how to overcome fear?can you tell me steps to face fear in general?

Question

choronlogical steps to comeover fear in general and not a certain kind of fear

Answer 1

Fear in general is always generated from something specific. You can't just be afraid of everything. Think about it, there is something that provokes your fear, surely there is.

First step is to be clear what your are afraid of.
Second - to think of a way to come over it - to get some ones' support, to do it on your own... draw a plan e.g. - you are afraid of escalators (like my mom is) - you plan to take a friend, go to the nearest mall (or another similar structure) and spend hours on going up and down the escalators, where your friend's principal role is to make you not hesitate, but overcome your fear of stepping on it.

Last, think about yourself as a strong person, and imagine how many things you can accomplish once the obstacles fear creates are overcome.
Good luck!

Answer 2

(20 words makes this virtually impossible, so please don't count the info in parenthesis as part of my answer). I face them by realizing that I can pray for courage. Then I take small steps and overcome them. (Longer answer - Years ago, I was attacked in my front yard. My landlady was traumatized and could not leave the house after this. But I realized that I had to get on with my life, so I prayed about the situation and asked God to overcome my fears. Then I started to take small steps. By opening the door, By having people go with me at first, then by going out on my own. I now work in security!!)

Answer 3

I truly kow what you are talking about. I was afraid of fear, thus it was controlling me. I really do not know how it happened to me. I was fearful of going over a bridge, crossing the street, driving without anyone in the car with me. Just fear of anything in general, that I truly did HAVE TO FEAR.
Goodness, It was horrible......fear was controlling my life.
Choronlogical steps......each day, I would set myself a goal, of trying to overcome my fear of nothing. I started by going out of the house....
first walk a few blocks...always telling myself, you have nothing to fear....
then taking the car and driving it around the neighborhood, saying, each time,
nothing to fear....(well, later I did get a cell phone....that cured that)
I just mentally had to talk to myself, telling myself how silly this was to fear,
fear itself. I was doing it to myself.
It's easy for me to say, however for someone that has the fear, you really cannot describe the anxiety.
Everyday, like baby steps, I kept went after one fear, until my heart would not pound so fast, and I could do it. Naturally things we all do in life.....
It took a while.....just keep saying to yourself, this is okay, not to fear, and keep
your mind off the fear.....like walking, I thought about walking, not the fear of walking.
Baby steps.....little babies learning to walk, they fall, get up and try again.
It's hard, but can be done. Also ask your Doctor for something to help relax you...explain it to him/her. That will also calm you down, so it will be easier.
Hope this helps a bit.....and buy a cell phone..for when you are alone.
I made my brain think differently. Just shut that part off...Thought about what I was doing, that there was no need to fear.
Truly, truly this helps somewhat. Remember you are not alone. Use your fear to channel in other things....make it work for you, not against you.
God Bless you and throw those fears out of your life....(brain).
Actually, when my daughter got hit by a car, the fear I had, turned to focus on her......to help her. She is doing fine, that was years ago.
Typing too much, just trying to help you. If you were my friend, I would walk besides you every day, giving you strength to overcome fear of fear!!!

Answer 4

Overcoming progressively greater challenges on an ongoing basis is a way inoculating yourself against fear and the way the military trains it's special forces type "high end" combat troops. They also tend to come back with fewer complications from what can be the worlds worst job.

Answer 5

Wow you met your match here.
We all fear the unknown--we find comfort in what we know even if it is unplesant--we know what to expect
I am 53 and went to college at 40--talk about fear. But open up and talk to others--you will be so so surprised that they to have fears.
Open up--dont be afraid to express that and u will see I am right
First step is talk and the rest just falls into place

Answer 6

NOUN: 1a. A feeling of agitation and anxiety caused by the presence or imminence of danger. b. A state or condition marked by this feeling: living in fear. 2. A feeling of disquiet or apprehension: a fear of looking foolish. 3. Extreme reverence or awe, as toward a supreme power. 4. A reason for dread or apprehension: Being alone is my greatest fear.
VERB: Inflected forms: feared, fear·ing, fears

TRANSITIVE VERB: 1. To be afraid or frightened of. 2. To be uneasy or apprehensive about: feared the test results. 3. To be in awe of; revere. 4. To consider probable; expect: I fear you are wrong. I fear I have bad news for you. 5. Archaic To feel fear within (oneself).
INTRANSITIVE VERB: 1. To be afraid. 2. To be uneasy or apprehensive.
ETYMOLOGY: Middle English fer, from Old English fr, danger, sudden calamity. See per-3 in Appendix I.
OTHER FORMS: fearer —NOUN
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Lucy Van Pelt: Are you afraid of responsibility? If you are, then you have hypengyophobia.
Charlie Brown: I don't think that's quite it.
Lucy Van Pelt: How about cats? If you're afraid of cats, you have ailurophasia.
Charlie Brown: Well, sort of, but I'm not sure.
Lucy Van Pelt: Are you afraid of staircases? If you are, then you have climacaphobia. Maybe you have thalassophobia. This is fear of the ocean, or gephyrobia, which is the fear of crossing bridges. Or maybe you have pantophobia. Do you think you have pantophobia?
Charlie Brown: What's pantophobia?
Lucy Van Pelt: The fear of everything.
Charlie Brown: THAT'S IT.
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Everyone has an answer: confrontation, acceptance, knowledge, action, retreat. All the writers above have shown they have made some ground-break in their own personal choices and discoveries and I think each answer is valid in it's own manner. But in the end you must ask: "What am I afraid of?"

When I was a child I was terrified of dogs due to a bad experience, and that lasted until about 2 years ago. My wife & I adopted a labrador-mix (mutt) dog that was stray around our door which was friendly with the little dog my wife adopted; not beknownst to her, some days due to the biting I was feeling the same was as I did when I was a boy with the little dog. Only through personal assertion and reading did I learn how to handle that fear. As we created a bond with the little dog, we noticed he was constantly nipping & biting us. Only through understanding he was the lone dog (and sometimes think he's human) and needed a appropriate companion.

That's where the big dog comes in; she was stray and wandering around our apartment because we walked the small dog nearby, and liked walking, running or playing with him, even at a distance. So we decided and took her in, adopting her, cleaning, labelling and getting her checked by the vet. Now that she's grown a LOT bigger (she went from 16 lbs. to 56 lbs. in a year & a half and that's right for her breed) I lost the fear I once had for big dogs. I know her, let her bite at me, and she clamps down her teeth on me, but doesn't hurt me. My fear of the big dog is gone; when I hear one barking I know it's unsure of who I am, and am not worried. If I don't need to be near it then it can bark and I won't cringe or run. In fact, where some people give owners of big dogs a wide berth, I come closer, moving slowly, with my hand down, so it can sniff me and know I am not a threat. Not only did I learn from books but also from other owners, the vert and several of the stores we went to such as PetSmart & PetCo who's staff love animals to work in that atmosphere. Thus, these are MY steps in overcoming my fear of dogs and I hope they help you:

- Learn (think carefully whether tangiable or intangiable)
- Small steps (like my small dog)
- Questions (asking others)
- Practice to overcome (my relationship with small dogs)
- More connection (going to the dog park)
- Acceptance (having the bigger dog in my family)

If you're afraid of nuclear winter, global warming, the Rolling Stones (they're creepy at their age), youth (don't they all look like thugs?), zombies or deforestation, God, your family, the shadows, then I don't know what else to tell you or how to overcome these fears.

Learn, take steps, and see what you can do. If you can't do it alone, ask someone to go with you, someone who knows your fear, or seek professional guidance. Hopefully the links below will help you overcome what makes you unnerved and you'll feel less aprehensive.

Good luck.



Jaime

Answer 7

fear comes from lack of information and knowledge. If you see a snake you get fear. But if you know that the snake you saw is non poisonous, your fear will go off. Even if you know that the snake is poisonous, if you know that snakes donot bite us just like that as long as we donot disturb them, your fear will vanish. When we generally are afraid of snakes, snake charmers and people in the snake parks are not afraid as they have needed information with them. When one gets fear, best thing is to trace the root of the fear and get adequate knowledge about the issue.

Answer 8

1. What is the worst that can happen to you?
2. Be willing to accept it.
3. Improve on the situation if possible.

Fear is only a feeling. Become aware of your feeling.

Answer 9

Facing the Enemies Within

We are not born with courage, but neither are we born with fear. Maybe some of your fears are brought on by your own experiences, by what someone has told you, by what you've read in the papers.

Some fears are valid, like walking alone in a bad part of town at two o'clock in the morning. But once you learn to avoid that situation, you won't need to live in fear of it. Fears, even the most basic ones, can totally destroy our ambitions. Fear can destroy fortunes. Fear can destroy relationships. Fear, if left unchecked, can destroy our lives. Fear is one of the many enemies lurking inside us. Let me tell you about five of the other enemies we face from within.

FIRST ENEMY - Indifference

The first enemy that you've got to destroy before it destroys you is indifference. What a tragic disease this is. "Ho-hum, let it slide. I'll just drift along." Here's one problem with drifting: you can't drift your way to the top of the mountain.

SECOND ENEMY - Indecision

The second enemy we face is indecision. Indecision is the thief of opportunity and enterprise. It will steal your chances for a better future. Take a sword to this enemy.

THIRD ENEMY - Doubt

The third enemy inside is doubt. Sure, there's room for healthy skepticism. You can't believe everything. But you also can't let doubt take over. Many people doubt the past, doubt the future, doubt each other, doubt the government, doubt the possibilities and doubt the opportunities. Worst of all, they doubt themselves. I'm telling you, doubt will destroy your life and your chances of success. It will empty both your bank account and your heart. Doubt is an enemy. Go after it. Get rid of it.

FOURTH ENEMY - Worry

The fourth enemy within is worry. We've all got to worry some. Just don't let it conquer you. Instead, let it alarm you. Worry can be useful. If you step off the curb in New York City and a taxi is coming, you've got to worry. But you can't let worry loose like a mad dog that drives you into a small corner. Here's what you've got to do with your worries: drive them into a small corner. Whatever is out to get you, you've got to get it. Whatever is pushing on you, you've got to push back.

FIFTH ENEMY - Timidness

The fifth interior enemy is over-caution. It is the timid approach to life. Timidness is not a virtue (unlike humility--they are different); in fact, it can be an illness. If you let it go, it'll conquer you. Timid people don't get promoted. They don't advance and grow and become powerful in the marketplace. You've got to avoid over-caution.

Do battle with the enemy. Do battle with your fears. Build your courage to fight what's holding you back, what's keeping you from your goals and dreams. Be courageous in your life and in your pursuit of the things you want and the person you want to become.

Answer 10

How about starting with understanding as much as you can about what it is that you are afraid of. We can all to often be fearful of what we do not understand.