how lack of self confidence can be removed.?

Answer 1

Babby, Look at yourself! You have been a member in this Yahoo since July 2006. Yet the number of answers you have sent is just 4! Four. That is it. That describes you.

You read a dozen questions each day . You come across many points. Yet, you have not participated . because you feel that you are no good. If you wrote something in this yahoo others will laugh at you. You feel you donot know much.

Please start with the simple act of participating in this interesting Exchange of views. At the same time read how people like are sending absurd replies. That will give you confidence. That will draw you out. Start from today.

Answer 2

Self diffidence that is lack of self confidence is a result of insecured feeling. Conduct for yourself a swot [strength,weakness,opportunities and threats] analysis. You are the best one to do it for yourself or discuss it with a very understanding reliable person. Now you know yourself. Please remember that everyone has some area of self diffidence.Thus doubly armed shed your diffidence whenever it raises up. All the best.

Answer 3

Self confidence is confidence in the self, so first know who this self is, whom you want to have confidence on.

Let’s go within, be silent and still so that our self reveal itself to us amidst all the conflicting images of the self we have within our mind and be free of all the notions we might have about ourselves based on our past experiences.

In truth, our self is something very different from our physical appearance, our personality and even our mind; it is who we have been in all our lifetimes. It is our essence.

Once you recognize that you are much grander even than your grandest imagination you will be in certain awe of who you are within, and start respecting all that you are on the outside as it is simply an expression of all that you are within.

Self respect is the beginning of self confidence. Start showing confidence in your intuition, the choices you make, the desires you have and even the start whims, trust them and follow them. Begin with trusting yourself on small decisions and backing them up no matter what the consequences are. That way your self esteem will gradually increase to reflect a growing self confidence.


Finally, to put this knowledge into practice. Always stay in the knowledge is whom you carry within - Your Self.

Forget that you have low self confidence, instead ask your inner self to take over, your every choice and life situation, so every situation appears as a symbolic even created to teach you something while you are here on this planet.

Once you start viewing life from your symbolic sight you can start behaving as if you have complete confidence in yourself, follow your intuition so closely that it feels as if you following God’s word in you, which it really is.

And when you are completely relaxed and calm in every situation your intuition will be able to guide you through it with joy and élan.

Answer 4

You should focus on what you do or hope to do for your career. Learn and practice to become skilled in your chosen field. Continue to grow and learn, demonstrate your confidence to yourself and others while quietly doing your job each day in a stellar way. You will be amazed how your confidence builds when you know you are really competent.

Answer 5

trust yourself is a good start, because you have lost that trust is why you can be suffering from it, what you can do is every morning look into a mirror and say "i am (your own name) and today is going to be a good day for me" then at night before you go to bed again in a mirror say "i am (your name) and tomorrow is going to be a good day" eventually you will find after a little while things will improve. just remember to dwell on the psoitives in your life and not so much on the negtives.

hope this helps, and if all else fails just remember " I LOVE YOU"

Answer 6

you know how i got rid of it? i started attending the fighting class, it was in my school, very simple, just the abc's of self-defence system, and it was for free. but i really changed a lot!everybody noticed that, i started believing in my self, made lots of new friends, i didn't become a rude and impertinate bully, but it was like something got unlocked inside of me.and after we went on a 3 days ' hike...:) well, the conclusion - you gotta find some natural and easy environment, ok?

Answer 7

Self confidence is generated most often by adding up to your existing level of knowledge and powerof communication.

Answer 8

Just keep repeating this "Iam self reliant and confident and I can do anything I want" shorter version " I can do it", 100 times each morning ,noon,evening, before bed.

Answer 9

Everybody could do with a confidence boost sometimes, so to start with, here are a few basic tips...

1) How to Feel Good When You Need to-

Because self confidence and feeling good has a major 'hormonal' element, you can change the way you feel by re-living good times. If you can remember a time you felt really self confident, then excellent - use that! If not, then use a time you felt contented or happy. You could use a photo taken at such a time to remind you. This is just a start but an important one; taking deliberate control of your thoughts and emotions will have a huge impact on your self confidence and other areas of your life.

2) Beating Self Consciousness-

Too much self consciousness is the No.1 enemy of self confidence. The trick is keeping your attention off yourself when you need to. Here's how...

a) When you feel self-conscious, (you can usually tell because you start to feel anxious), choose something outside of yourself to focus on and study it in detail. For example: examine a door, look at the different textures and shades of colour, wonder about who made it and how and so on. The important thing is that you're learning how to keep your attention off yourself.

It is a good idea to practise this technique in private first. Just sit quietly, practising focusing firstly on your own thoughts and then deliberately focusing outwards onto a picture or piece of furniture.

b) Social self confidence can be difficult to find sometimes because it is unclear what you are 'supposed to do'. In this event, concentrate on what your purpose in the situation is: whether you're there to...

- find out if you like the other people present
- make others feel comfortable
- find out some information
- make business contacts
- and so on...

It's much more difficult to feel self-conscious if your mind is occupied with a task.

People are often most comfortable with others when working towards a common goal. The common goal of socialising could be making friends, the exchange of mutually beneficial information, expanding your knowledge of different types of people... it could be whatever you want it to be! The key is to have an aim.

3) Watch Out for Undue Criticism - Especially Your Own!

Have you noticed that people will speak to themselves in a way they would never speak to others? You know the sort of thing - you break a glass and it's "You stupid idiot. You can't do anything right can you?"

-Criticism that leaves the receiver feeling upset or depressed is rarely useful.

-Challenging your own assumptions about yourself and other people can really help build self confidence. Here's a few to get you started:

-Those confident-looking people have bad moments too - you just don't get to hear about them!

-If you feel under-confident, it doesn't mean other people can tell. They're often too caught up with their 'own stuff' to notice!

-If you catch yourself saying things to yourself like "I'm no good at anything" then rest assured, you're wrong about that. Everyone can compose a sentence, get successfully to the store, eat without choking and do a million other things. Negative thinking can make things seem hopeless when they rarely are.

-Don't let yourself make sweeping statements about yourself - in the long run it is this sort of thing that can really damage your self image. If this happens, say to yourself calmly and gently, "Hold on a minute, that's not true". If you can come up with some evidence that disproves the sweeping statement, then even better. It may take a bit of effort at first, but the impact on your level of self confidence is huge.

-Building self esteem is not just about thinking good of yourself, it's about not thinking bad for no reason!

-Just because you have felt bad about yourself in the past doesn't mean you're always going to feel that way. I have seen hundreds of people surprise themselves once they have learned exactly how to build confidence in themselves in such a way that it stays built!

-The important thing is to get away from thinking "Why did that happen?" or "Why do I feel this way?" and instead move towards "How would I like to feel?", "In what situations do I feel confident?" or "What do I need to learn in order to have better self confidence in this situation?"

-This change in thinking is so important that we devote quite a bit of time to it on the Self Confidence Trainer, our premium package for teaching the skills of self confidence.

-Persevere and don't expect everything at once. Really learn how to develop your self confidence by following the tips above and in the Free Self Confidence Course which we are offering you, and notice the small differences as they happen. Building high self confidence is a wonderful thing, and it's much easier than you'd imagine..

Answer 10

lack of self confidence ts not an easy thing to recover. you will need counselling, its best is to see a psychologist. just believe in yourself and you can do it.