Seems fishy to me!!!?

Question

My husband is always late coming home from work...he says he's talking to the guys from work/drinking a couple beers or he stops in the stores to look at things he is needing, the traffic is really bad etc. etc. Seems kinda fishy to me and wondering if anyone else would think this is normal???

Answer 1

Well, I wouldn't jump the gun here. My husband really doesn't have a set time to come home (since he works on the road some) however there are times when he leaves the shop and isn't home until two hours later (we live ten minutes from his job) he is a gabber mouth, he can talk to anyone forever. (My middle daughter gets this from him because she is often corrected at school for talking) Tell your husband that you miss him an awful lot, and if he could cut down on hanging out with friends after work maybe twice or three times a week. You still want him to have some "relax" time but you want to emph that you want to be with him, too.

Answer 2

Question #1 is why do you not trust your husband? Has he given you reason to doubt his word? Are you a nagging wife? Do you have to know his where abouts every second of the day? This kind of behavior leads to marital problems because no one over the age of 12 likes anyone to need to know where they are every moment of the day. It's known as freedom. Would you like it if everytime you went out the door or got up form the couch your husband said where you going? It might be nice for a short time but after a while you would get annoyed like you had no life. Maybe he finds things to stop him from coming home because you nag him as soon as he walks through the door about where he has been. Try saying Hi how was your day and giving a hug. Then let him unwind for about 20 minutes before putting demands on him. I work all day and the worst thing my kids or husband can do to me as soon as I walk in the door is say whats for dinner or where have you been or why are you late? It just makes me feel like I cannot make a move without someone else having the controls. Many times I go to the store and walk around for 1/2 hour just to be by myself and unwind.

Answer 3

How late is late? are we talking minutes ,hours, minutes could be just traffic shooting the breeze after work to unwind. he may just need to unwind after work does he have a stressful job? Do you have kids and when he gets home do you immediately bombard him with how your day went instead of asking how his went and giving him a chance to sit down and relax at home. Try having a cold beer waiting when he walks in the door sit down and ask how his day was if he wants to talk fine if not leave him be for 30 minutes or so just to unwind. I know when I come home from work my husband who is ill and not working wants to talk and I just want to relax for a minute. Now if this all is already in place or you try and it doesn't work then I'd check upon him have a friend he doesn't know go to the bar where he says he stops off to see if he's there and with who. Sometimes our suspicions are founded other times not, my hubby used to always stop at "the watering hole" with a couple buddies after work for an hour it was frustrating as I was home with the kids then and missed him all day and couldn't understand why he didn't rush home to me. he said he just needed to relax and talk about work with the guys for a few and then he'd be in a better mood when he got home. We talked about my feelings on this and came to agree on certain days for him to do this so I wasn't just waiting on him I could start dinner later also. I hope he's not doing anything wrong but don't jump to conclusions unless he has given you a reason

Answer 4

well i don't know him and don't know if things are any different at home but my suggestion to you is to not stress over it. if he has given you no reason not to trust him why start now. i mean for the last 3 weeks my b/f and i have spent like 1-3 days together each week as he's been on the road the whole time but i don't worry about what he could be doing or what could be happening as i trust him. if you trust your husband then believe what he's telling you. if you guys have an anniversary or there is a birthday coming up then he could be planning a surprise for you or he could be getting you your christmas stuff early rather than waiting till the last minute like alot of guys do. don't assume the worst. give him the benifit of the doubt.

Answer 5

When a man doesn't come right home to see his wife much of the time there is a reason. Take your own inventory, if you can stop taking his long enough to do so. What is his experience with you? Are you sweet to him, or a b**ch? Do you encourage him and compliment him or do you have an adversarial (me vs. him) attitude? Does he walk in to find you topless and waiting for him? Are you even interested in being the focus of his sexual attention? If not, I suggest you try wearing a see-through top next time he walks in the door from work. My guess is he'll be on time the next day. ;-)

Answer 6

Any sudden change in behavior is fishy. You know your husband's routine better than anyone. Variations like that are usually suspicious and need to be looked into. You know the distance between your house and his work, so check the mileage on his car. Wait at his work one day and follow him. See where he goes. It's sad that people have to resort to methods like that, but if there weren't so many liars and cheaters around it wouldn't be necessary. Good Luck.

Answer 7

Well look for more signs...like..does the phone ring and he rushes to answer it and talks in another room so you can;t hear? Does he put on cologne where normally he wouldn't? Is he focused more on his appearance? Does he come onto you anymore? How is your sex life? How is your communication? Why not, just one day...get into your vehicle and follow him after work...if you have kids..bring em with ya say you are going to McDonald's or something...I'd follow him.....to see! Or have a friend follow him....
I would be suspicious....and I'd also call his work place to see if he was really there!

Answer 8

If all he is doing is coming home late, there is nothing you can do. Is he still treating you right? That's the important question. You don't want to seem like the crazy wife that thinks your husband is screwing everything that moves. It's a little deceptive, but if you ask trick questions, you might get your answer.

Answer 9

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Answer 10

If he gives you reason to doubt his honesty/loyalty then there is probably something fishy going on. Do some research of your own or hire a private investigator. Don't wait until it's too late.