you found out your spouse had cheated and now there is a chance that they have HIV? Would you stay with them if they test positive? Would your love for your spouse and the vows you took keep you together? In sickness and health?
2006-11-15 23:52:29 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We have used protection since the incident has happened so I don't believe I have anything
2006-11-15 23:58:11 · update #1
I love him and I have forgiven him for cheating. I believe he is the one God has intended for me to spend my life with.
2006-11-16 00:07:09 · update #2
This depends entirely on your capacity for forgiveness, compassion and acceptance.
You would not be able to sustain this relationship without forgiving your spouse. You would not be able to forgive without allowing yourself to express your own anger and fear. (What if you're sick)?
If you believe your marriage is worth saving, then both of you would have to agree that as hard as you know it will be to work through this, you still want to be together.
It would take an amazing amount of commitment to make this situation work, but I believe it could be done. Good luck to you both.
2006-11-16 00:00:51 · answer #1 · answered by Firespider 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No I would not stay with a cheating spouse. They broke their marriage vows when they cheated. If they tested positive for HIV, I'd tell them so help me God I better not have it too. If I did I would curse them to burn in hell. This is MY life too and I did nothing wrong to have this happen to me.
2006-11-16 07:58:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm scary. First of all in sickness and in health doesn't apply when the sanctity of marriage is broken by infidelity. Spouce cheated and contracted HIV, and you are trying to tell yourself because you have tested negative now, you are comfortable? HIV can remain dormant and inactive for several years before you test posative. But that doesn't matter..what matters is the spouce jeopardized your safety by carelessly picking extramarrital partner(s).
I wouln't stay. Those VOWS are not meant to be taken lightly and so did your spouce think of the vows while the cheating was going on? No...so why consider it in your decision...?
2006-11-16 08:56:25 · answer #3 · answered by Lynda H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question is.....are you the one God intended for him?? Are you sure that he only cheated one time? Why didn't he use protection? If he didn't care about himself, he should have atleast considered you when he was being so thoughtless. Love is very powerful and most things can be forgiven. Remember the golden rule...once forgiven, always forgotten and never to be brought up again.
2006-11-16 08:37:50 · answer #4 · answered by Lori 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For one the mere fact of cheating against you is a big no no. Second, him having HIV and still likes to have sex is you is so wrong, very selfish of him knowing that he may infect you, dangering your own life, is unfair to you. It's like you got fooled once now you're getting into another serious thing that might in danger your own life. You have alot more in life he does not, there are alot of men out there that will respect and be true to you. That HIV might have been God's own way of punishing them don't get punished yourself too you're Innocent here.
2006-11-16 08:36:43 · answer #5 · answered by macky boy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell no. He got his sickness from breaking our vows it was bad enough that he cheated but to get hiv too. Staying with him would be out of the question.
2006-11-16 07:57:44 · answer #6 · answered by happy_cute_mom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That would be a very tough question. First, they cheated, second they contracted HIV, which could very will end you life.
I personally would seek counseling on the matter, and medical counseling also, and then make a well informed decision. However, no one knows what is in your heart. You will ultimately have to do what you think is best, not what we think.
2006-11-16 08:04:16 · answer #7 · answered by mssgtmidnight 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would leave him and not because it has anything to do with "sickness and in health" but because he broke his marriage vows to me to "forsake all others". I would find it extremely difficult to ever trust him again and because of this, I will always have trust issues with him.
Obviously having HIV isn't going to help matters either but that is not why I would leave. I commend you for staying with him after all this. You are much stronger than I would ever be.
2006-11-16 07:58:53 · answer #8 · answered by jdhs 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO!! He doesn't love you enough to respect you and he is putting your life in danger!! Why would you want to spend the rest of your life with something like that!! If you were meant to spend the rest of your life together, you wouldn't be using protection if you didn't have doubts about it yourself!! Get out and tell him to go to hell. Vows also say "keep her faithfully only unto you"...guess he missed that part!
2006-11-16 08:39:06 · answer #9 · answered by ceecee_41004 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow, that depends on how strong your love for the person is, I would have to say yes, because if I ever vowed to be with someone in sickness and in health or death do we part that I better mean it. I have been asked twice and turned them down because I knew I didn't love them enough to stick by them if they cheated on me. I have met one man I love enough to say those vows to, sadly enough he never asked. So if you truly mean your vows than you should stay with him,
2006-11-16 08:00:58 · answer #10 · answered by ladylunamina 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋