I met a great woman recently, a friend of a friend. She was on vacation here visiting from new york. We really hit it off, but since then my father has been diagnosed with terminal cancer and here I sit at his bedside. She knows this. I'm not emotionally in a state to really pursue this relationship presently. On the other hand I don't want my lack of communication to put her off. Complicating matters, she lives on the east coast, I on the west. Between a rock and a hard place, for sure.
2006-11-15 23:02:35 · 8 answers · asked by ? 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
As long as she knows about your circumstances, I don't see any reason why you guys can't be friends first right now. Get to know each other over the phone or computer. It's gotta be difficult dealing with your sick father, but this long distance thing could actually be a blessing in disguise. A lot of people who have long distance (full-blown) relationships have to worry about the stress of distance vs. emotional attachments. It's either "out of sight, out of mind", or "absence makes the heart grow fonder". If you're just starting out as friends, there's no serious emotional attachment. Then, when you two are ready to be serious, you'll already have gotten to know each other, and making the transition from being friends to being a couple will be smoother. Good luck.
2006-11-15 23:20:44 · answer #1 · answered by dorky_goddess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really hit it off don't close any doors, Call her (your cell most likely has free long distance) e-mail her. Let her know that travel at this time is unlikely but, not out of the question depending on what the future holds.
And would your father want you so stop living? I think not. So if you are financially able, from time to time, try to get in a visit. Trust me, your father will not mind. He knows you are there for him.
All the best to you.
2006-11-16 07:19:49 · answer #2 · answered by Smurfetta 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well just keep in touch with her by phone or computer. That way she'll know your interested but I'm sure if she's aware of your fathers conditions she understands you just can't up and run to visit her. Who knows maybe you can talk her into coming back for another visit with you. ;o) good luck to you Hey I'm sorry to hear about your father, my mom passed away from cancer so I know how upsetting this is for you. ;o)
2006-11-16 07:10:45 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Travel can always be done----take care of your DAD 1st he's terminally ill you need to put him 1st and formost in your life. Email, telephone and do whatever communications you can with this person you're interested in. If it (relationship) is truly meant to be it will be when the time is right for both of you!
2006-11-16 07:07:34 · answer #4 · answered by aunt_beeaa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you make plans to see her again in the future if she's interested?
2006-11-16 07:04:38 · answer #5 · answered by tumbleweed1954 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
start going for morning walk on beach. you will get another. Be a man.
2006-11-16 07:09:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If she is so special, she will wait for you to be with your father!!!
2006-11-16 07:06:34 · answer #7 · answered by mustanglady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't really see a question here, so...
That sucks.
2006-11-16 07:04:48 · answer #8 · answered by Maxwell 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋