Im the one that always has to make the first move.I have talked to her over and over about being spontanious.We have no responsiblities like raising a family or nothing that would be a hastle for her to show some interest and frankly im tired to telling her that i would like for her to be sponanious.Its not going to happen.The appeal she had that way has just about lost its appeal to always have to be the one to start it and then you aren't sure she really enjoyed it..Does she need somene else and maybe myself as well to spice our sex life up?I have been dreaming of younger women lately but not sure its got something to do with desire,just want things to be like they used to be..We have tried almost everything that is new and suppose to be inspriring and it doesnt seem to work ..So what should I do ..Im tired of waiting for her to come around.Not that I don't love her but well I want things to be like they used to be,and its not going to happen so what shoud i do?
2006-11-15 21:27:04 · 9 answers · asked by Isy B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Sounds like you are sure that it's not going to get better. I'm not sure how old you guys are but, if you are in your 20s, there is still hope. Sex can get better after 30. If you are over 30, I would say that it's pretty hopeless. If you can not live with a crappy sex life then you need to consider moving on. You have no kids with this girl, so move on before you get stuck with a kid, and a prude. Sounds bad I know. It's the truth. There are plenty of good women out there, with active libidos. Don't waste your life on a prude. Let her find her an older man that doesn't care about sex. Move on bro!
2006-11-15 21:32:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't say your ages, how long you've been married. You do say you don't have kids.
Let's go from there. Women are not like men, they are not "spontaneous" as you put it. They do not jump in the sack and rip there clothes off waiting for you to take them to the highest heights.
It just doesn't happen this way and, what does it matter who start what? tell me it bothers you? I would never had five kids and had sex, waiting for my wife. She's like an old John Deere tractor (one lung er) I have to start cranking her up, slowly, it starts faster and faster, after awhile it's doing pretty good but still I'm not sure. Soon she's a running real good and I get what I was after. By the way, I've been married for 48 years. Hang in the youngster, you have to give 110% sometimes.
2006-11-16 06:11:47 · answer #2 · answered by cowboydoc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how old is she? maybe she is going through the the change or menopause. Ok if thats not the case however, you tell her what you want ie: ride this big.....or whatever. Maybe one day just for lunch yall can have some desert or something. Hmmm maybe you need to punish her tie her to the bed and dump your favorite ice cream (or make a sunda)e on her and slowly eat it off of her..... under that cold ice cream she should get hot! Ok if she ain't willing to do you don't do her! Tell her you want to watch her play with herself or something. You have got to be creative and bring the freak out in her or someone else will!
2006-11-16 05:40:05 · answer #3 · answered by Wendy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex starts in the mind. Have you tried some serious couple counseling? That seems like the only other alternative for you. I am sorry to hear this. Hope it works out for you. :(
2006-11-16 05:30:50 · answer #4 · answered by Isis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't make any mores and just do her right then and then anytime and any place. Sex in the snow is always fun.
2006-11-16 05:30:15 · answer #5 · answered by fed001001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
visit your doctor. women are more likely than men to have psychological reasons for not wanting sex and men are more likely to have physical reasons.
Try taking the pressure off... like for 2 weeks allow kissing but no tongue, for the next week allow tongue but no petting, for the next week allow petting but not "down there," fot eh next week allow petting down there but no oral, etc. gradually work your way back up and don't get ahead of yourself. eventually you will both be dying for it.
2006-11-16 05:33:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need a real woman, find inspiration somewhere else and let her come around on her own.
2006-11-16 05:35:11 · answer #7 · answered by yarisgp 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop obcessing on it.
be more spontanious and romantic.
allow yourself time to recover the doubts you are having.
its a natural part to being with someone.
but not the onl aspect.
focus on the possitive.
2006-11-16 05:37:54 · answer #8 · answered by missy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋