTH IT. They gloss over it because they forget, and don't care anymore once they see and fall in love with their baby. The love you feel for your baby is like no other, and will make even the most trying pregnancy seem not so bad once you look at that sweet little face.
Pregnancy doesn't last forever, and I'm not even going to say "try to enjoy it" because you just may not. But I promise you, once you have your baby you will realize that you'd go through all of it again and more to see that sweet baby's smile.
2006-11-16 01:26:09 · answer #6 · answered by smllover 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh my Dear, pregnancy is hard. Your emotions are so out of whack right now and probably will be for several months after the birth of the baby. When I read your question my first thought to tell you was you will be happy when you start to show and people can see you are pregnant. But because you are already a large woman its possible that you will never show. That puts even more emotional upset on you right now. You want to share this with the world without having to TELL everyone. It would be so easy to say just be happy and you'll feel happy but I know that it doesn't really work like that. But do try to smile, smile as much as you can, it WILL improve your mood. And keep this thought in mind, I know lots of women who become skinnier AFTER their pregnancy than they were before. I was not one of those lucky ones, but maybe that will be you. Good Luck to you.
2006-11-16 01:15:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pregnancy is hard however, you have too make the best out of it. I know how you feel, I recently gave birth too my son on Nov. 2nd. Being pregnant was a big challenge for me because I was sick as hell, the first trimester. It was so bad that I was considering having an abortion. But I hung in there and it went pretty quick.
Just be patient and try to enjoy it because when that baby comes out it is sooooooooo worth it. I love my little boy to death, and I am happy that he is here and I would probably do it again.. Good Luck to you and believe me things will get better.. When your unhappy it affects the baby too....
2006-11-16 01:19:15 · answer #8 · answered by Vicky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have 2 children.....my son who is now 10....was the easiest pregnancy....i did everything i was supposed to....i too am a plus size girl...i made sure i ate well and stayed active...it was the best pregnancy because for once in my life i felt i had a reason to be big.... i have a daughter who turned 1 a few months ago..... it was the pregnancy from hell....i was nauseous the entire time and had the worst heartburn....all i wanted was comfort foods...it wasn't good...i wound up gaining 40 pounds with her and only 10 with my son...and actually when i left the hospital with my son i actually weighed 20 pounds less then before i was pregnant...i attribute the difference in pregnancy to the gender of the child.....baby girls are much harder...jk...but it seems that way....try to stay as healthy as you can...i know its hard.....just remember to get through the next few months the best you can and the reward will be worth it at the end of the day!
2006-11-16 01:17:37 · answer #9 · answered by michelleleea2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no no one does tell you do they!!!!
i know how you feel and i think you would feel this way even if you wasn't a plus size, this is baby number 5 for me and i am hating every minute of being pregnant here i am 22weeks still have sickness the worse pmt Ive ever had bad back every thing hurts........ i wont go on you get the idea!!!
i have more good days than bad now, i still cry at nothing but am learning to smile again.
it will be worth it when the baby comes babe trust me once you have your bundle of joy in your arms you ll forget how bad it was and before you know it be planning baby number 2 !!!!
are you gonna find out the sex?
i did this time around just to cheer me up!!!!
2006-11-16 01:13:11 · answer #10 · answered by mum_2_many 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋