me and my mom argue like every day yesterday me and my sister were fighting and she told me that im not going to be able to go out till i change i didnt even do anything to my sister i closed the door and she started crying b/c supposebly i shut it in her face when the door only shut in 1 direction which was toward me wat should i do to convince my mom to start letting me go out again? me and my sister have had bigger fight and i never got in truoble im 15 and shes 8 fixing to be 9 and im fixing to be 16 wat should i do?
2006-11-16 00:57:38 · 12 answers · asked by love hurts but its worth it 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
i used to fight with my sister ALL the time. actually, she's 9 and i'm 15, so the relationship is probably very similar. When i started making an effort to hang out with her, and do stuff that she liked (and i could endure) she didn't feel quite as desperate to be around me every second of the day. Kids that age are very sensitive, they're having wierd growth spurts, and friendships are starting to become more intense at school. Be there for her, show her that teenagers are not just "big and mean". maybe you could talk to your mom, since she's not letting you out until you (I'm assuming) act kinder to your sister. ask her for advice about what you can do to be kinder. She'll love it that your asking her for advice, and hopefully it will help ease some of the tension. See if you could be given a reprieve from your grounding to take your little sister shopping to HER favorite store, or something like that. Just remember, she's 8, she may be getting on your nerves, but she may not even know why, because she's so little.
good luck!
2006-11-16 07:52:53 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know EXACTLY how you feel! I'm 14 almost 15 and my sister is 8 as well. I always have this problem, and there's really not much you can do except for change. I haven't mastered it yet. But I have tried almost everything and that seems to be the best. Sometimes I try to help my mom see my point of view and tell her what I think would have happened if it wasmy sister "slamming" the door in my face, though I don't suggest you do it after a heated fight because then you'll both end up screaming.
2006-11-16 11:40:06 · answer #2 · answered by Alex 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its time to change then huh?
You are 15 fixin to be 16. This means that you are starting to become an adult. Unfortuanately you are not acting like an adult, nor are you trying to learn how to act like an adult.
The best teacher in the world right now is that lady you argue with every day. She is really worried about you. She thinks that you are taking as a role model, your friends. She wants you to grow up to be the great woman that you are destined to be, but sees you going down the wrong path.
There is an old saying that goes, "Broke people take advice from broke people. Rich people take advice from rich people."
This applies here in that you are currently learning how to be an adult from your friends.... the kids who are also trying to figure out how to be an adult. Your all broke. And you will stay that way until you start taking advice from the adults.
So, how do you change? Spend time with your mom! Take and interest in what she is doing, allow her to take interest in what you are doing. Buy HER an Ipod for Christmas, and choose music together. Take her to the mall, the coffeshop, anywhere that you two can be together.
Oh and your little sister? She will probably have to tag along. Part of being an adult means tolerance for distractions. Besides she is trying desperately to learn how to be a teenager (which is why she wants to be with you all the time), and you are the one with all the info.
So embrace the challenge and change for the better.
2006-11-16 02:14:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Grow up-do something to make your mom proud and show her you love her. Being a teenager is a constant up and down with parents-you make it worse by not thinking before you act or speak. Mom loves 'ya-wants the best for 'ya-and expects you to start behaving like the adult you will soon be. About the door-it's not about the direction the door swings, it's about you shutting her out in anger-bad move for family unity. Trust me-mom will always be there no matter what-take a deep breath and reevaluate your actions and how YOU can make things better for everyone. Lil sis will catch on and if you set a good example, things will be easier all around.
2006-11-16 01:07:21 · answer #4 · answered by mom is a freak 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try having a conversation with your mother instead of an argument. Next time you begin to argue with her, stop and listen to what she has to say.
You are the older sister, so you need to make it a point to lead by example and treat your sister with respect. It may be difficult to deal with a young sibling because they are not mature enough to have an intelligent conversation about something, but it's time you make an effort.
The answer is simple. Stop fighting about things and try talking about things, working toward a compromise, learning from situations. Sit down with your mom and ask HER what you need to do to show her you are responsible and mature enough to deserve the opportunity to go out.
2006-11-16 02:26:06 · answer #5 · answered by Phoenix, Wise Guru 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a friends folks who are willing to take you in for a semester and have some time apart. Your on each other too much. We used to take in teens your age when the parents made it impossible for living in the same house. The rules were no drugs, continue your school work, if your grades slipped you had to go back home, or graduate whatever came first. It was strict but it worked and they eventually could at least talk to their folks again without fighting.
2006-11-16 02:52:53 · answer #6 · answered by Tapestry6 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol....did you mean that your mom cried when you shut the door in her face...that's kinda funny. I'm 19 and my sister is 8 almost 9 so i know how annoying they can be at that age.....Here's what ya should do swallow your pride and tell your sister your sorry. and then do something really nice for her....(make sure your mom sees you doing this). You don't have to mean it just fake it.....8 year olds forget and forgive very easily
2006-11-16 03:25:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop fighting it is obvious it is driving you guys crazy apologize and start acting responsible why are you fighting with an eight yr old anyway walk away from her. your mom is looking at you to be the example for you little sister. Sometimes it sucks being the older one but if you want your freedom you are just going to have to deal with it.
2006-11-16 08:41:08 · answer #8 · answered by chiefs fan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
spend more time and attention with your sister on age appropriate growth oriented projects together and talk to her about the things you aspire to do and let her know you will share with her your experiences thereby making a bond that she will rebell less against when you are doing something without her.
2006-11-16 01:06:01 · answer #9 · answered by foulweathercatcherman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its simple stop fighting.
2006-11-16 01:02:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋