Okay so to make this short... My husband when he was I wana say 17 but duno, now 20.... was with this chick right, shes gets pregnant after only being together 3 months and gets an abortion against his wishes. Then later after the fact comes to him saying she needs a lil ova a grand to pay for it... He gave her the money! He saw her like 2 weeks later having fun bowling.... He ended up comitting suicide and of course making it, he never sees or hears from her again... Except after he meets me! Last year he gets an email forwarded to him, and allows to me email with her telling him to leave him alone and wut not and that she needed to say sorry bla bla bla.... It went back and forth her telling me what a loser he is and how she smokes dope and does crack and wutnot. After that we dont hear NEThing from her.. Until now... She emails him on myspace saying "Im sorry" They end up conversating on Messenger! He told me about it... but heres the kicker....She has a kid! She says shes almost 2.
2006-11-15 21:47:55 · 15 answers · asked by greygirl06 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My husbands first thought it this kid is mine! I know that he has a lot of questions he needs answered, but is it okay for me to be upset, and to have asked him NOT to talk to her? Shes the scandalous type and I dont want her to be coming inot our lives an messing it all up and worse getting into my hubbys head with this is his kid bullshit! What do I do? Let him run his course with her and see what happens or stop it if I can? Andif I have to stop it, what do I tell my hubby?
2006-11-15 21:50:04 · update #1
sorry "ATTEMPTED" to kill himself... HE LIVED... obviously or else i wouldnt be having this issue....
2006-11-15 21:53:20 · update #2
and "she" lives in Germany!
2006-11-15 21:54:47 · update #3
He told me I would have to deal with the fact that they are talking... i know If I forbid it he would still do it behind my back.....
2006-11-15 21:56:05 · update #4
Is he with you or her, that is the question. As for the kid, he can establish paternity, or he can take responsiblitiy without it if he feels it is his child.
Either way, you need to decide if your marriage, your love for each other is strong enough to survive her being in his life again.
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She's in Germany? Then what the heck you worried about girl! I have never met a man big enough he could do a woman in another country! You're here, he loves you, she's not, and she is bad for him. If he wants to prove this child is his, that's fine, but no one says the mother is part of the package.
Calm yourself, be the wife you have been. Let him know it bothers you but you understand he has to have these questions answered. Then move on from there. Good Luck!
2006-11-15 21:51:23 · answer #1 · answered by Star 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is fine for you to be upset about things as this woman is claiming that her 2 year child is your husband's. However what you need to do is take a paternity test to find out if the child is infact your husbands, if its is not then all well and good and you don't have to deal with her but if the child is his then you are going to have to deal with this woman.
The thing is why is she only saying it now, why has it taken her so long, either way tell your husband to get it done and get it done soon. Once you know the results, and if the child is not his tell her to get out of both your lives
2006-11-15 22:17:40 · answer #2 · answered by Baps . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she a total loser, why is he even talking to her. She's trouble. Is there even a chance that the child is someone else's after all now he's happy and the money's long gone. She might be looking for a meal ticket out of the poor house. Tell him to get a dna test, pay her maintenance if it's his and get visitation rights. but you should think about putting your foot down because if it's his kid, they will have to talk and she'll probably want him back.
2006-11-15 21:53:10 · answer #3 · answered by Heather 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you both have issues that should be with a counselor, not here. This is altogether to much to conceive here.
I would be packing my bags until he made some commitments to me, you are his wife, not the other one. He shouldn't have had anything to do with this "pregnancy" which I would have doubted. It sounds like he was duped into paying for something he never saw or was sure of. He doesn't sound, to sound? to me. You'd better have some thoughts about this relationship if you want it to last, it sounds like it's on it's last leg now. Sorry but that's how I see it.
2006-11-15 22:01:35 · answer #4 · answered by cowboydoc 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If this child is his ....then he has the right to know, he has the right to ask and find out aswell.
If the child is his then you guys will just have to face up to the reality, and take care of the responsibilty.
Otherwise, if she is just contacting him for no reason, .....you need to nip it in the bud NOW........change email and messenger names, so she cant message him.
He is a married man now, he doesnt need to be conversing with any ex's!
2006-11-15 21:56:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm perplexed, your avatar is of a girl, yet you are the husband? i might tell her that that's incredibly irrelevant and that it makes me experience uncomfortable. i might ask her to throw those letters away. you're her husband now, and she or he needs to forget approximately approximately her ex. How precisely did this entire element ensue? Like, why did she initiate examining the letters. we are ya'll only sitting around at living house and breaks out those letters? prefer slightly greater data.
2016-10-04 00:48:07 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, someone is lying and you need get down to the bottom of the matter. i would not tolerate my hubby talkin to no other woman besides me, his mama, and his sisters. You are the wife and it is your duty to set the record str8 now, b4 it gets worse. Talking on messenger is absolutely unacceptable. Get him, girl!!
2006-11-15 21:52:22 · answer #7 · answered by MadameJazzy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes, he will. You have no option but to trust him with the issue. He must have learned his lesson by now. Have faith that he will choose you over her for the good things that you have been as a wife to him. Don't nag him, but trust him and be an ideal wife, so he will have no reasons to go to her.
2006-11-15 22:01:25 · answer #8 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ifully agree with star, be the wife you have been,support your man and dont let that B'arch get the best of you.Let him know that you'l b there for him and have him include you in all this caos. Good luck with this,wish you all the best.
2006-11-15 23:25:21 · answer #9 · answered by paulina83 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, just tell him you're not comfortable with him ever being alone with her.
you gotta move on, who cares what this chick has been doing. she has nothing to do with you.
just focus on you and your man, not this lame *** drama.
2006-11-15 21:51:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋