Torn Between Work Needs and Home Needs, what to do?

Answer 1

You two need to call a truce to the contest of "who works harder." Both of you work hard and both of you are stressed by it. Maybe the underlying message in your arguments is some resentment on your part about being the major financial support of this family. If that 's the case then the two of you need to work out a way to get past it or make it feel more equitable. As for your travel schedule, I'm sure that your wife does understand that this is necessary for your job, but it felt different when she was on her own without responsibility for a child.

Perhaps your wife feels anxious when she is on her own with the baby while you're traveling. It's normal for her to worry that she might get sick and be unable to care for the baby, or that something may happen to the baby and she'll have to go to the emergency room on her own. Your discussions about having a second child may be adding to this anxiety. She may feel that she can cope with one child but how could she possibly manage two with your work schedule and her business? How much childcare do you do now? Even when you're home, are you still working on your computer or making phone calls?

As for the lack of physical closeness and sexual intimacy that you have been experiencing, that is also common for couples with a young child. It's hard to feel amorous when you're too tired or are interrupted by a crying baby. It's even difficult to have time for a real conversation. This lack of connection with each other has led to more disagreements. If there's anger or resentment in the air then neither of you are feeling particularly loving towards each other. You need to find a way to break this cycle.

Answer 2

Your question can be thought of in many ways. And is not really too clear , one could answer this in many ways. In my situation , my hubby works a full 40 hrs a wk. plus.
The he goes back out after dinner and works his own personal business job. So this is how I am interptering your question. Everyone needs to work and also home needs get pushed aside due to the need of having to work. This too can be interpered this way.

Answer 3

1.Psychological question consult psychiatrist. Do not compare with anyone. Believe in God.
2.Time management problem. Do not be lazy, do your work in time without expecting reward. Keep some moments for yourself.
3.Economical problem –Plan in advance, if required pay some portion in the family by postponing your dreams. Compromise.
4.Carrier problem – Change job; leave job, request for alternative assignment to existing employer
5.Age problem –Drop some works or do necessary works
6.Co-operation problem – ask for co –operation & give voluntarily
7.Ego problem – Understand and solve
8.Servant problem –consult neighbors
9.Conveyance problem –purchase or share
10.House problem –Search another house
11.Loan problem –see Bank
12.Health problem –See doctor

Answer 4

We need to clearly demarcate our life between home and work. The best thing is never carry anything from office to home or from home to office. Both parts of your life are very important, you can't ignore either of them. Maintain a balance between them.

Answer 5

Remain torn, but go for repairs off and on.

Answer 6

Go for the home needs. You live at home and need things, other needs can wait.

Answer 7

Honey ... pay attention to work .. coz thats where the dough comes from . And it is very important to be financially independent , whether you are married or not.
House work ... divide with your husband/partner.
If he's staying in it he might as well work towards its upkeep. Please be firm on this.

Answer 8

THATS BAD. UR RIDING TWO BOATS SIMULTANIOUSLY IS DANGEROUS. THIS WILL TAKE U NOWHERE BUT SLOW DEATH AND U WILL LOOSE ON BOTH FRONTS. LEAVE ONE EITHER WORK HARD AND MAKE URSELF A SUCCESSFUL MAN OR STAY WITH FAMILY AND BE SATESFIED AT WHAT LEVEL UR IN.

Answer 9

stay at home and do things that aren't torn.

Answer 10

Everybody has to fulfill these needs.If you can not do the same,it is simpally your fault.