2006-11-15 23:09:04 · 23 answers · asked by sweet girl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I did. But if you are considering it, you have to think about all that comes along with it. The EX for starters! When there are children involved, the ex will be a part of your lives forever! Are you willing to deal with that?
2006-11-15 23:14:55 · answer #1 · answered by Sweetteach 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I did marry someone that has 2 twin boys. They are 10 years old. Their Mom left the house when they were 3 and their Dad got custody of them. I will say one thing. The kids are a world of difference since we got married. They haven't been disciplined much all of their life. When I used to come to visit they would be happy to see me. I would help them with their home work and some times make their dinner. But it is different now. I am here to stay. They don't like that. They don't like sharing the spot light. Their Mom has told them that they don't have to listen to me since I'm not their Mom. I try to be a good step mom...but their Mom calls me and lets me know they aren't my kids. I pray about this a lot and I try to bring harmony.
One thing I learned is you don't have privacy. The weekends that their Mom gets them doesn't always mean we get a weekend to our self. Their Mom will drop them off on a Saturday morning and ring the door bell. Then pick them up later. We are her cheap baby sitter. So you must learn to accept these kids as your own.
I'm just telling you...make sure you have a great bond with the kids. Maybe move in and take it for a test drive.
2006-11-16 07:15:23 · answer #2 · answered by hard rock girl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am not married but have been with my boyfreind for 3 years and we have an 11 month old daughter together and are expecting a boy in Feb. He also has 4 other kids ages 7,6,4&3. He pays child support for his daughter who is 7.His 3 boys ages6,4,3 live with me and him cause their mom no longer wanted them so he took them. So to answer your question yes I would marry someone who has not only 2 kids but 4 kids and have 3 of their kids live with us.
2006-11-16 08:45:12 · answer #3 · answered by Dixie H 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I did marry a man with 2 kids...and I have not regretted my decision. I did not have children and I love his kids like they were my own. I knew when I started dating him that he was a package deal and I married him anyway. It's been 13 years and still no regrets. Sure it wasn't easy at times, but we worked it out as a family. The kids were both in their teens when I met him...but I really wish I would have met him when they were younger. At least this way I have grandchildren without having to raise kids of my own! hehe!
2006-11-16 07:28:41 · answer #4 · answered by auntcookie84 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are in a realtionship with this person and would marry them if they did not have kids, then marry them anyways. Kids are part of this person and will be. If you cacn handle not always being the #1 then go for it. Love is love and nothing should come in between it.
2006-11-16 07:17:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My son-in-law married my daughter, he was 29 never married, she was 34 and married for twelve years, three kids. I asked him what was his reason, I told him he was nuts. He said he loved her and the kids. It's been four years now, he's the best father I've ever seen, they just has twin girls. The three kids asked to change their name to his so they'd be all alike, they've always called him "dad" they no, no other. It's beautiful relationship, made in heaven.
2006-11-16 07:24:03 · answer #6 · answered by cowboydoc 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u mean who has 2 kids
n nyways y shouldn't u?
as long as he/she is nice and carring go for it n dont be shy about what other people would say. oh n y does it matter if he/she has 2 kids? don't u like kids? they r cool n when u get older your kids will care for u like u cared for them,i hope my advise is helpful oh yeah and i would marry someone who has 2 kids if they r what i just saidn oh yea uumm im tooooo young to marry im 13 so i dunno iffff that answer was correct i never experienced love properly!!!!lol
2006-11-16 07:13:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I did----I had 2 he had 2 = 4 then we adopted 2 to make 6
2006-11-16 07:11:09 · answer #8 · answered by aunt_beeaa 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Of course I would..and I did! My husband and I both brought our children into this marriage. It took a bit of work to unite us as one family but it was well worth it. We also adopted a daughter. Of all the gifts that God has given us....I think the heart is the best one of all. It has no limits to love.
2006-11-16 07:20:27 · answer #9 · answered by Lori 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, having kids doesn't take away from the person. I have children and am not with their father. Doesn't mean i am not a good person or that i am flawed but it just means theres extra love to share.
2006-11-16 07:11:40 · answer #10 · answered by mommyblues78 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋